AliJasEd 寫道:
Most of time, both of us will stay home. He may go if he is very angry. However, it hasn't happened for a long long time that I cannot remember.
I will calm down myself down by asking questions to myself such as:
1. Is that going to help if I keep angry?
2. Is he the only wrong person and it is unforgivable?
3. In the old time, I was always waiting for him to say sorry, but it is proved he is more patient than me. Since he could keep quite for days, it made me even more angry. So I will ask myself, if I want to be unhappy. If not, I have to break the ice first, because most of time "HE WON'T".
4. He will normally return to normal or even better (because he might in fact feel guilty).
By following the above, we seldom have angryment and in fact more sharing on our feelings and relationship is better than before.
AliJasEd 寫道:
Most of time, both of us will stay home. He may go if he is very angry. However, it hasn't happened for a long long time that I cannot remember.
I will calm down myself down by asking questions to myself such as:
1. Is that going to help if I keep angry?
2. Is he the only wrong person and it is unforgivable?
3. In the old time, I was always waiting for him to say sorry, but it is proved he is more patient than me. Since he could keep quite for days, it made me even more angry. So I will ask myself, if I want to be unhappy. If not, I have to break the ice first, because most of time "HE WON'T".
4. He will normally return to normal or even better (because he might in fact feel guilty).
By following the above, we seldom have angryment and in fact more sharing on our feelings and relationship is better than before.