he always need someone to feed him, otherwise he is not eating. we did try to let him to feed himself, but he just "play" with the rice. I don't like to waste the rice and also I don't want him to "play" with the rice (bad habit), so my maid or myself feed him again!!
I suggest that you may start to let your son to join in dinner or lunch with other family members. As babies are naturally curious and like to imitate others' activities since they are about 1 years old, this could let the baby to figure out how adults take their meals by themselves and attract him to imitate and learn. My daughter started by join-in dinner time with family members at around 1 years old, all members were busy to take meal themselves and my daughter took initiative to feed herself and couldn't wait to be feed (In fact, my daughter was feed full before the family dinner time, she still had appetite to take vetegatable or meat and was very interested in doing the same together with the family members). Be sure to make the whole process to be fun and praise your son when he make any little bit of progress to encourage him to try again and again.