Hi love-dreaming, 我成日唔想返工是因為人事問題。Today I call sick!
I tell all my feelings to C6 but this time havn't cry but just always want to sleep & stay in the room,so probably he knows that this time is very worse situation。Then my C6 唔覺唔覺咁買D我鐘意嘅嘢(not expensive one)、好輕描淡寫咁問我如果唔做工怕唔怕boring (he knows that i like this job v much or else i won't stay for such long time, most of my colleagues with same year of experience had left)、佢攞咗好多去旅行的資料比我揀(係我唔些得駛錢,因為我好大可能辭工)、日日等埋我一齊放工、hold me tight when sleeping。我話比佢知若果我唔做工,除了親自教番两個小朋友外,重想咗D planning。佢立即幫我寫resignation letter,話比我知現在還可以養起頭家、佢重話:老婆,你知唔知其實你叻過個direct supervisor,因為你有個好老公,但佢重要養個就快退休的老公;嘩!我終於喊咗出來,亦知佢好support 我。
至於mid-life crisis,it is about confusion on life plan as what your hubby said 唔知做セ好。
U can also plan with him, e.g. develop some kind of hobbies, do something that he want to try in his younger age。
I read some books before but forget the name。Try to search some kind of psychology book。
Midlife crisis
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Midlife crisis is a term used to describe a period of dramatic self-doubt that is typically felt in the "middle years" of life, as people sense the passing of youth and the imminence of old age. Sometimes, transitions experienced in these years, such as aging in general, menopause, the death of parents, or children leaving home, can trigger such a crisis. The result may be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day to day life or situation, such as in career, marriage, or romantic relationships.
Academic research since the 1980s rejects the notion of midlife crisis as a phase that most adults go through. In one study, less than 10% of people had psychological crises due to their age or aging.[1] Personality type and a history of psychological crisis are believed to predispose some people to this "traditional" midlife crisis.[2] People going through this suffer a variety of symptoms and exhibit disparate behaviors.
Many middle aged adults experience major life events that can cause a period of psychological stress or depression, such as the death of a loved one, or a career setback. However, those events could have happened earlier or later in life, making them a "crisis," but not necessarily a midlife one. In the same study, 15% of middle-aged adults experienced this type of midlife turmoil.
Some studies indicate that some cultures may be more sensitive to this phenomenon than others. One study found that there is little evidence that people undergo midlife crises in Japanese and Indian cultures, raising the question of whether a midlife crises is mainly a cultural construct. The authors hypothesized that the "culture of youth" in Western societies accounts for the popularity of the midlife crisis concept there.[3]
Researchers have found that midlife is often a time for reflection and reassessment, but this is not always accompanied by the psychological upheaval popularly associated with "midlife crisis".[