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結果, 太99可能會搬唻同我地住

[ 本文章最後由 trintrin 於 08-7-10 14:24 編輯 ]

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原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-10 11:33 發表
結果, 太99可能會搬唻同我地住 :surprise:

Do you get alone with your 99's 99? If not, do you think you can say "no"?

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原文章由 IaMMoYY 於 08-7-10 13:32 發表

Do you get alone with your 99's 99? If not, do you think you can say "no"?

唔明你講 "get alone with". 不過我都想話"唔好", 但一想到她老人家住得唔開心, 9X歲人又真係須要人照顧, 咁真係唔知點算好..

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.........the same case as my 'grand 99'.
My 99 never lives with her 99. However, my 'grand 99' help my 99 to take care her kids (5 kids). My husband (and his brother/sister) live with their grand 99 until they went to pramily schoo. Then, they lived with their parent. And my grand 99 live alone. (My 62 is her only kid alive).
Later on, we find that my 'grand 99' is too old to live herself (when she was 80 years old). Then, my husband are forced to live with her. (Just like your case.......) One day, when my husband back home, he found that she sat on the floor...(fall down). Everyone said my husband treated my grand 99 bad (however, he need to go to work).......... It seems that it is my husband's responsibility to cake care of my grand 99..............
And my 99 said to my husband
' Your grandmother took care of you when you were a baby, so it is your responsibility to take care of her when she becomes old. ' .....................
Therefore, if possible, let your grand 99 lives in elders house.

原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-10 14:23 發表

唔明你講 "get alone with". 不過我都想話"唔好", 但一想到她老人家住得唔開心, 9X歲人又真係須要人照顧, 咁真係唔知點算好..

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原文章由 ac321 於 08-7-10 17:19 發表
.........the same case as my 'grand 99'.
My 99 never lives with her 99. However, my 'grand 99' help my 99 to take care her kids (5 kids). My husband (and his brother/sister) live with their grand 99 u ...

一模一樣, 太奶奶帶大4個孫(包括我C6), 最

我C6(因為係大男孫). 她同遺一在生的仔住, 即係同我99住. 依家她老人家終於唔想再tolerate(誰是誰非都不作評論)同很須要人照顧, 咁因為只有我們搬左, 所以以她年代的思想一定係我們接收. 唉, 相見好同住難, 銀糧更有限

. 她對我C6好好好, 所以我同意應該由我們照顧, 我提出由我們出錢請個工人照顧她, 但根據我老公講, 她唔想再同99住

, 依家我呀媽係我屋企照顧BB, 咁如果再多一個人, 又會多一份意見... 點算

. 老人院她一定唔肯去..

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my husband also 係大男孫, and my 99 'throw' my grand 99 to him.............
It will be in big trouble because........ if she get sick, accident..... all families (62,99, your husband's brothers/sistie) will believe it is your careless and haven't take care of grand 99. Later on, all other families will think it is your responsibility to take care of grand 99 only. And finally, your husband will be the 'worst' grandson........
My experience tell me..... you may rent a flat and employ a yan yan to teke care of grand 99. Then, you share the expend =>for example, 10k expend, you 4 grandson share, i.e. 2500 each family.
Tell the truth, I don't know why my 99 haven't got any responsibility to my grand 99. My grand 99 help her to take care of her kids ...... and now, my 99 haven't got any responsibility to her 99 while my husband got responsibility to both his parent (99 62) and grand 99......

原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-11 11:06 發表

一模一樣, 太奶奶帶大4個孫(包括我C6), 最我C6(因為係大男孫). 她同遺一在生的仔住, 即係同我99住. 依家她老人家終於唔想再tolerate(誰是誰非都不作評論)同很須要人照顧, 咁因為只有我們搬左, 所以以她 ...

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原文章由 ac321 於 08-7-11 11:23 發表
my husband also 係大男孫, and my 99 'throw' my grand 99 to him.............
It will be in big trouble because........ if she get sick, accident..... all families (62,99, your husband's brothers/sistie ...

我都係咁think, 自己都有老的一日, 己所不欲, 勿施於人. 點解唔識感恩?? 你對街外亞婆都客客氣氣啦. 不過, 有幾多個會好像電視劇袁詠儀咁丫. 所以我對太奶奶好好, 因為無她的悉心照顧, 我c6就唔會咁好地地.

