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大宅

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發表於 08-2-22 14:14 |只看該作者
今年1月底開始, 做左全職媽媽, 與老爺及奶奶同住, 他們都未退休, 所以都係平日晚上和假日接觸得多d

由生左bb 之後, 和他們一家人關係變得頗差(包捨老公)
都是因洗手, 親bb 等問題......發生多次爭執
最後我為左呢個屋企 最終妥協, 任由他們糟蹋呀b

但係自己心裡, 始終覺得好唔開心
奶奶又經常講一d 令人好唔舒服o既說話
如: bb 點會認得媽媽呀! bb 咁細個, 邊個湊過佢, 佢都唔知啦
事件一: 最近我買了一條新孭帶 回家, 她只會踩 呢d 咁複雜o既野, 俾我就唔用啦, 你睇下bb 喊呀, 佢都唔鍾意用...etc
事件二: 我同工人係到餵bb 食藥, 佢就不停係到講好 好fighting, bb 一見到媽媽就驚 (cos 由我餵呀b, 姐姐抱住)
事件三: 她好鍾意什麼都給bb 玩, 包括dirty 的公仔 , 自己抺過咀的紙巾, 有指甲鉗掛著的鎖匙, 信件...等
她給信件bb 玩, 我叫停了她, 跟她說好容易插到眼, 她不停說不會, bb 識保護自己. 我便跟她說 bb 得幾個月大, 不能控制手&腳郁動, 真係好危險, 你可以試下, 真係真係會插親眼

可以告訴大家她是一位小學老師, 但我絕對不明白, 為何她會如此無知
衢生常識 - 無 (出去買完送/ 整完肉食, 不洗水 就搞bb 對手. then 呀b 又食手.....)
尊重別人 - 無
安全意識 - 無

對住呢個人, 真係令到我好唔開心........
又唔可以搬走, 唯有死忍
同佢講道理, 又諸多辯駁.......好難溝通
唯肯做 就是不再係我面前親bb, cos 老爺自己病走去鍚bb, 結果bb 被傳染傷風
但有時都見到 呢兩公婆偷偷kiss bb


大宅

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發表於 08-2-22 15:25 |只看該作者

回覆 #1 tangyiu 的文章

I don't live with them but they are just living next door. Most grandparents are like that. Their 安全意識 is very low. Anything from their mouth is right. Things from your mouth is always wrong. Most grandma like to show off their ability. They always think that you are just a new mom and knows nothing about BB. They don't know that most of the new Moms read a lot of books. Grandma just like to use those traditional methods. I do agree that some of those methods are really good but not all of them. You said your 99 is a teacher, my 99 was a teacher too. I totally understanding your feeling. There is no way you can change them. However you can change yourself by thinking that they really love your baby. No need to argue with them because your are always the loser. If they did something wrong, you can have your husband to discuss with them. Since your are a Full time Mom, you still have a lot of time to teach your BB.


大宅

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發表於 08-2-22 15:27 |只看該作者
tangyiu
我好明白你既感受,不過我好驚訝你奶奶係受過教育既都係咁:;pppp:
我比你幸運,我都係全職媽咪,不過唔係同老爺奶奶住,但係我都係因為佢地兩個,成日攪到我地兩公婆唔開心,我宜家出街,轉頭再分享


大宅

積分: 3812


4#
發表於 08-2-22 17:31 |只看該作者
無錯 -- "由生左bb 之後, 和他們一家人關係變得頗差(包括老公) "

我唔係全職媽媽,但係同6299仲有叔仔一齊住,佢地d經典野真是一蘿蘿,我其實都真是心力交瘁,c6唔係樣樣都企係我個邊,佢係唔會開口"話"佢d屋企人。我對lee d衛生、常識等問題成日都感到好困倦,好多時都好谷氣,講出來又認為是我問題,我是罪人(唔知點解),亦唔會有人理會我。

我其實唔知仲可以捱得幾耐,我要返工都好d,見唔到的時間當"抹眼屎乾淨盲"


大宅

積分: 3708


5#
發表於 08-2-24 15:44 |只看該作者
我雖然唔係同老爺奶奶一齊住,但係同區,所以我都打算搬了,為的都是搬離他們,有藉口見少d:;pppp: 其實我都明白d老人家都係關心我地d後生,但係明白唔等於接受
PurpleSea你講得啱,d老人家永遠都覺得自己湊仔係最醒,我自問有咗之後睇既育嬰書,上既講座,係醫院上既course,所得來既湊仔知識一定比奶奶多,但係佢永遠都要話人地錯,係雞蛋裡挑骨頭 為咗唔想大家有磨擦,唯有見少d,但係佢成日話我地唔比佢見個孫 幸好我老公好體諒我,可以的話佢都會就我,為咗令佢開心d,都係個句,少見d,忍得就忍,當聽唔到佢講野,聽完之後都左耳入右耳出


大宅

積分: 2958


6#
發表於 08-2-24 23:32 |只看該作者
我都係ftm, 同6299一齊住
同你一樣, 我99以為自己凑大三件就好醒, 成日話我呢樣唔啱嗰樣唔啱. 以為自己好乾淨, 但我見佢有時幫bb換完片唔洗手就冲奶比bb飲. 所以好多時我都會面黑或者頂佢, 見到佢抱我bb我就唔開心

但而家情況改善左喇! 我覺得我放開左喇! 始終有99幫我湊bb我先可以出下街. 佢又日日幫我煲粥比bb, 分擔左我d工作, 有時又幫我凑住bb等我可以慢慢食飯.

如果唔太過份, 我都會隻眼同隻眼閉. 始終佢都係錫bb啫.

最重要係我唔想喺bb面前成日頂撞99, 我想佢喺個和睦既家庭入面成長. 我相信我要孝順我既父母, 我bb第時先會孝順我.


大宅

積分: 1215


7#
發表於 08-2-26 11:43 |只看該作者

回覆 #1 ellenlabelle 的文章

唉! 根本無可能同老公o既父母頂撞咁多
唯有裝聾扮啞.....
我已經好累, 唔想再同佢地嘈, 為左呢個家唯有啞忍! 而且老公根本係偏幫呀媽, 佢同我講如果我同bb 係呢個家生活得唔開心, 索性叫我地兩母女搬走, 真係唔想見到我為左佢父母o既行為唔開心.....但從無講過我們三人一齊走
感覺我們不再是一家人

由佢講得離婚呢兩個字, 我就有晒心理準備, 隨時離開呢個家

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