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發表於 20-4-1 12:27 |只看該作者
有無JM老公有抑鬱症?


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發表於 20-4-2 00:52 |只看該作者
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-1 12:27
有無JM老公有抑鬱症?
我現任先生有抑鬱症。我識佢果時,佢要每日食5種抑鬱症藥。同我越互動得多,佢就越能自我減少藥物,到後來搬來我同一齊住之前去到唔使食藥。到而家都保持住唔使食藥。
佢D姊妹,姪女都話見到佢同我一齊後比以前開心,同傾計。
妳幾時發現佢抑鬱?
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-2 08:34 |只看該作者
858D 發表於 20-4-2 00:52
我現任先生有抑鬱症。我識佢果時,佢要每日食5種抑鬱症藥。同我越互動得多,佢就越能自我減少藥物,到後來 ...

咁你先生情況都幾好喎!想請教下點樣相處呢?

我結婚三年了。我先生同我結婚兩年就發現有抑鬱,應該係家族遺傳吧⋯⋯

其實我都唔知點做好,男人鍾意收收埋埋,唔開心唔會講出黎。佢食左藥基本上失去所有動力,除左返工就剩係訓。

再加上女人會容易bi li ba la,有時會忍唔住話佢幾句。但係咁樣會加重佢病情,有時我忍住都好辛苦


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發表於 20-4-2 12:03 |只看該作者
本帖最後由 858D 於 20-4-2 12:04 編輯
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-2 08:34
咁你先生情況都幾好喎!想請教下點樣相處呢?

我結婚三年了。我先生同我結婚兩年就發現有抑鬱,應該係家 ...

我先生都有同我講過佢食藥那段日子會失去大喜大悲嘅起伏,少0左一種人生悲歡嘅經歷。
我對住我憂鬱症嘅先生,常保持樂觀,凡人事方面都向好果方面睇。同佢一齊數算當日果D好嘅事情。例如,食過 士多啤梨 啦,大家健康啦,見到半杯水,睇到嘅係半杯滿嘅水,唔係半杯空嘅水。

我先生係 、、、
1. 唔會受妻子以強硬方式話佢嘅。
2. 亦唔鍾意聽人負面評論佢鍾意嘅人。
3. 我先生係比較需要不嘈交嘅平靜溝通關係。
4. 佢要求妻子支持同接受佢長期甩不掉嘅憂鬱症。
以上係佢前妻犯曬嘅大忌。相反地我就做齊佢嘅要求。

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-2 12:09 |只看該作者
858D 發表於 20-4-2 12:03
我先生都有同我講過佢食藥那段日子會失去大喜大悲嘅起伏,少0左一種人生悲歡嘅經歷。
我對住我憂鬱症嘅先 ...

其實真係好難,除非你本身係極樂觀既人,同埋本身唔會話老公既人?


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發表於 20-4-3 05:46 |只看該作者
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-2 12:09
其實真係好難,除非你本身係極樂觀既人,同埋本身唔會話老公既人?
我會對老公指出佢做事嘅成績有D乜嘢項目唔夠我使用,對事不對人。但係我用字方面仲係欠缺準確表達,我前夫會容易誤會我嘅意思而反彈佢嘅怒氣畀我受。negative reinforcement 係推動我改變行為嘅有效動力。我漸漸地鍊成,唔造就人嘅話語,我一句都唔出口。
我唸我嘅積極樂觀都係生活中磨練出來嘅。
今日,我先生同我講話 冠狀病疫情 開始令佢憂鬱。我正唸緊仲有D乜嘢我可以做來同佢一齊對抗憂鬱同預防感染冠狀病毒。
感恩我可以唔使打人工,全力照顧佢同有需要嘅父母。感恩我有 可以三步不出閨房都安樂嘅性格 來迎接隔離嘅生活。盡力用自己嘅正能量來影響我先生。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-3 07:53 |只看該作者
858D 發表於 20-4-3 05:46
我會對老公指出佢做事嘅成績有D乜嘢項目唔夠我使用,對事不對人。但係我用字方面仲係欠缺準確表達,我前夫 ...

好可惜我對我老公病情幫助不大,就算哄到佢開心,都只係開心果幾秒,轉過頭又down返。

聽到有人食藥食一兩年就好返哂,但佢屋企人食藥食左好多年都仲食緊,無好轉。我都好擔心佢要長期食藥,一來食藥已令身形脹左好多,二來唔知有無副作用,三來我都想佢好返


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發表於 20-4-3 23:00 |只看該作者
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-3 07:53
好可惜我對我老公病情幫助不大,就算哄到佢開心,都只係開心果幾秒,轉過頭又down返。

聽到有人食藥食一 ...
對於自己男人食藥,我同你想法一樣。
我比較好彩,我先生係認識我之後,定期見佢心理醫生時,醫生評估佢憂鬱症好轉好多。佢分析畀醫生知係因為有我呢個關係,之後就主動減藥。
我先生都食藥食0左好多年,好似有十年。到佢減到一粒藥都唔食嗰時,我感覺到我好似係同0左個唔一樣嘅人相處咁。對我來講又係另外一個挑戰,因為佢除0左感受同我一齊有更上一層樓嘅喜樂外,亦同時容易思想上轉0左去用負面方向分析我嘅話語而情緒down。我要花更多資源來重新了解佢。知道雖然十幾年前嘅佢係冇食藥,但係我都唔可以用十幾年前嘅佢來評估十幾年後冇食藥嘅佢,因為好多條件已經唔同0左,佢艾爾蒙成份高低唔同,資源貧富唔同,dedpendents 需求唔同,老婆都換0左。由於以上嘅唔同,我唔選擇要求佢用翻佢點對佢前妻好嘅來對翻我。

我有憂鬱症嘅親友都一致認為憂鬱症係跟成世嘅,options is between keeping it under control and/or medication.