學我c6的話, 自己想點做到咪做, 要求人地點就唔好喇, 所以, 話租屋請工人平均分就無可能, 但要我們全出就更加無可能(最平都要$8000/月). 唉, 真係唔知點好..

我們咪又係, 6299要我c6比家用, 我真係想問咁你又曾幾何時比過家用/零用錢你亞媽/99, 真係一國兩制囉.

咁你結果係咪仲係同你99個99住??

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I think 最平都要$10000/月 => 4k for helper's salary, 3k for rent, 3 k for living expend......

My grand 99 live with my husband (we haven't get marry at that moment) for almost 10 years. And one day (she was almost 90 years old), she fall down at home (my husband went to office) and everyone said my husband treat my grand 99 bad and haven't take care of her ..........
Finally, she was send to the elder's house. We have no choice as my 99 don't want to live with my grand 99 (P.S. my 99 is a house wife since got marry with my 62, who is the only one person stays at home for 24 hours) However, my 99 said it is not her business to take care of my grand 99...............

我們咪又係, at that moment, my husband 要比家用 62 99, and grand 99...... and my 99 never 比家用 my grand 99.

Until now, everyone (my 62 99 and my husband's brothers/sisters) said my husband treat my grand 99 badly !!!!!!

原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-11 11:56 發表

我都係咁think, 自己都有老的一日, 己所不欲, 勿施於人. 點解唔識感恩?? 你對街外亞婆都客客氣氣啦. 不過, 有幾多個會好像電視劇袁詠儀咁丫. 所以我對太奶奶好好, 因為無她的悉心照顧, 我c6就唔會咁好地地.

學我c6的話, 自己想點做到咪做, 要求人地點就唔好喇, 所以, 話租屋請工人平均分就無可能, 但要我們全出就更加無可能(最平都要$8000/月). 唉, 真係唔知點好..

我們咪又係, 6299要我c6比家用, 我真係想問咁你又曾幾何時比過家用/零用錢你亞媽/99, 真係一國兩制囉.

咁你結果係咪仲係同你99個99住?? ...

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Where is your grand 99 lives now? Who take care of her now?

原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-11 15:46 發表
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其實如果無其他辦法...唯有由你地照顧...

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原文章由 ac321 於 08-7-11 15:52 發表
Where is your grand 99 lives now? Who take care of her now?

she lives in NT and I live in HK, very far away. She takes care herself, so lately drops for a few times and wanna have someone to take care.

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原文章由 onon1022 於 08-7-11 23:30 發表
其實如果無其他辦法...唯有由你地照顧...

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Can you employ a yan yan for her so that you don't need to live with her? And then reduce those $ given monthly to your 99 (as it should be your 99's responsibility to take care of your grand 99)?
Believe me, you will be in big trouble if you live with her!

原文章由 trintrin 於 08-7-14 14:51 發表

she lives in NT and I live in HK, very far away. She takes care herself, so lately drops for a few times and wanna have someone to take care.

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你太99仲可唔可以照顧到自己???
我同太99,6299一齊住....我99都好唔願同太99一齊住ga(我太99雖然唔係好衰,但我99後生果陣,要去搵食,旨意佢幫手湊仔女,點知唔好提啦.....).....仲因為佢好dirty(其實佢tried her best ga la,但始終都90歲)..

雖然話自己都會老,但如果你同佢一齊住,我驚你頂唔順.....

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原文章由 ac321 於 08-7-14 17:27 發表
Can you employ a yan yan for her so that you don't need to live with her? And then reduce those $ given monthly to your 99 (as it should be your 99's responsibility to take care of your grand 99)?
Bel ...

我都提議話請個工人湊太99, 但太99可能想同個孫一齊住掛, 總之, 經C6話我知就係太99唔想同99一齊住啦

. C6呢幾日無再提起, 可能他都想唔到兩全其美的方法. 不過, 我都會再問他, 總唔可以不了了之, 咁一個老人家唔開心自己都唔安樂啦, 唉.....

我都知一齊住就

, 太99都叫C6問過我先.. 咁我咪又係醜人囉..

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