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發表於 08-5-18 08:31 |只看該作者 |倒序瀏覽 |打印

Maid has been working with my family for 8 months. She knows that her main duty is looking after my 大細B & household chore. However she choses what she wants to do. The most important is that she still cannot get alone well with 大細B. I have reminded her many times & taught her how to communicate with little kids.

大B stays at school from 9am - 6pm, maid only send & pick her up at school bus stop & prepare lunch for 大B。
細B stays at home after school in the afternoon. (1) But once maid scalded 細B's hand with hot water & this has been witnessed by dancing teacher & mami in the dancing class. She did not report to me at once! (2) Flighting at home that we have no choice & asked the secruity guards to escort them to the lift lobby & waiting for my return home. (3) Yesterday, when they were staying at the dancing class, maid called me & said 細B hitted her but 細B called daddy & said maid hitted her.
(4) I found that 細B did not sleep well for the last week. Keep saying during sleeping: mama don't leave me alone, I am so scaring; mama where are you; 大B where are you; ....& even cry.
Actually, start from coming Sept, 細B also go to the same school with 大B & hence the schedule will be the same. That mean 細B will not stay with maid alone.

How to arrange in these 3 months?
Should I change a new maid? Even change, how to arrange in these time?

Could any mami give me some comment?

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發表於 08-5-18 08:49 |只看該作者

你兩個b幾多歲?
點解工人可以同你細b '打交' ?

你工人似乎唔識得點handle 小朋友.
我會睇番兩個小朋友幾大個,
如果仲係好細, 講緊2-4歲以下,
我會換工人,因為呢個期間的小朋友其實好rely on care-taker.
care-taker冇愛心或者唔識處理小朋友的行為問題, 都會令小朋友得唔到識當照顧 & 引導.

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發表於 08-5-18 13:41 |只看該作者

我贊成sweetcouple 的講法,留她多一分鐘即有一分的危險,我吾會博,小朋友的安全是最重要的.

原文章由 sweetcouple 於 08-5-18 10:16 發表
如果細b連發開口夢都咁多恐懼, 我有理由相信工人可能虐待佢(唔一定係打, 而可能係成日鬧, 或者精神虐待)。

三個月? 仲等??? 對一個小朋友的身心, 三個月可能影響一世!

炒啦~~~請褓姆又好, 鐘點又好, 唔好為左少 ...

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Agree

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mouth:
連發開口夢都咁多恐懼, 仲等? 吾好博啦 , 即炒!!

原文章由 sweetcouple 於 08-5-18 10:16 發表
如果細b連發開口夢都咁多恐懼, 我有理由相信工人可能虐待佢(唔一定係打, 而可能係成日鬧, 或者精神虐待)。

三個月? 仲等??? 對一個小朋友的身心, 三個月可能影響一世!

炒啦~~~請褓姆又好, 鐘點又好, 唔好為左少 ...

愛一個人的優點而誠心接納他全部的缺點，就是婚姻最偉大的地方。

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發表於 08-5-18 17:28 |只看該作者

多謝咁多mami的回應。Please excuse my poor chinese typing。

細B is 5 yr old. 細B has been said that 細B is always alone at the sitting room as bun bun stays either in the kitchen or in her room。Actually 細B is scaring of being alone ( i believe most children do). I encourage 細B to be brave & doing homework or drawing or listen to music。I also talked with bun bun how to get alone with kids. She has been written a statement in front of the agent to ask for apology from me of being scalded 細B's hand。
Since the flighting, i planned to look for a replacement, but it is hard to find a suitable one in such a hurry。Besides, for oversea maid, it take 3 months processing, & by that time 細B will go to school from 9am - 6pm & not staying with bun bun alone!
Furthermore, i am not sure is there any part time helper will come to my home at 8:30am & send my kids to take school bus. Then prepare lunch for them at around 11:30am. Such a awarful time! I still don't know how to arrange the kids in case there is long holidays, summer holidays is coming, or when the kids sick。

Thanks for sweetcouple's reminder that
唔一定係打, 而可能係成日鬧, 或者精神虐待
I have to check it out. These 2 nights, i let my kids sleep in my room。

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agreed! 擺到明個工人一啲愛心都冇, 請佢喺照顧小朋友, 成日"鼠"入房做咩?
試吓揾家務助理, 又或者屋企樓上樓下有冇啲媽咪可幫手睇吓.

原文章由 sweetcouple 於 08-5-18 19:57 發表
明知個細b驚一個人, 都仲成日留佢一個人響度, 而自己"鼠"入房, 我覺得已經係"精神虐待"的一種!!!

有冇part time肯, 就睇你有冇積極去搵同埋肯俾幾多錢囉......老實講, 多多錢我都制, 反正幾個月o者, 至少唔駛俾個工 ...

