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發表於 06-1-26 05:08 |只看該作者

辭職湊仔?

各位好!

請問你們當中是否有辭職湊仔的媽媽? 你們當初是如何作出決定的? 有沒有做兼職賺番少少錢旁身? 你們覺得有何得失? 可以分享一下嗎? 因為我老公問我可否辭職帶小孩。

謝謝!

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Luzern

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發表於 06-1-26 08:18 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

好羨慕您搵到個好老公/好爸爸

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windian

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發表於 06-1-26 09:53 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

My husband also asks me to quit the job and take care of bb. I have already quited the job and will become a full-time mom in Feb.

Of course, I want to do the part-time job to earn some money, but it's quite difficult to find a part-time job now. I don't know whether I will regret for this decision as my salary is not low.

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發表於 06-1-26 11:13 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

我會做到3月初, 8月初生. 太大辦公室政治了, 唔想玩. 免得影響bb, 算吧, 儲小d.
其實做full-time mom, d人一家通常一個月儲幾多??? (呢條問題都幾的私人)

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發表於 06-1-26 13:50 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

我向妹妹提出做全職媽媽的想法時，她叫我千萬要認真考慮，因為她身邊轉做全職媽媽的朋友不少結果都與丈夫因金錢問題天天吵架。

你們覺得向丈夫要錢給娘家，會否造成磨擦?老爺奶奶會否有微言?

這版有位全職媽媽說因沒錢所以不(敢)逛街，你們覺得沒有經濟能力會否缺乏安全感和自信?

我覺得全職帶孩子的滿足感和對整個家庭的益處是不能用金錢衡量的，所以是偉大的工作，但你們的丈夫是否也這樣認為，還是起初沒問題但到後來還是以為你天天在家躲懶，對你要求樣樣高呢? (例如飯菜要可口一點，家裏要清潔一點，子女成績要優異一點)

最後，你們有沒有後悔呢?

Thanks

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發表於 06-1-26 14:04 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

咁如果可以搵份part time, 可唔可以解決到錢問題?

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yuethei

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發表於 06-1-26 14:35 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

me too!

windian 寫道:
My husband also asks me to quit the job and take care of bb. I have already quited the job and will become a full-time mom in Feb.

Of course, I want to do the part-time job to earn some money, but it's quite difficult to find a part-time job now. I don't know whether I will regret for this decision as my salary is not low.

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yuethei

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發表於 06-1-26 14:38 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

我亦都有呢個問題??????好煩,下個月就變全職媽媽了.

"你們覺得向丈夫要錢給娘家，會否造成磨擦?老爺奶奶會否有微言?"

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發表於 06-1-26 15:33 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

windian:
If you had made the decision to quit the job, you will face and enjoy a lot of time with your child. This cannot count by money, it's your feeling in touch. If not, you will miss to share a wonderful growing time of your child. Is a girl or boy? How old is it?

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發表於 06-1-26 17:52 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

wywyandkk,

You better discuss this with your husband and gain his full support before you become a full time mama. That would include giving you pocket money every month without being asked. My husband does not want to have the heavy burden and be the only one earning money. And yet he also recognizes the importance of raising a kid. I would not feel unsecured because my kid is also his kid, and I've sacrificed my career and stay at home. I gained his full support beforehand. Sometimes, I made him stay at home with my boy alone, without any help, so he understands how tough it is to look after children full time. So he does not think I am being lazy at home and have high expectation of me. It would be best if I could have a part time job. But at the end of the day, someone has to sacrifice. And I am always ready to sacrifice for my family.

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發表於 06-1-26 18:28 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

Dear TotoPiggy,

Thanks for your sharing. How long have you been a full-time mama. Does you husband have a well-paid job such that you two will not have to worry about money and thus avoid the related conflicts altogether?

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發表於 06-1-26 21:10 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

我都在11月份做左全職媽媽, 以前返工時都有比錢亞媽, 現在無做野, 咪我老公比囉, 99緊係唔知啦, 因唔會比錢99, 除左過新年

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Kristy555

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發表於 06-1-26 22:20 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

wywyandkk:

12月初我都做了全職媽媽. 呢倆個月來我肯定話比你知, 係完全值得. 佢有明顯進步, 劃畫老師話佢劃d畫靓o左, 唔知係咪想劃來送比我(佢在畫上加了一隻lady bug話我鍾意)

幼稚園老師主動同我講, d字寫得靓了, 有記性了

一天可以串3個生字, 多了時間同佢去圖書館借英文故事書睇

, 老公又可以晚晚有湯有屋企飯食

佢地一天一天長大, 細個唔教, 大個想教都幾難, 有d野, 用錢係買唔番既. 仲有, 全職媽媽辛苦過番工......我而家一達落bed已經訓著. 錢係洗小o左, 為了仔仔, 絕對肯定值. 況且你老公要求.

