I think the most important thing between a couple is the communication, to face problem and to solve it, not to avoid it. My case is that 我隻佬 will avoid the problem, 最抵死, he does not think it is his problem.
Usually he will keep his mouth shut when there is any discrepancy. He would think that problem will be solved if he keeps silence. Ultimately, we go to seek advice from 明愛家庭部.
My point is that listening to a third party's view and idea on matrimonial problem is much better to think at dead lock. As 當局者....