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mine is very naughty, he cries to get attention..... he's v spoiled now....

help !!!

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Yes, naughty + bad temper.
I just bought a book recommended by my friend, called Supernanny, author: Jo Frost. It has both English and translated chinese version. It introduces some methods to discipline toddler, my friend said those methods really work on her daughter...

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thx miffy0824

yes, yes, we have been reading that last weekend. found the capter on 18-24 mth - tantrum v useful. i photocopied it for my mom & my maid to get them act consistently. otherwise v hard to teach!!!!

do you know how we can improve their temper? he screams if he doesn't get his way now. we let him cry for 45 mns last sunday, he got so tired that he slept from 7pm - 7am the next day!!!!

原文章由 miffy0824 於 08-4-15 10:26 發表
Yes, naughty + bad temper.
I just bought a book recommended by my friend, called Supernanny, author: Jo Frost. It has both English and translated chinese version. It introduces some methods to discipl ...

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回覆 #1 swongsk 的文章

swongsk,
same for yathei... he would scream, cry and step his feet if we don't follow him. every morning and evening, we always need to have a fight with him for bushing the teeth. when i pretend to be angry, he would find my maid to get a hug....

I've asked my maid not to spoil him. but not sure if she will follow. maybe i need to buy the book to learn the ways too!!

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swongsk,

enoch will also cry to get what he wants (if we insist not to give it to him)... so, we tried to lecture him gently. Very often, I will use other stuffs to redirect his attention... it works most of the time.

as for getting attention, we lectured him to call us instead of cry ... now, he will keep calling 'mama mama' , 'ba ba ba baba', 'jer jer jer jer ' when he wants to get the attention of that person..........

I guess the most important point is don't give in when the baby is crying for something... coz' that would give him teh wrong message that it works for crying.

just came across with the following article:
http://forum.baby-kingdom.com/viewthread.php?tid=951856&extra=page%3D1&page=8

seems good for our reference.

原文章由 swongsk 於 08-4-15 09:50 發表
mine is very naughty, he cries to get attention..... he's v spoiled now.... help !!!

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eshiro - i think enoch is a v good boy; from looking at him at JP, he listens to Mrs Liu & v obedient vs Lucas, he never listens to strangers.... what can i do?????

wingsze - same same; such a hot temper. Lucas can cry for 1 hr, screaming & stamping his feet so much that the pants came off.

原文章由 eshiro 於 08-4-15 15:17 發表
swongsk,

enoch will also cry to get what he wants (if we insist not to give it to him)... so, we tried to lecture him gently. Very often, I will use other stuffs to redirect his attention... it wor ...

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same is bryan. if i don't follow what he wants, he keeps on crying and screaming; sometimes he even knocks his head on the floor. completely out of my control. when he is not behave well, i put him on high-chair, facing to the wall, & he will b crying continously until i release him. when i m around, the problem is worst. is that the problem more on my side?

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回覆 #1 JOANHUI 的文章

joanhui,
knocks his head on the floor --> woo.... so scared...
for me, i would put yathei in his cot.

i think maybe my mum and maid are always too kind to baby... and they will probably follow baby's request.

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其實個個BB都一樣, 為了達到目的就會一哭, 二鬧, 三大叫~~ 甜甜都一樣, 佢係女仔, 但係一樣好NAUGHTY & 臭脾氣~~ 雖然我地好錫佢, 但係就唔會太過遷就佢, 遇到佢大喊LUR地, 我地會行開, 唔理佢, 佢見到無人理佢就會收聲, 然後再同佢講道理。

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呢段時間佢地又好好玩又好頑皮，伴伴又係成日發爛渣周圍攪周圍掃，成日都比佢激到彈起，不過頂佢吾順時，晚晚同伴伴daddy講起佢d NAUGHTY野同NAUGHTY樣２公婆就係咁笑，跟住就不其然去伴伴床望下佢訓覺個樣，真係又吾嬲得佢落

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發表於 08-4-15 21:31 |只看該作者

wingsze - same problem with lucas, he stays round my mom's for 2 weeks when my helper left. both her helper & herself gave him whatever he wanted eg biscuits, snacks. he could seldom finish his dinner there. his temper got worse.

my new helper came last week, so cos i continue leaving my son there with my new helper there for the 1st week. he wouldn't follow my new helper & only stuck to my mom & her helper. & at night, me.

this week my helper started to get the hang of things, started staying round my place for 2 days in a row. he started to behave more, & no one around to spoil him, he started to eat more.

hopefully he will get better la...... changing maid + him at this age is such a bad combo!!

原文章由 wingsze23 於 08-4-15 18:39 發表
joanhui,
knocks his head on the floor --> woo.... so scared...
for me, i would put yathei in his cot.

i think maybe my mum and maid are always too kind to baby... and they will probably follow bab ...

