if he tells u that he loves another woman, what r u going to do? leave him? what about the kids? for most cases, its the best for kids to be raised in a normal family, under the love from both parents. do u really want ur kids to live in single parent family or call some new uncle as 'daddy'? if u don't leave him, then u have to bare the fact that he loves someone else more than u. u won't be able to love him anymore but u still have to sleep on the same bed wor, won't be easy! sometimes, the smartest thing is to be ignorant and stupid. i tell my husband, if u cheat, never let me find out. i never check his cell phone or email. i just do my part. as long as he's good to the kids, come home safe, and treat me good, then i'm happy.