my maid is a 'yan yan' - imported from Indonesian & brand new to HK. She's ok on everything (like washing, cooking, hardworking) but UNABLE to take care my new born baby boy independently. We are not comfortable to leave the baby at home on weekdays while we go to work.
Currently, my mom will take the baby out to her house in the morning and we have to take the baby back to our home after work. This is not the original plan as we want someone to look after the baby at our home and my mom only comes on and off to oversee the baby & the maid. We are quite tiring for all the travels (though just 5-10 minutes drive). My maid is
- not able to feed the baby successfully everytime (we have to feed ourselves finally!)
- calm the baby down when he cries (my baby always cries when she holds him.. but not other people like parents, my mom, etc.)
- unable to do the book reading or play with baby by her own (she can only copy what we did before)
- no experience to prepare baby food (we trained her around 1 month on mixing a milk with right temperature!) - besides, she is 'stupid' somehow:
- my wooden table was stained with hot food
- baby big blanket was lost in the street
- my blouse was broken from her hand wash, etc...
- she talked over mobile phone in the toilet with door closed while baby is sleeping & no one is in the house! (we asked her to only look after the baby if no adult is at home except her!)
We are thinking to change for a local Philipino given she cannot take care the baby by herself and we don't see her with great potential for being trained up.
..Appreciate comments from experienced parents...
And if anybody has a good maid with good baby caring skills please let me know...
If your helper does not work up to your expectations and does not suit the purpose of having a live-in maid at home, what is the point of having her?
You did not mention how long has she been working for you. If you see that she will not have any improvements in the near future, then you have already answered your questions.
I cannot imagine how stupid your maid is ... ... she took one month to learn mixing baby's milk, which is a very very easy job. But I don't know why you chose an inexperienced maid. It is so risky. At least you should choose one with singapore experience.
I think this maid is incapable of child caring. You better hire another one.
your maid seems inexperience to taking baby. If you hire the maid at your home mainly for baby sitting, I think she is unable to reach your satisfy.
BTW, 2 yrs before, when my daughter was 6mths, I travel between Chai Wan & Tsing yi from my mother home. It spends 1 hour to do this travelling. It's hard time for adult, but it is most good for baby, as take care by grandparents or relatives.. you will 100% no worry on the maid and any wrong doing on the baby.
i think your "yan yan " really not puting her "heart" in the job, especially seems like your boy dont like her as well~
it is better for u to change to a experienced maid, especially experienced in taking care of new born.
just like my maid, she not puting her "heart" in the job as well, like cleaning the house or cooking or washing... everyday when i go home, the floor has a lot of dust, but i didnt fire her....
coz she know who to take care of bb, will move out of the bed when bb make noise at night and make her sleep again....
but be honest 工人冇十全十美，in your case , it is most important to look for one can take care of bb, 其他是後話...
u better quick quick look for a new one, taking ur bb to ur parents house everyday and let her look after shouldnt happen, if so, why employ maid!
To answer some of your queries: my 'yan yan'
- has worked in Singapore for 5 years and is responsible for baby caring. So she looks 'good' from her 'CV'. But in fact, by seeing her actual performance now, we thought she was only mainly 'assisting po po' and not really handling baby by herself.
- has worked in my home for about 3 months till now
We did have evaluation with her every week in first two months. She has showed willingness to learn and improve. She has good sides of being very clean, tidy, obedience, willing to get up at midnight to change diaper for my son. But just NOT able to handle my baby by her own.. now we can only keep her as a 'cleaning & cooking lady'. Basically she has nothing to do in the afternoon!
Agent told us that 'yan yan' is like this.. and need more time for training. Do you agree? Do you think getting a 'bun bun' is better than 'yan yan'? Anybody has a good agent to refer to me?
I think yan yan and philipino are the same, just depend on their capability. Sometimes it's really difficult to say, if the maid is good taking care of baby, her housework might not good/tidy, i mean difficult to find a maid good at taking care of baby and housework. My previous helper, she look good to take care of my baby, but I still do not have any confident on her, i will ask my mom come over my house everday (mon - fri) to look after baby, I do not trust anyone of the helper as she really ignore and beat him while no body at home. I guess you better ask your mom to look after at least until baby at 2 yrs old.
I have no experience in Indonesian maids. But if I were you, I couldn't stand this long for a helper that couldn't help at all. I guess the main reason you need a maid is to help taking care of your baby. All the cleaning and cooking chores could be taken up by anybody, like yourself, or a part-time helper. And for just cleaning and cooking duties, you don't really need a live-in maid.
Probably your maid needs more time to learn. Probably she deliberately behaves so so that you will fire her and she can get another month's salary as compensation. No matter what, I think someone who cannot prepare milk properly with the right temperature after a month doesn't have the capacity to be a babysitter, and should be replaced.
Think about it, in another month or two, your baby will start having solid food like cereals, fruit puree, etc. Another one or two months later, s/he will start having congee, fish, meat, veggies. Do you think your current maid can handle all these? Moreover, the bigger the kids, the more demanding they are. If your maid can't handle a tiny baby now like calming s/he down now, she may have even bigger difficulties to do so in the future.
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