Hi,
I have a long "heartache" and hope to share with moms:
Did you come across your child being teased by other
kids at school or the neighbourhood?
My tiger boy, born in May, is tall and overweighed. Other kids has been teasing him with words like 'pig',
'fatty' ....... about his outward appearance. They also
laughed at him for his cumbersome acts while doing
sports.
Since he started his primary education, he had encounter-
ed the same old situation. The school teachers had
advised the kids to be wise and should respect each
other. But the reality is - despite four years had gone
some kids in the school remained unwise. Some of them made fun of him until the school authorities
intervened. Some were worse; when my son warned
them that he would tell the principal or their class
teachers, they talked back! They made faces to
challenge him until my son shouted "don't you believe I
would wag and smash you like a yoyo!"
As a mom, I felt terribly upset when my son, in tears,
shared these daily encounters at school or playground
with me. The word "pig" had hurt us so much!! I
encouraged my boy to be strong and don't retreat to
these kids, that he should ignore what they said, as his
school counsellor had advised him. But he told me that's not effective at all; the others continue to tease him.
I suggested him never getting angry for their words or he would be reinforcing those teasing him. Just tell them he
did not like being teased and stop. Ask them how they
would feel if he teased them back. But my tiger boy
could not hold his temper. I could understand him.
I had reported the situation to the class teacher, like what I had done in the past years. The situation were better in the last three years as the class teachers would then
discuss in class about respecting each other and
understanding everyone is special. This year, the 4th
grade class teacher who's quite cool, simply referred
us to the school counsellor.
Counselling seems to be necessary, because my boy has
been telling me he does not want to go to school! Apart
from the teasing, he is not welcome to join football
match during recess, or basketball. While others run and enjoy, he was a bystander! In fact, he loves to run & kick hard on balls. Though he cannot play a nice shoot, should he be zapped with a happy recess then?! He was rejected and he dared not try to play. In his eyes, the school is
no fun and schooling is a negative experience.
To tackle the situation, we have been overseeing his diet,
but the health assessors who see him every year for
overgrowth advised he cannot be put on diet or his body growth will be severely hampered. We had tried efforts
to follow their suggestions to control his intake on carbo, but the result is not desirable. It's hard for him not to
take ice-creams when other kids had in camping. We do
sports with him, like badminton and we walk more. We
do home exercises with him too.
We know until the time he becomes slim, our tiger boy
has to endure the tease and humiliations which we have
no control.
We are Christians and we have advised him that he
should forgive those who hurt him, even they are also
Christians. We have told him it's not wise to put laws into his own hands. We have encouraged him to report to
teachers instead, and never mind about 'telling on' which others may say he's coward or childish. We have also
told him that our Godfather has made him different with His purpose. We will keep praying for him too.
Moms, you know, when I started writing the message,
my mood was really low and I wanted to share my pains & sadness. But now as I come to the end, I have
released my frustrations and I am experiencing a new
hope in my heart.
Thanks for spending your time to read and share!
Mom of Tamama
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