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cacanov06


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自從上年有左bb之後, 我就冇做野啦! 第一, 我自己係高齡產婦, 接近40啦, 試左幾年至有, 所以特別珍惜! 第二, 公司係個段時間有變動, 所以再做都唔開心. 宜家bb差唔多3個月大, 屋企有工人照顧, 奶奶又會每日下午上離屋企睇住. (不過其實佢係冇野做, 又冇乜朋友, 所以每日上黎打"等")

自己原先係想做全職mami, 因為我想自己教bb, 而且講真做在職mami真係都好辛苦, 好唔夠訓, 又要返工. 另外, 自己再出番黎做野又驚唔適應. 不過, 最近自己又開始覺得係屋企有d無所事事既感覺, 因為bb上午食完就訓, 下午唔訓覺奶奶會成日搶住要抱佢咁! 我就只有上網做自己野, 好得閒! 但係, 如果我再出黎做野, 我知道會好唔捨得, 好掛住bb, 而且上午淨係得工人睇住bb有d唔放心, 今朝佢餵完bb, 又嘔奶, 好在我得閒望下bb, 工人去左做家務, 佢肯定係掃風唔夠至會咁, 但係你問佢, 佢又話掃左好耐, 真係有d唔放心俾佢一個人睇住bb添!

另外, 我其實打算一年後會再生多一個, 至於$$方面, 老公都暫時可以負担得起, 不過佢都4x有多啦.......如果你係我, 你會點樣選擇呢?
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sunggie


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發表於 08-9-11 21:04 |只看該作者
如果經濟能力許可,咁就唔好做野住.多D時間對住BB都會開心D,BB梗係自己OK就自己餵番,好親子,仲可以一路餵一路同佢傾下計...你個工人,就叫佢做家務算啦.99嚟,你咪去做下自己野,研究下BB之后食咩好...一路安排下餐單,安排下一個星期既生活,要BB學下咩,點同佢玩令佢開心D...好忙架.
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hihisasa


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發表於 08-9-13 10:58 |只看該作者
其實我都係一個在職媽媽, 依家囡囡2個月了. 依家囡囡係我家姐照顧及過夜, 由於住得遠, 我只可在假期先接回屋企住. 其實我都好唔舍得架. 不過無法啦! 我又鍾意做野, 加上我唔返工, 同老公真係無咩話題. 其實若果我係您, 若果經濟許可, 就暫時唔做野了. 因為您想生多個嗎. 因為年紀越大生, 會好辛苦架. 您應該係這個時間同大的小朋友建立關係及調理好身子, 會好快有架啦! 比心機啦! 加油呀.
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發表於 08-9-13 11:09 |只看該作者
如果經濟許可, 都係自己湊好d, 雖然俾著我都未必想做"師奶"靠晒老公, 又無同事做朋友, 由朝到晚會好悶, 如果個小朋友曳起上黎真係會激到發癲, 所以我寧願請工人和自己返工, 平衡一下自己. 但咁樣只係從我的角度去諗. 上星期我小朋友扭計唔返學, 因為我要佢返全日, 因為工人教唔到佢野, 倒不如在學校學下群體生活. 但其實佢好唔鍾意時間咁長, 上年返半日都無問題的, 佢不停咁話 "媽咪, 我唔想你返工呀." 至少佢想媽咪可以親自帶佢返學放學. 其實小朋友真係好想媽咪陪佢地多地, 我都有d心痛, 但經濟唔許可, 我一定要返工, 無辦法.

[ 本文章最後由 ioi 於 08-9-13 11:11 編輯 ]

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b9lingling


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發表於 08-9-14 00:29 |只看該作者
Good things of being a full-time mom:

1) Can take care of your child yourself and you can teach your child your way.
2) Can rest when your child rest, can sleep when your child sleep
3) Your child does stay closer to you

Bad things of being a full-time mom:

1) The more you are beside your child, the less you'll treasure the time with him/her.
2) The longer you not work, the less opportunity you'll have in career.
3) Your husbund will expect you to do more housework than ever, he would think you have nothing to do at home so the house should be sparkling clean.
4) Have to rely on your husbund $$$$, even if you want to buy a dress, you might need to see his "black face" saying you buy alot of stuff or wasting alot of money. You have no control of your financial situation.
5) You'll feel very stressful when you'll have to take care of your child 24/7. The first year you may think it's still ok, but I've been a full-time mom for 4 years and I wanna die. I don't have any personal time, even when I go to the toilet to "Or SEEE", I'll have to open the door so that my daughter can find me whenever she wants. I can't even have a haircut because I can't bring my daughter there with me, I haven't cut my hair in the past 6 mths at least.

