i have a 21month old boy and a 6 month old boy. i have a full-time helper to do cooking/cleaning and help with baby.
I quit my job when my 1st son was 7 months to take care of him full-time and would like to do as much as possible for my 2nd son too.
but my 1st son in the past 2 weeks has suddenly become very clingy. he doesn't like anybody else to take care of him, like dressing, bath or feeding except for mommy. if i am trying to feed or play with my younger son he will try to drag me away.
he is always crying for me to pick him up or stay with him for bedtime/naptime. before i could just put him to bed and close the door, now he cries for 15min sometimes longer before going to sleep. he's always trying to grab my hand so i dont leave him and telling me he's scared of this and that.
how can i restore some confidence into my son? he's so young still, i'm really at a loss what to do. he's acting out by throwing his dinner bowl on the ground or pouring water onto his body with his cup.
if i dont give him something he wants, he goes crazy writhing on the floor, shaking head and screaming at the top of his lungs, kicking legs, lying on the ground.
he's starting to do this when we are out, how to teach him???
my youngest son has itchy face/head and wakes every 2hrs at night time. so i'm soooooo tired and can't think straight.
i live in the homantin area near oi man estate. i have a big kids clubhouse at my building and would love to invite people over to play with my son.
I have a 2-years-8-months-old girl and her 16-month old sister, so some time last year I was in an exactly the same situation as you are in now.
Kid this age is known to be throwing tandrum and losing temper as they are trying to grow independent, yet they are not able to control their emotions very sucessfully. This is more obvious in boys sometimes as their verbal skills can be developed later. Kids between 12 - 24 months tend to cling on to people close to them, and some may even have stranger-anxiety.
It is also ok for him to feel jealous and unsecured because of a baby new to home. It is a natural feeling. All you need to do is to stay with him whenever you can, or make sure you tell him always that you love him. Tell him that you understand his frustration and ensure him that you will always be there. Involve him as much as you can in taking care of the little brother, and tell him over and over again how well he's doing in caring the baby. Try your best to let him feel proud and important as a big brother. Praise him in doing a good job when he passes on a diaper, feeds the baby cereal with a little spoon, or splashes water in a bath with the baby. Make it fun and memorable each day with the two boys.
The most important thing is, believe in your son and trust that this is going to be better day after day. Give him some time and patience.
Thank you for your advice. I always try to be confident with my own parenting skills, but it's so hard to not doubt yourself when your husband and in-laws keep making comments that you are spoiling the child.
They don't know how to take care of children, never read a parenting book or child development book, and yet they just make comments like that to me.
All they do is give me negative newspaper articles about how babies died from all sorts of diseases or other circumstances.
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