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WingWong


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發表於 07-11-22 02:47 |只看該作者
i were so upset recently, my 6th sense told me that my husband does not love me any more, i did ask him and he said no, but what he did does not match with what he said. His behaviour really hurts me, also makes me feel sick and disgusting, most important of all, he doesn't know he is ruining our relationship. I want to give up, i only concern of my mom, she is living with me, i have to settle her down first, i can't rely on my brothers & sisters, in fact, they are not willing to take this responsibility. I am not worry about my kid, i am sure he will take care of his kid. Before, I always thank god for giving him as my husband and i am always proud of him, but now.......maybe......if agreed by my mom, i bring her with me to a far far far place.
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Tuscany


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發表於 07-11-22 03:30 |只看該作者
Women's sixth sense is usually accurate, however, that doesn't mean your relationship with your husband is doomed. He already denied it (that he didn't love you anymore) and that could mean 1) he still loved you 2) he did not love you but did not want a divorce 3) he was just too coward to admit it.

Have you sit down and have a geniune conversation with him? It's extremely impportant to be able to communicate openly and honestly with other. Don't get too excited and say something like "I want a divorce" which you may regret later.

A good book for couples in trouble:
Relationship Rescue by Dr. Philip McGraw

http://www.amazon.com/Relationsh ... 95672825&sr=1-7
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WingWong


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發表於 07-11-22 10:47 |只看該作者
Hi, Tuscany,

Thanks for your advice, I just sent him an email this morning to request divorce and told him my feeling.
Again, he denied and told me that he still loves me, but I just don’t feel love from him any more.


原文章由 Tuscany 於 07-11-22 03:30 發表
Women's sixth sense is usually accurate, however, that doesn't mean your relationship with your husband is doomed. He already denied it (that he didn't love you anymore) and that could mean 1) he sti ...
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WingWong


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發表於 07-11-22 10:49 |只看該作者
Hi, Tuscany,

Thanks for your advice, I just sent him an email this morning to request divorce and told him my feeling.
Again, he denied and told me that he still loves me, but I just don’t feel love from him any more.


原文章由 Tuscany 於 07-11-22 03:30 發表
Women's sixth sense is usually accurate, however, that doesn't mean your relationship with your husband is doomed. He already denied it (that he didn't love you anymore) and that could mean 1) he sti ...

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ringoivy


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發表於 07-11-22 10:59 |只看該作者
不如實在d你講出黎想佢點, 你先覺得佢係loving you啦 我好想你知道每段關係到左某程度由其係有兒女的, 分心總是在所難免 聽你口吻如果離婚的話佢會好好咁照顧到d仔女, 而你就可以同媽媽遠走高飛的話, 可想而知你在呢個家付出真係唔係好多, 想問下咁小朋友既起居飲食都係你老公攪掂呀有時平平無其可能你真係feel唔到佢愛你, 所以患難見真情呢句說話好啱, 亦係比你呢d則埋一邊諗既人用 咁你係咪真係想有難然後試下佢對你既真誠呀? 我覺得咁樣你先會醒覺同feel到佢係咪愛你囉 如果同意的話你今晚試下敲跛自己對腳睇下佢會唔會好好咁照顧你啦
原文章由 WingWong 於 07-11-22 10:47 發表
Hi, Tuscany,

Thanks for your advice, I just sent him an email this morning to request divorce and told him my feeling.
Again, he denied and told me that he still loves me, but I just don’t feel lov ...
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WingWong


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發表於 07-11-22 11:42 |只看該作者
I am the one to take care of all family matter, especially my kid & mom (she is disabled), I can’t ask him to take care of my mom if I am not a family member of the house and it is not fair to him too, my own brothers/sisters should take the responsibility, to the certain extent, he is a good husband as he allow me to take care of my mom, even though my brothers/sisters refuse to.

I rush home every night after work to take care of my kid so that the maid can do cooking etc.
while he always go shopping after work and will never come home immediately after work, unless I ask him.
After home, he just finish his dinner and go online, no communication at all.
I can only use e-mail to discuss with him re family matter during office hours.
Do you think it is a healthy family life?
I keep telling him we have problem, we need communication; he will only improve for a very short period and then back to before.
In this world, everyone can survive without anyone, he earn a lot and he is able to hire a maid to take care of my kid.
The meaning of going far away mean I want to commit suicide, thus I don’t want to bring my son with me.

原文章由 ringoivy 於 07-11-22 10:59 發表
不如實在d你講出黎想佢點, 你先覺得佢係loving you啦 我好想你知道每段關係到左某程度由其係有兒女的, 分心總是在所難免 聽你口吻如果離婚的話佢會好好咁照顧到d仔女, 而你就可以 ...
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小必理痛


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發表於 07-11-22 15:33 |只看該作者
嘩，樓主，你提出離婚嘅理由好牽強喎....

