don't worry, u still have chance to let her learn the skills to eat or drink by herself. just tell your maid not to help her at the beginning of the meal, let her try first, but you have to tolerate what a mess she would make. after she has tried enough, assist her to feed herself. always remember practice makes perfect. she will learn as long as there is a chance for her to learn, she will grasp the skills as long as there is a chance for her to practice. it is not her problem but the caretaker's