I do share what you say though I'm the wife of my husband. So in these years I would rather have a bottle of wine at home with simple food, dining with the family including my parents, no flower, no gift. Spending an hour or two at the dining table without any rush, talking freely and the kids can run around at the side without being too boring staying at the table waiting the adults to finish .....what is better than this harmony.
BTW, happy birthday. Especally I must give my respect to you....one who would think about your parents at the birthday!!