Hello BK friends,
I have been a full-time mum since last Sept. With the help of a maid, we take care of 2 babies (one year and 2 years old).
I always feel tired taking care of them as they are very active. Especially when any one of them is sick, I am even more exhausted as I have to get up almost every hour in the evening.
Recently, my family members are getting sick one by one, including my 2 babies, I am really depressed and with no power.
Can you let me know how can you stand with the tough housework and the demanding baby caring?
Hello, if I can not finish all everything, I will select which is important, then do it. We are both human, we will tire, we are not superwoman, therefore, for me, I will only do one important things at one times. Because I know I am not a professional mama, so that if I cannot do something, I better leave them alone, then take care of my two kids.
I have become a full time mama for 20 months, first half year that was very difficult, I gave myself many depression, so that I was not happy, because I thought that was easy but actually not.
Therefore, after half year, I change my duty, I will cook the rice for them, and I will teach them everything, including homework, read story, 美勞, 讓他們參加社區中心活動, school picnic (親子), 家長義工(因為可以在學校見到他們), teach them basic piano theory and ask teacher come and teach them how to play the piano. I will buy the DHA for them because it is good for them. If I have time I will teach them everything. e.g. I will teach my elder son english, maths, chinese. I will buy exercise for him. And I will teach my younger son simple maths, simple english simple chinese, read story to him, tell him which is true which is not true. Bring him to have a art lesson, english course, 圍棋.
But I will not do housework everyday, because it waste me many time. If I feel my house very duty, I will clean the house, otherwise, I only play attention to my two kids.
Because we can do the housework any time, but if we skip the important time for children's learning, we never recover them.
KP_128,
Don't worry, your babies will be fine soon, it will give you many depression, so that you better keep yourself health, otherwise, if you get sick~~~who will take care your babies, therefore, release yourself.
I suggest you better take care of your babies first, if you have time then do the housework, otherwise, you will feel tire and you will not take good care of your babies, you will 沮喪.
KP_128,
i guess u r just so tired that u feel depressed.... don't worry, we all have ups and downs... i sometimes also feel depressed esp when period is around the corner...
i've been a fulltime mum for 10mths lar... i don't have a maid... so i have to prioritize my work... u know, can't do everything with just one pair of hands ga mar... i do the most important chores first lor... there's sth which i'll do everyday like vaccum cleaning/cleaning toys/making congee for my baby... other household work like cleaning the kitchen/bathroom will be done on a weekly basis... i'll cook every sun-thur, but we'll have takeaways on fri & sat...
i'll listen to radio/watch tv when i'm playing with my baby... ... i listen to RTHK's "瘋 Show 快 活 人" every weekday... it always makes me laugh... :mrgreen:
Thank you very much for your sharings and advices.
I used to be a very smart student and working lady in the past, I did everything well and the results were all under my expectation.
However, talking about baby caring and health of of family, they are totally out of my control that makes me lost.
My elder daughter is now at the so-called "trouble 2" status, every little task is a big challenge to me e.g. having breakfast, she can spend over one hour to finish her milk by drinking that in 3 or 4 sessions. Her emotion is so fluctated (like mine), sometimes we are just like enermies. Perhaps, I set the "target" too high, if I can lower down my requirement, I will feel easier.
BTW, i also listen to "瘋 Show 快 活 人" if I have time, that is a relaxing programme.
Well, sharing with you can make me feel much better, let's hope that our babies will grow up happily and healthy.
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