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可試下搵屋企附近有無媬"無"

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細b讀緊o個間學校有無全日班呀, 如果有就試下問老師即刻比佢讀全日先, 咁樣可以減低佢地單獨相處既時間....又或者, 有無屋企人下晝可以上黎坐係度, 等bun姐唔好咁串.

依家大前題係要calm down你個細b先, 如果再差落去, 你遲d就算請第二個工人返黎佢都未必肯接受的, 我覺得只要攪掂個細b, bun姐鐘意幾時郁都得囉.

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回覆 #1 靚媽唔易做的文章

呢個不止沒愛心, 根不太想有嘢做. 最好全日坐響度. 呢個工人做咗幾耐? 其實, 你現可以找嗰個, 申請時連同工人於agent簽下的信. 話不排除小朋友生命受到不必要的威脅. 應該可以不用三個月的.

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請乜人頂住先都好, 最好裝左cam先, 要收埋音果種, 裝多幾個, 如果細b一個alone太耐, 即刻call返屋企叫件蛋散死番出來. 如果唔係日抖妳lock佢房門, 唔俾佢入去, 夜晚做晒野至開俾佢.
講明時段俾佢整送咁妳可以預計佢幾時會o係kitchen.

同時間要著手急急找replacement了.

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咁既工人都唔炒??? 佢連最緊要既野都做唔到, 仲要係做得咁差...........請黎做mug呢? 仲要有個計時炸彈係屋企..........大人又驚, 細路又驚............

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我知每個人都有自己難處,我請過鐘點上門湊,就算做到7:00pm都唔係話即時請到,仲要好難請,但細B都5歲,點解唔搵D全日的學校,點都有D可以去到8:00am-7:00pm,暫托都得過啦,再唔係搵鄰居幫手,附近總有人肯湊(去人地家的話,總會有)...

我比較驚青,若我個B係咁驚,我會對我老公狠心D,搵唔到人就辭職自己湊...我好記得有次在小巴上聽到句"個小朋友有事,搵幾多錢都無用啦"

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發表於 08-5-21 00:07 |只看該作者

Thanks for all mami's great suggestions。

For the mean time, i strongly requested the maid to write a statement again。Although she did not willilng but finally she did write。 As mylulu007 mentioned, I set up a cam. I tell my kid not to be worry as mama can look at you through the cam。 I tell bun bun that it is to save guard that she really did not flighting with the kid。
The 2 statement maybe an evident to 申請時連同工人於agent簽下的信. 話不排除小朋友生命受到不必要的威脅. 應該可以不用三個月的. Thanks for Melody6's remind。

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發表於 08-5-21 13:56 |只看該作者

工人有問題

我個女5歲半, 就算發極脾氣亦有個譜, 而且唔駛兩o野就比我或姐姐 '耍' 走 (化解 or 轉移她視線到另外的事), 又點會攪到打交鬧交收場呀! 除非你個小朋友有特殊精神或心理問題, 如果唔係, 一定係工人啦!

By the way, 自己仔女最緊要, 呢個工人我一定唔留, 貼錢即刻送佢走. 反正小朋友 9-6 唔起屋企, 自己辛苦D都頂住先, 一面再密識人選囉.

[ 本文章最後由 anixon 於 08-5-21 14:01 編輯 ]

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原文章由 bbfish1992 於 08-5-21 00:07 發表
Thanks for all mami's great suggestions。

For the mean time, i strongly requested the maid to write a statement again。Although she did not willilng but finally she did write。 As mylulu007 mentione ...

寫statment咁又點，囝女受驚及唔想同工人一起就知道工人係好有問題，點解重要留佢係度！！　俾我即刻炒啦，錢搵唔曬架
但小朋友若心靈ｏｒ身體受傷係補救唔到架

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原文章由 bbfish1992 於 08-5-21 00:07 發表
Thanks for all mami's great suggestions。

For the mean time, i strongly requested the maid to write a statement again。Although she did not willilng but finally she did write。 As mylulu007 mentione ...

Hi bbfish
if i were you, i will look for a new one.

when you are preparing everything to fire her, be quiet and smart. treat her good and pretend nothing happen. if i were you, i will never ask her to sign any warning letter. this would be a warning signal to them that you are going to fire her.

good luck la!!

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原文章由 goldenmouse 於 08-5-21 15:15 發表

Hi bbfish
if i were you, i will look for a new one.

when you are preparing everything to fire her, be quiet and smart. treat her good and pretend nothing happen. if i were you, i will never ask ...

The maid seems improve a bit & works according to the schedule again, i guess because i set up a cam & check most often。My child is no more complaint。

On the other hand, maybe goldenmouse is right that the maid smell the firing signs。

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