例一,三 won't 忍佢~ Because those are her responsibilities / duties........... I would keep reminding her (like I forgot I've told her previously, too)
例二, I would tell her to leave us alone when my husband and I are with BB. Eventually, you minimize the chance for her to say things like this to hurt you.
"離間我同我老公" <-- definitely need to talk with your husband on this. As long as your husband and you are bonded together, don't really need to care of what she said ...and next time when she is doing the same thing to either one of you, just respond her consistently that it's "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, JUST KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT"... And afterwards, you can tell her, next time don't involve when you two are 吵架.. otherwise, you or your husband will scold at her, too .
Get someone to monitor her work during day time lor...If my maid does these to me, I will put my mother in law in the house to watch her work. She knows I don't like my m-in law
Your maid seems like my previous maid.
She always bad-mouth me in front of my mother-in-law and bad-mouth my mother-in-law in front of me. She always feel my baby love her more than me. And later I fired her. I will not let the maid bully me and my family.