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返開幼潛的書友仔會見過呀女都見識佢係呢３個星期好大temper
仲要佢會ｔｅｓｔ　你ｂｏｔｔｏｍ　ｌｉｎｅ

ｗｅｅｋ　１　第一回合當呀女知道佢ｃｒｙ死係對全屋人無用之後
好ｓｍａｒｔ　唔再浪費時間同你ｃｒｙ
係ｗｅｅｋ2 佢試緊其他方法　
好似肢體接觸如拍地, 打人...etc

我而家都佢鬥智鬥力緊
呢個星期沉住度air 都忍
呢2日開始有d d改善(希望係啦)

睇書都係話tａｎｒｕm係好正常

我反而擔心係speech frustration
太多lang input,但唔曉表達

不過都真係有ｄ壓力

quote]原文章由 swongsk 於 08-4-15 21:31 發表

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I do the same thing as eshiro, just redirect her attention. I don't know if this is the best method but it works most of the time. I will try to teach her to call us rather than cry to get our attention.

swongsk, your remind me to make sure my maid act consistently. I think we need to communicate more on how to teach my girl.

原文章由 swongsk 於 08-4-15 10:51 發表
thx miffy0824

yes, yes, we have been reading that last weekend. found the capter on 18-24 mth - tantrum v useful. i photocopied it for my mom & my maid to get them act consistently. otherwise v hard ...

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swongsk,

i think you can first tell your maid to follow your method while she is with Lucas... since she spent most of the time with him, so, it's very important. You were right that the maid and your mother-in-law needs to be consistence on how they treat Lucas.

For a period of time when enoch was around 8 months.. I can tell he has the tendency to know when grandma is here, he will be a bit out of control... so, my husband and I just kept 'brain wash' my mother-in-law on how we want enoch to be..... She still spoils him (i think can't help for grandma, too), but having more hesitation.

as for the maid, just need to be strict on her, too ... when she let enoch do / have anything he begged for.. I will blame on the maid ... i think the coorperation of the maid is very important, too .. as she spent most of the time with the baby.

原文章由 swongsk 於 08-4-15 17:06 發表
eshiro - i think enoch is a v good boy; from looking at him at JP, he listens to Mrs Liu & v obedient vs Lucas, he never listens to strangers.... what can i do?????

wingsze - same same; such a hot te ...

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Do you know what is the chinese name of the book? As my son is also very naughter and he would stamp his feet and twist his body to get what he want.

原文章由 miffy0824 於 08-4-15 10:26 發表
Yes, naughty + bad temper.
I just bought a book recommended by my friend, called Supernanny, author: Jo Frost. It has both English and translated chinese version. It introduces some methods to discipl ...

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回覆 #4 Babyeddie 的文章

babyeddie,
我都覺得可能佢地唔識表達，所以成日發老脾.. yathei有時同我講一連串野, 我有時真係估唔到, 咁佢就開始炆, 跟住step the feet & scream...
我想同佢講道理, 但佢好似唔明咁, 繼續發脾氣. 唔理佢咩, 佢就走去個工人度..我唯有隔一陣, 同佢玩時再講番頭先佢點唔o岩, 但佢繼續玩, 好似收唔到咁, 都唔知係唔明定係扮野...

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wingsze

好似我同廖太ｅｅ講ｂｂ想日都講打打打打
死得啦
有日我工人話佢其實唔係打打係蛋蛋
佢係真想食雞蛋
你話係唔係ｃ得

你要睇吓你工人係唔係同你地教yathei有唔同
最初我有d野會no彤彤, 好似睇完tv 一個story,
彤彤要再睇多一次
我同佢話明天再睇
佢唔開心會去姐姐度要姐姐抱,
之後問番姐姐先知我有d野緊d, 佢loose d,
所以個女係我度得唔到會去姐姐度要
後來同樣事happen, 我會叫埋姐姐一起先同佢講同樣野
佢先至stop 呢個行為
可能有時d 大人唔consisent所以佢地會ｃｏｎｆｕｓｅ
唔好比個仔覺得個工人係特別ｄ費時唔開心
同埋工人都係多ｄ時間同佢一起，明多ｄ佢地想點都唔奇

原文章由 wingsze23 於 08-4-16 15:41 發表
babyeddie,
我都覺得可能佢地唔識表達，所以成日發老脾.. yathei有時同我講一連串野, 我有時真係估唔到, 咁佢就開始炆, 跟住step the feet & scream...
我想同佢講道理, 但佢好似唔明咁, 繼續發脾氣. 唔理佢咩, 佢就 ...

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tonight, my son put on a show at my parents, crying non stop for 40 mins during dinner. i refused to hold him until he stopped crying, he screamed, stamped his feet etc in the end he calmed down a little bit, i held him. he still cried a little ie like complaining why i left him cry for so long. i tried to tell him, "you have to stop crying first" but doesn't seem to get thru. my parents were saying, too early to train/ discipline..... but i feel that my son knows how to cry & get what he wants.... what do you think mamas?

原文章由 wingsze23 於 08-4-16 15:41 發表
babyeddie,
我都覺得可能佢地唔識表達，所以成日發老脾.. yathei有時同我講一連串野, 我有時真係估唔到, 咁佢就開始炆, 跟住step the feet & scream...
我想同佢講道理, 但佢好似唔明咁, 繼續發脾氣. 唔理佢咩, 佢就 ...

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回覆 #1 swongsk 的文章

swongsk,
if that's me, i think i will let my baby cry safely in the cot. i agree that they don't understand everything at this stage but i think consistency can make them understand.

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