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Pls share how maid take care baby,do you agree their ways? [複製鏈接]

leungwaimin

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im first time to hire a maid,
first ,because my health,
i need to hire a maid to take care my 6 months old baby,otherwise,i hate anyone to stay in my house
(except my husband and baby ,of course),
the house work not so much,
my maid have so many time to take a rest.....

She likes to take care baby.......erm........
the ways is different to me ,
i have say many times to her if there is any problem,
overall ,i think my maid ....didnt give my baby a right time to do the right thing
eg 1: my baby last milk now is 1am,then 8am ,
i tell my maid so many time,
help baby drink before her sleep (9pm),
then 7am another milk.........
eg2: when baby want to sleep,
never hug her until she sleep,
pls put her into her bed directly....
eg3:when baby say too loud or dont like something
(like want to watch tv) my maid will let her watch tv immediately
how can my maid and i have tha same think?
what can i tell her anymore?
btw,she always like to say:baby dont like this ,like that.....
isit my problem??
did anyone have the same questions?can share with me?
thankyou so much~!~!~!~!~!~!

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原文章由 leungwaimin 於 07-8-22 14:00 發表
im first time to hire a maid,
first ,because my health,
i need to hire a maid to take care my 6 months old baby,otherwise,i hate anyone to stay in my house
(except my husband and baby ,of cou ...

I had the bad experience before, the maid always asked if she could use her way to complete the task. We accept her suggestion at the beginning but then we found that she was unwilling to take the advise and instructions from us...

I used several maids in past few months, tried both Philipino maid and Indonesian maid. I found that the latter one is more flexible than Philippino maid. They will listen to the employer, rare to ask if she can use her way to complete the task, however, it also take a longer time to train them up which is a big problem.

Be honest both my husband and I do not like other people to stay in our home, not comfortable at all but we have no choice. We therefore also have no choice to be flexible in some cases. However for me, for those issues related to baby I can't be flexible, but I will still observe their way to take care the baby as I don't want to be too strict and give them a hard feeling. I would then tell them that for my baby you need to adjust a bit and suggest her to use my way. I told her that as every babies are different, you need to follow me as I know the practice and habbits of my baby...and you will know more in future ...

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發表於 07-8-22 15:48 |只看該作者

yes, maid has their own way to take care of baby... my maid also will use her own way sometimes, but I will tell her that she should ask me .. (for minor things that won't harm baby.. I will be loosen up a bit).

for things like food, habbits, daily routine, I will ask my maid to follow my way.. afterall, that is my baby.. I would like to raise him up in my way but not the maid's way.

If she said baby doesn't like this or that.. (my baby is just 8 months old).. I will tell her I don't want baby to be like it.. that is too spoiled (in a pity mother tone)

And for milk drinking schedule... I will enforce her to follow the schedule I set (since my baby is quite routine... )... sometimes she will feed baby 30 mins earlier... even she put down in the book just 15 mins earlier but I observed it on the cam... then when I got home.. I will ask her more on what time the baby drink milk..and how's it (whether he is willing to drink or not)... and try to find out the reason why she feed him earlier than schedule. If it's the baby who got hungry ..and not cause by her own convenience.. it's okay with me

For your case, you should tell your maid, you want your baby to get rib of the habbit to drink / eat after mid-nite... and that is important to you... so she must feed baby before 12am.

for a period of time, my maid will also turn on the DVD once my baby is not too cooporative during the day (while I am at work)... so when I got home in the evening, I tell her I saw an article today saying bb is no good to watch too much tv... and so I want bb to watch less dvd now...

for carry baby... I told my maid when bb was 2 months old.. don't hold him immediately when he is crying .. as when he gets heavier and older... we won't have enough energy to carry him all the time..so, I want to train him not to be hold all the time...

I think the best way is to explain to your maid why you don't what to be done on BB ... afterall, we are the mami.. the baby should be raised by the way we want mar... the maid can do all her way to her own baby.

原文章由 leungwaimin 於 07-8-22 14:00 發表
im first time to hire a maid,
first ,because my health,
i need to hire a maid to take care my 6 months old baby,otherwise,i hate anyone to stay in my house
(except my husband and baby ,of cou ...

