We've been discussing the divorce arrangement. He has no job and no income, I am working mother. We have not much saving. He wants me quit my job and to be a fulltime mother. After divorce, he plans to buy another apartment near the current apartment for him to take care of our son(2.5yrs old) in the morning, and pick him back from kindergarten in the afternoon, although he agrees to move out and let me take care our son. I don't want to see him anymore, and interrupt my living, I only can acceppt him to pick up our son after school and bring him back for dinner during weekday, and arrange a family day together during weekend. It's really the hard time to me of my life, living with a man in a same apartment and cannot show your feelings.... it may affect the child..... what can I do..... I try to make it short and smoothly, but it still doesn't work. Will I really lost my son if I put it to the court?!......... God, could u pls help me......
You do not like him, but he is still the baby's father and you cannot stop his from seeing the baby unless he is violent.
If he has no income, why does he ask you to quit your job. If he remarries, do you think he will still pay you? For the baby, yes, for you, I don't think so. Don't rely on this payout. I would keep my job if I were you and hire a maid or send baby to nurery.
I won't terminate his connection with our son, he can pick up our son from the kindergarten after school Monday to Friday. Although we are divorced, but we are still our son's parent, we need to provide a placeful family day (Weekend) to him. But I can't accept he comes to my place every morning.
He never pay me $ for living, we use our money.
We have a maid, and he doesn't want her to take care our son. He wants me to do it or by himself.
Of course, you need a job pay for you and your son live. So that you must keep your job and it can bargain in court you have the financial back ground supporting you. I alway think that family menbers support is importance and you can share your worries to them seek for their help.
Before I have cried when he rejects to have close relationship with me. I've been sleeping on the sofa everynight since Oct last year, I won't crying in front of him, I try my best to hide my emotion. Although I am a fortitude woman, it is difficult to handle this situation, and control to stop my tear when I am at work.
Thanks for your comment. Sometimes, I felt hopeless as my parent didn't support me for divorce, as they are traditionaly Chinese. They thought we have to stay together for our son even I am not happy with the marriage. I tried to let them know that I am not a kid anymore, I am 40 years old woman.
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