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發表於 06-1-26 22:38 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

點解你地既老公咁好？？？

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發表於 06-1-26 23:36 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

Dear Kristy555,

謝謝你的分享。聽到你的成就，實在令我躍躍欲試。

我有兩個小朋友，但能力性格就南轅北轍。一個記性勁好，做很多功課和日日默書都話咁快搞掂，一個就讀極都唔識，成日比老師投訴。我都好相信如果全職在家可以收效宏大。我舉棋不定的原因是，啱啱捱到升級，人工又相當唔錯，現在放棄好像很可惜，而且對自己沒有收入下下攤大手板問老公攞這一點覺得有點恐怖，因為萬一有何差池想轉頭好難。

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發表於 06-1-27 08:27 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

我好明白你既心情, 我o個時收入都唔錯, 絕對可以幫補家計, 比錢亞爸亞媽同自己買花帶, 仲有小小儲起, 我都唔想攤大手板問老公攞, 呢一點, 你要睇下你對老公既信任程度

, 我絕對相信我老公唔會比難聽說話比我, 佢主動安排每個月規定比幾錢家用(屋企開支), 比幾錢我洗(這部份由我決定比幾多亞媽)有本事淨了可以儲私己. 在離職前, 你要同老公商量好d才決定. 仲有, 我有個同事, 月入四萬, 得一個女, 佢勇氣仲大, 離職湊女, 這使我聆悟到, 仔女o係自己心目中可以幾o甘無價.

昨天發生了一件事. 關乎家教問題. 話說我小朋友在其他"私人"屋阮公園玩, 唔夠5-10分鐘, 有個小朋友(可能大我仔1-2歲)拿住把鎗想打我仔仔, 老公見唔對路標埋去o曷止(從未見我老公o甘惡)但已經好大力打中我個仔個額頭(於了及腫了以及脫皮), 老公一手捉住個小朋友隻手, 我仔哭得很大聲(佢一d都唔易哭), 我走埋去佢爺爺立即捉住個小朋友, 我好惡同個小朋友說你整親人, 仲一d都唔驚, 問佢邊間小學, 佢話我仲咩要講比你知(仲串過大人), 我話我就係要同你校長講, 同你父母講點教你, 叫佢say sorry, 佢話so......rry.....o羅, two....(係吐口水

)嘩血都嘔埋. 因佢爺爺阻止佢d行為捉住佢話要走, 佢連爺爺都打埋, 我見睇唔過眼又幫口罵佢長輩都打, 佢竟想走來打我

好彩爺爺捉住. 我話我生個仔出來都未試過打我個仔o甘傷, 你信唔信我報警驗傷起訴你(佢爺爺好似有d驚, 但我認真嫁)但個小朋友仍然又哭又叫發顛, 根本一d都唔驚d大人, 佢爺爺已經一路拉走一路打緊個小朋友離開. (其間, 公園入面有d青少年都幫口罵). 我同老公都好嬲, 今時今日住屋村d c9都好有教養, 小朋友好有禮貌, 我絕對專重佢地, 但竟然私人屋阮都出現一do甘無家教既人. 唔好意思, 我只係想講, 一個小既品格同教養, 好直接反映父母既性格, 比我係佢父母

掉佢去堆田區都似. (之後仔仔同我講叫佢爺爺唔好再打個小朋友, 佢會好似我o甘痛 :-( :-( ) 個仔真係好埋人感受 :-(

生個小朋友出來, 無時間管教, 不抽空教導就算第日做專業人事, 佢地童年陰影好可能對佢地d性格有好大影響.......我唔係叫你地唔做全職湊, 我在職都教得仔仔好好, 好多媽媽都係o甘, 而係, 只係想講, 你付出多一秒, 小朋友會回報的不止一秒o甘多. 為人父母, 只想希望小朋友成為社會上有用可以自己照顧自己考順的人, 這點已經足夠....... :-(

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發表於 06-1-27 11:39 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

wywyandkk,

I've become a full time mama for about 3 months and agree with Kristy555:

"我o個時收入都唔錯, 絕對可以幫補家計, 比錢亞爸亞媽同自己買花帶, 仲有小小儲起, 我都唔想攤大手板問老公攞, 呢一點, 你要睇下你對老公既信任程度 , 我絕對相信我老公唔會比難聽說話比我, 佢主動安排每個月規定比幾錢家用(屋企開支), 比幾錢我洗(這部份由我決定比幾多亞媽)有本事淨了可以儲私己. 在離職前, 你要同老公商量好d才決定".

What I mean by full support does not necessarily mean having a well paid job. But he has to agree to allocate resoures differently and efficiently and won't make you feel like a beggar. Earning more may solve some problems, but not all. Everyone has their own worries. I always believe if you have more, you can spend/save more. On the other hand, if you earn a little less, you would live humbly. I know some doctors, lawyers and others have given up their job to stay home. You are talking about given up around HK$100,000 a month!

Nothing is perfect, sometimes something has to be sacrificed.

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發表於 06-1-27 15:13 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

Hi, supericeice,

My bb is a boy who is one year old lar. I want to teach him properly during the first 3 years in his life so I quit the job. I give too much pressure to myself but my husband comforts me that my main duty is to play with bb and make him have a happy experience in childhood. bb doesn't need to be a super boy but must be a "happy boy" I am so touched by his words.

I don't know whether I can become a good mom but I will try at least. If I don't fit it the lifestyle of full-time mom, I will go to find a job then. At least I have tried it ar..

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發表於 06-1-31 12:00 |只看該作者

Re: 辭職湊仔?

Hi Everyone

I have just become a full-time mum again this Monday.
I was a full-time when my son was under 1 then I went back to work for only 6 months.
I was struggling a lot during the 6 months at work and I didnt think that was for me at all (working mum when my son was so young).
I then talked to my hubby and we were struggling for a while.
He didnt want me to give up work because he worried that I would regret and I couldnt get the same work again (I have been working for this company for 5 years and salary is not bad).
He worried that I might not like the new lifestyle (less money to spend and no travelling overseas every year).
However, I was doing really well at my son's first year so I think I will be OK!
I just need to have something for myself and keep myself busy (for my own interest).
I love staying home and feel that I do make a difference to my son's life.
Add oil everyone!!!

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