乜都係由你感覺出發，你覺得你老公唔愛你，所以先離婚。你老公每晚食完飯上網，喂！好多人都係咁架啦！佢有冇Care你地Ｄ仔女？唔係冇喎。你覺得你同佢溝通少，定係你自己本身唔想同佢講野？

你而家話離婚，你仲可以好灑脫咁話佢應該可以照顧到兩個細路，至少有個工人煮飯俾佢地食。喂！Ｄ仔女唔係你生架？你好似仲想搵其他人接你個波去照顧你兩個細路.....你都幾不負責任架喎！
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Tuscany


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發表於 07-11-23 01:03 |只看該作者
Hi WingWong,

I feel so sorry for you. I can imagine how tire and frustrated you are and feeling hopeless. It's easy to feel lost and you just want to give up.

However, I've found several things that are still important to you:
- You still care whether your husband loves you or not, and the lack of interaction between you two upsets you a lot
- Your kid - there is NO ONE in the WORLD who can replace you as the kid's mother. He / she won't survive very well for the rest of his / her life if you leave. You simply cannot be replaced by money and a maid.
- Your mother - if you can imagine how sad you'll be if your kid dies, you can imagine how your mother feels.

Your life / marriage is in serious trouble and you need a plan. I strongly urge you to go see a social worker / councellor and start reading "Relationship Rescue." You will be amazed with the things you can do to change your life for the better.

So get organized and FOCUS on a plan that can improving your life. Don't sit there and feel sorry for yourself. Success will only come to those with persistence.

Believe in yourself and good things will happen to you.:-P
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Tuscany


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發表於 07-11-23 01:14 |只看該作者
Meanwhile, there is another good book that I would like to recommend to you:

"The Success Principles" by Jack Canfield. He is is co-author of "Chicken Soup for the Soul."

http://www.amazon.com/Success-Pr ... 95751267&sr=1-1

I'm only on the 5th chapter and I'm already so encouraged by the principles. I have learned that I need to take 100% responsibility of my life, that I could turn things around if I believe in myself. I'm sure you will be encouraged by the principles too.
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WingWong


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發表於 07-11-23 13:24 |只看該作者
It is not only my 6th sense, also there are many things happened to make me have such kind of feeling. I have requested for communication many many times, but his reaction just make me feel so discourage. If he doesn't like me any more, why not voice out, with his condition/background, he can always find a younger wife to start a new family. Maybe, I am also too negative, I am not brave enought to face with and so I have my own plan to .....


原文章由 小必理痛 於 07-11-22 15:33 發表
嘩，樓主，你提出離婚嘅理由好牽強喎....

乜都係由你感覺出發，你覺得你老公唔愛你，所以先離婚。你老公每晚食完飯上網，喂！好多人都係咁架啦！佢有冇Care你地Ｄ仔女？唔係冇喎。你覺得你同佢溝通少，定係你自己本身唔想同佢講野？

你而 ...
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chuaandc


民房

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發表於 07-11-23 14:36 |只看該作者
Dear Wing,

It takes courage to end your life but it takes more courage to survive and live well.

I don't think anyone else can take care of your kids better than you, don't leave them to step-mothers nor maids. You'll never know how they'll treat your kids.

Please do not think of taking your mom together to suicide, she deserves to watch you and her grand children living happily. You'll live on for her as she leaves this world.

Please think again because you will regret your previous decision and it is a road of no return. You'll be happy to choose to live on years afterwards ...
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小必理痛


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發表於 07-11-23 15:32 |只看該作者
樓主...其實你點解唔搵社工幫忙？

再者，你認為離婚，或者自殺，可以解決到問題？你覺得人地可以代替到你？你未免將大家睇得太低階。

人生行到家庭呢步，人就要懂得轉變，懂得睇透，唔可以再好似十八廿二咁，憑感覺去做事。如果現在只有你同你老公兩個人，或者你仲可以依你意願一走了之，但有左小朋友就唔同講法。我明白你現時嘅處境比較進退失遽，上有行動不便的伯母，下有以你為馬首是瞻嘅小朋友，但你真係好想好似天水圍個幾家人咁，一死／走就可以一了百了？

如果你有睇尋晚嘅新聞透視，o個位老婆婆講得好岩，你有個結，你唔試下去解開佢，反而一刀將佢剪斷，到頭黎你（或跟你手尾個位）咪又係要將呢個殘局拼番埋，再由頭解過..!?

我希望你集合哂我同各位媽咪嘅意見，認真咁攝高枕頭好好諗下，一定會搵到出路。
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