我有個女, 13 years 佢好硬頸, 好反叛, 我越想佢嘅野, 佢就真係越唔做, 讀書成績十分之差, 得一科合格! 每日番學就要好靚好整齊好靚
我真係完全唔知點去教個女, 唔敢太惡咁話佢, 因為佢實在太硬頸啦, 真係驚佢會離家出走, 但係眼見佢現在咁嘅讀書成績, 對父母又無禮貌, 我成日覺得呢個女大咗之後唔會孝順我地, 不過都算啦! 最緊要講現在我好唔開心, 有無 d 家長可以俾 d 教仔女嘅亳見我呀 ? i have only 1 daught, maybe this is the reason make her feel lonely and lack of confidence !
many thanks
Re: 我有個女, 13 years 佢好硬頸, 好反叛, 我越想佢嘅野, 佢就真係越唔做, 讀書成績
thank you for both of your reply tt2001 and catauyeung.
唔知點解我有一個心理障礙, 就係覺得係 d 好有問題嘅家庭先至須要 "社工" 去幚手解決問題 !
but anyway, i will consider your suggestions.
thank you.
Re: 我有個女, 13 years 佢好硬頸, 好反叛, 我越想佢嘅野, 佢就真係越唔做, 讀書成績
Hi tkoeasy,
Kids are like that. It doesn't mean that they don't respect you. I always talk to my daughter just like friend. They have their own difficulty. As they have their society, they do their way as other friends do or else they will not have accompanies.
There are several reasons of kids being "硬頸". One of the major reason is their Hormone "賀爾蒙" make it like that and it is not their willing.
As studying problem, I have heard a lot of student have problem on F.2-3. It is a common problem. As mine, I will try to studing with my daughter. She won't feel alone. Even though you do nothing, but you can sit aside or make a soft drink to her, it will make her comfort. Do find a private tutor if she really need it.
As for "無禮貌". I have talk to my girl, she said that kid's group always like causal. This is the way they communicate. She didn't meant to unpolite, indeed they respect us. But, sometimes they dun know how to express their feeling, that's it. Or, maybe you can remind her not to say that just using your charming tone.
Yup, you are right, my daughter also want to be the most beautiful one in the school. Who doesn't!
As my point of view, don't put too much pressure or high expectation, this is good for you and your daughter. Because... sometimes they want to be good, but she cannot do the thing like you do, just because they're only a kid.
Re: 我有個女, 13 years 佢好硬頸, 好反叛, 我越想佢嘅野, 佢就真係越唔做, 讀書成績
tkoeasy,
I also have a daughter that is 13 years old, I think at this stage, they all are 硬頸,反叛,你越想佢嘅野, 佢就真係越唔做. They wanted everything their way, it is their way or the high way. I think we can give them some freedom, but it has to be with some limitation and they must obey the rules or they have to suffer the consequences! Friends are the most important thing in their life right now, it is important that you be their friend also, but it doesn't mean they can undermind your authority as the monther. I think it is important that you spend time with her doing causal thing like shopping, movies...etc. Sometime they just want you to be there to support,encourage and listen!
As for "無禮貌, I agreed with mangopudding, you just have to gracefully reminding them by using your charming tone.
One thing I am proud of my girl is that I don't have to worry about her grade(maybe because we live oversea, the school system is more relax here). She is quite independent, maybe because she has younger sibblings! Yes, she does care about her appearence a lot, she doesn't care if she is the most beautiful one but she wants to be the most "hip" one!
Just relax, don't worry too much, this stage will pass soon!
仲加埋拍拖:mrgreen:但如果佢本質不太差,唔好迫佢,離家出走最最煩.
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