Don't need to care abt your maid! Of course don't give her abalone la! I guess you will order abalone just enough for 1 each, don't need to order for the maid's one.
I can see that all my relatives and friends bring their maid out for lunch and dinner and order them a portion. Why not just ask their/your maid to have her own dinner at home first to save $?
Like my brother, he brings his maid out for dinner with friends, so maid can take care of BB. The maid just eat some noodles but his friend also asks for my brother to pay for the maid's portion (over $250 per person). Maybe I am too mean, but I will not bring my maid to eat good stuffs. My logic is the maid is here to work, not to 'tarn sai gai' or eat good food.
BTW, your BB is very cute and skin is very white! What a lovely 'jing ling' bb!
My 99 was also like that. When we eat dinner, my maid would take her own portion. My 99 said to my maid, "eat more la!!!", but there aren't much left for us. I then said, "You don't need to be so good to her!"