idyhk, Sorry, may it use English?
Because i just type a long paragraph - about half hour. My computer throws me out.
And i am very angry.
Actually you are a wonderful and greatful antie. You donot have the responsibility to take care of your niece. But, you do it.
Now, you are in a dilema situation.
You have two solution.
1. You can send her back to her mother. Her mother is not a good mother. That's for sure. But, her mother is still willing to feed her daughter phsically. Mentally, forget about it.
2. Or you have to raise her yourself. If yes, you have to ask her to obey your family rules.
i.)She need to know she is part of the family. Not someone special. She need to take care herself, such as eating, sleeping etc. And she need to take care of two younger sisters. You can ask her to help you. Treat her as your daughter not as some guest.
ii.) You can share your feeling with her. You can even punish her if she is naughty. You can tell her " I punish you because i love you. Just as i punish my daughters when they are naughty."
iii.) Love her is the most important thing. If you love her, and you are willing to express it. She certainly know it and she won't feel she was abandon or harshly treated.
iV.)Let her express her feeling.
That's just some suggestion. Hope you find a good way out.
You are really great and good hearted auntie .
You love the girl so much, just like her mother, of course she knows very well and I think you already replace her mother's place.
If the girl back to her mother without care and love,
the person looks after her abuse her, you are the one to blame yourself and feel guilty (I don't think her mother wl feel the same as you, as the love you gave cannot take back, right). Quite worry about you if anything happens !
Can you work out a plan with yr husband family side,
financially to share between brother and sister.
Your kids and husband are so lucky to have a Super Mom like you.
What is 佢自己既命運?
命運 is made by our hand!
If me, I will agree with 東菰,(當生多左個女), I will also love her as same as my child. I think you can change the girl 命運!
Jerry in Studio
其實無咩要求, 得到o既反而越多.........
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比較不正常而靈裡較感貧窮的人, 比起正常而靈裡不感貧窮的人, 成長的更多......
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