This sort of things keep happening. Sad but that's life. We are going to have a new baby (accidentally).
We, in the mid 30s, currently have one kid doing K2. Home financial situation got worse 70% in the last 3 years and yet there is no sign of picking up again. We have casually chatted previously about having a second one since we believed a two would be better than a single one from the point of view of their interpersonal skills development. No conclusion was made as those were casual chats.
At present financially this would be difficult. I wouldn't say extremely difficult but the incremental overheads financially and mentally would be a major issue.
The mom seems to have a quite-firm desire to keep the baby while the dad has more worries when considering various constraints. The dad may like a second one (as said above) if home conditions allow but when considering the present environment he believes that's not the right time. The mom obviously objected from the timing point of view (she's at mid 30s).
When considering the 'termination' process the potential risks are uncertain (the baby is at 10-12 weeks), not just the operation but also the future hidden potential problems to the mom. The dad also concerns about the psychological impact to his wife if operation is to be proceeded.
The dad is more visionary (seeing the burdens) and the mom has strong desire for it (no doubt about it).
Glad to hear that the son you mentioned in the story did grow up well and was contributing to and supporting his family.
I did not look for anythings in particular in the future but would just like to give the kids a comfortable (and resourceful) environment to grow up. Timing is bad right now and I don't see any sign of improvement yet. He/she should have been grown up in a better environment but not the current one. I do not want to say the baby would worsen the current situation but if it comes later at an appriopriate time then that would be better for the family (I don't intend to blame the baby and actually we are the ones to be blamed instead).
Your point 陰影 has always been a major concern as I said before, apart from the risks of operation.
No dispute to both of you. We are against materialism. And I'm sure the dad and mom would have had a lot of love for the newcomer if that is decided.
The timing is just not right. Of course I do not expect the baby should be fed with excess money but without the current financial constraints the baby could be grown up in a better environment. Indirectly, the parents would also be in better shape when the difficulties are over. This do help (even more important than money) in terms of bringing up and current child (and the new one) if they can regain confidence and dignity.
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