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leungwaimin

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發表於 07-8-22 16:18 |只看該作者

thanks for support me~
to prove that what i think is right!!!!
my husband also no ex to hire a maid,
always say loud :maid,you can take a rest when you have nothing to do~~~
do what you like to do~~~
help me

im sure that our maid will do it
if my husband didnt say that~~~~
and she will do more especially after what my husband say
要立定決心整個time table sin~!~!~!~!

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eshiro

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發表於 07-8-22 16:34 |只看該作者

haha.. yes.. we first time maid employer really have a long learning path!!

hmmm.. the husband is also acting soo nice and understanding ;) My husband always think I'm too strict on my maid (while I'm not a very high standard person already) and he said he has experience in living at others' home.. so he wants to be generous on her.

at the first few months, we would have quarrel about how to treat our maid. I just need to keep explain to him on my point.. not that I'm being harsh on her, but I rather be tight at the beginning and loosen up later.. coz' it'll be hard for to tighten her up if I am too loose at the beginning.

One example is that he said I should let my maid just eat whatever in our house... I explained to him that I don't really care what she eat actually.. coz' I always bought snack and couldn't finish anyway. However, if I let her eat everything and one day I bought something expensive only for ourselves.. I will have to explicitly tell her "don't eat this"... it will create hard feeling... but if I restrict her what to eat at the beginning.. but when I buy something home, I will invite her to eat.. I am sure she will be happier that way.

原文章由 leungwaimin 於 07-8-22 16:18 發表
thanks for support me~
to prove that what i think is right!!!!
my husband also no ex to hire a maid,
always say loud :maid,you can take a rest when you have nothing to do~~~
do what you like ...

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發表於 07-8-22 21:33 |只看該作者

哈, 我都係第一次請工人, 不過我覺得自己幾好彩, 請個工人本身有 4 個小朋友 (佢本人仍然好後生, 只得 28 歲), 識得點照顧初生 bb, 同埋都真係好錫我個 bb. 我的情況係, 因為朝頭早我媽咪或奶奶都會嚟我屋企幫我睇住 bb (其實係同佢玩), 所以個工人只係需要餵奶, 洗 bb 衫, 做少少家務就 ok. 喺我放產假的時候, 我一早就 set 個 example, 每日都記低 bb 食奶的時間同份量, 另外 bb poo-poo 的時間及狀態等亦都會記低. 咁而家個工人就會自動自覺照做, 仲識得自動加起 bb 每日食奶的總和, 作為紀錄. bb 食奶的時間同次數, 有時係幾浮動吓的, 因為要視乎 bb 想唔想食, 同埋佢的狀態, 呢一點我唔會太限制工人一定要喺某鐘數餵 bb. 但係如果記錄在案的話, 我返到屋企就可以睇到 bb 食奶的次數, 份量, 以及模式, 我亦都會工人商量有冇需要作出調整等等.

我覺得既然環境需要一定要有工人幫手照顧 bb, 就要對工人好少少, 但當然唔係縱容佢. 正常嚟講, 話俾工人聽自己的要求係好重要的, 咁工人先知要點做. 佢做錯嘢或者做得唔妥當, 唔好即刻鬧, 但要俾佢知道有咩問題, 要佢下次小心 d 唔好再犯. 更重要的一點就係, 要俾工人知道如果佢犯了錯 (例如打爛嘢或者唔見嘢等等), 要佢一定要話番俾你聽. 如果你下下鬧佢, 又或者罰佢的話, 佢做錯咗嘢都唔會話你聽架. 而家我個工人如果做嘢唔小心, 例如佢喺廚房粗心大意, 間中打爛嘢, 又或者太心急一次過攞好多碗碟, 我會同佢講咁樣唔好, 第一會容易打爛嘢, 第二爛咗的嘢會整親佢自己. 佢聽完起碼會覺得: 個僱主唔係淨係鬧, 都關心我的安全. 咁佢下次就會小心 d, 同埋做錯就會自動同我講, 又會主動話整爛咗的嘢會賠償俾我等等.

總而言之, 人心肉做, 要人哋對自己的 bb 好, 首先要對人好 d, 咁大家先可以相處得好.

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