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-4 09:43 |只看該作者
858D 發表於 20-4-3 23:00
對於自己男人食藥,我同你想法一樣。
我比較好彩,我先生係認識我之後,定期見佢心理醫生時,醫生評估佢憂 ...

聽完你咁講,其實我都唔應該期望佢好返吧?
不過我覺得依個病好恐怖,係我先生未知道有抑鬱症果陣,d明星因為抑鬱症自殺,佢地都有另一半,我果陣諗 即係另一半都幫佢地唔到吧

到而家,我好驚作為另一半既我都幫唔到佢!

之前同佢睇醫生,真係有好多好多人睇醫生,香港真係好多人有情緒病


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發表於 20-4-4 14:18 |只看該作者
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-4 09:43
聽完你咁講,其實我都唔應該期望佢好返吧?
不過我覺得依個病好恐怖,係我先生未知道有抑鬱症果陣,d明星 ...

如果普通抑鬱唔太會諗自殺,自殺果D已經好嚴重

除咗食藥之外,最緊要你老公肯同人分享,你又好或者佢啲朋友,分享都係解壓既一種

同埋鼓勵佢多啲做運動,如果日日可以keep 住做一個鐘帶氧運動,相信會比較快甩藥

你都唔好俾咁大壓力自己


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發表於 20-4-4 14:55 |只看該作者
Natalie625 發表於 20-4-4 14:18
如果普通抑鬱唔太會諗自殺,自殺果D已經好嚴重

除咗食藥之外,最緊要你老公肯同人分享,你又好或者佢啲朋 ...

多謝你

好可惜我身邊虛,我做唔到帶氧運動,最多可以行半個鐘山。不過依排又有肺炎行唔到。


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發表於 20-4-5 01:45 |只看該作者
粉紅天空 發表於 20-4-4 09:43
聽完你咁講,其實我都唔應該期望佢好返吧?
不過我覺得依個病好恐怖,係我先生未知道有抑鬱症果陣,d明星 ...
暫時沒有其他選擇就選擇睇開D,呢個世界有好多嘢都好恐怖。
我都唔係冇事,我有自閉症嘅一種 Asperger,我前夫的父親有躁狂憂鬱症,我前夫都要watch out for not getting it. 互相與配偶取長補短吧。衡量下如果佢係影響到你個人嘅情緒健康,精神健康嘅話,為了雙方嘅健康著想,放生對方,讓對方搵到一個對佢健康嘅伴侶。
我先生嘅前妻就係與我先生在情緒健康,精神健康方面嘅錯配。對她是正面影響她的情緒但就負面影響到我先生的情緒健康,她也拒絕去接受這事實。我先生唯有自己搵對自己健康的出路。搵個對佢健康嘅配偶。大家都不用屈就對方。她不受我先生的家人喜歡,我很受他們喜歡。
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-5 02:02 |只看該作者
本帖最後由 858D 於 20-4-5 02:04 編輯

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以下是我先生如何做選擇使他自己的憂鬱症有好轉:如果你不讀英文,我會做翻譯。你睇下能不能鼓勵你先生對他自己的生命做些改變?

I realized that the healing was only something I could do. No amount of talking with a therapist was going to do that for me.


I stopped going to therapy and forced myself to do what was necessary. The keys to healing depression are not complex. They are just difficult to do when you are depressed. The keys for me are:


  • socialization - interact with people, don't isolate myself
  • sleep - getting a good night sleep improves my outlook
  • stay positive - one of the reasons I stopped therapy was I felt I was just rehashing the miserable parts of my past.
  • stay in the now - don't dwell on the past. Don't worry about the future. Enjoy the now.
  • exercise - I hate this one. But I have managed to talk walks during my lunch break and start using the stairs instead of the elevator at work.

As part of my need to socialize, I quit my current job. There were only 5 people in the company and we didn't socialize at all. A friend of mine offered me a job at his company. I decided to take it, not because the work was flashy or exciting, but because there are a lot of people at his company. I figured I would be able to socialize more during my work day.
The new job, combined with the bullet points above made a huge difference. I started climbing out of my depression and life was looking better for me. I made new friends. I enjoyed the company of my coworkers. Life was good.


Then I saw 858D for the first time.


Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own  ~ H. Jackson Brown


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發表於 20-4-5 10:50 |只看該作者
858D 發表於 20-4-5 02:02
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以下是我先生如何做選擇使他自己的憂鬱症有好轉:如果你不讀英文,我會做翻譯。你睇 ...

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