Don't be upset! Man is like that, but I am sure once you got the maid, your life will more easy and happy, and they (your husband and mother-in-law) will feel the same way also! Because nobody need to do the household work and you can have more time to spend with your family and son! This stage is only for a while, because if you got the maid, no argue for who will take care the baby and cook the rice or clean the house, means no argument, then everybody will be happy, and they will wonder why they did not employ her earlier!