Well, everything will have a good and bad side, depends on what you think. but for me, I dream to work again.

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jaycee_mami


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發表於 08-9-14 06:44 |只看該作者
你bb先得3個月, 剩係食奶及訓覺, 你當然覺得大把時間剩, 好無聊.

但當佢識反身, 識爬, 識行, 開始食粥, 你就會愈來愈辛苦. 睇少眼都唔得, 唔係就跌親/亂放野入口.

我唔信工人架, bb跌親, 佢無表面傷口就當無一件事, 撞親後腦都唔會同你講. 如果你出番黎做野, 叫奶奶多D上黎監場.

我都係全職媽咪, 當然明白親子時間的重要性. 我好想睇住佢成長, 頭1年係最得意可愛架. 所以我都贊成你暫時唔好出黎做野.

但問題是, 你兩公婆年紀唔細, 你老公又40歲幾, 仲要遲D再生第二個, 真係好大負擔. 我唔知你經濟情況, 但40歲幾, 俾我就計劃下退休, 留番D錢俾你剛出生的bb, 唔再生多個.
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-14 14:20 |只看該作者
你講得好岩呀, 我都要安排一下自己既時間, 尤其係下午時間, 我就黎要同我個奶奶鬧交啦, 日日上黎我屋企都係不停咁講野, 最難頂係佢都唔知講乜野, 成日講野一舊舊, 淨係識得講, 個個呢....又想講d八掛野, 但係講完你都唔知佢講乜野, 佢最唔識做就係我每逢睇緊午間新聞時候講, 叫佢收聲又驚佢嬲! 我真係要安排一下下午時間出去走走, 如果唔係就真係遲早炒大"wok"!

原文章由 sunggie 於 08-9-11 21:04 發表
如果經濟能力許可,咁就唔好做野住.多D時間對住BB都會開心D,BB梗係自己OK就自己餵番,好親子,仲可以一路餵一路同佢傾下計...你個工人,就叫佢做家務算啦.99嚟,你咪去做下自己野,研究下BB之后食咩好...一路安排下餐單,安 ...
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-14 14:26 |只看該作者
多謝你鼓勵, 我會努力架! 其實有時我同老公都冇乜特別話題, 不過因為佢有時要出差, 所以見既機會少左, 反而會增加大家話題同埋增進大家感情! 日日見到反而會鬧交添!

原文章由 hihisasa 於 08-9-13 10:58 發表
其實我都係一個在職媽媽, 依家囡囡2個月了. 依家囡囡係我家姐照顧及過夜, 由於住得遠, 我只可在假期先接回屋企住. 其實我都好唔舍得架. 不過無法啦! 我又鍾意做野, 加上我唔返工, 同老公真係無咩話題. 其實若果我係 ...
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-14 14:31 |只看該作者
咁我暫時都未曾激到發癲, 不過遲d就唔敢講. 我都好怕第時要返工個囝囝會唔捨得自己

原文章由 ioi 於 08-9-13 11:09 發表
如果經濟許可, 都係自己湊好d, 雖然俾著我都未必想做"師奶"靠晒老公, 又無同事做朋友, 由朝到晚會好悶, 如果個小朋友曳起上黎真係會激到發癲, 所以我寧願請工人和自己返工, 平衡一下自己. 但咁樣只係從我的角度去諗. ...
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-14 14:48 |只看該作者
So I still struggle on whether I work or not. I still not decided yet, by the way, it's not so easy to find a good job recently because the downturn of financial market. Probably I have no other choice but stay at home for a full time mom only.

原文章由 b9lingling 於 08-9-14 00:29 發表
Good things of being a full-time mom:

1) Can take care of your child yourself and you can teach your child your way.
2) Can rest when your child rest, can sleep when your child sleep
3) Your child ...
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-14 15:05 |只看該作者
如果你本身係對工人冇信心, 咁你一定要自己睇番, 因為你唔信佢既話你會每一日都担心, 咁不如自己睇番仲好過!

嘩得果40有冇咁快話退休呀? 除非我中左六合彩啦! 其實我又唔係賺好多$(比起我老公), 每月得個1xk-2xk, 其實都唔係好大幫助, 至於生多一個, 我又覺得真係唔係多左好多洗費, 除非你諗住要供佢去外國讀書呢!

原文章由 jaycee_mami 於 08-9-14 06:44 發表
你bb先得3個月, 剩係食奶及訓覺, 你當然覺得大把時間剩, 好無聊.

但當佢識反身, 識爬, 識行, 開始食粥, 你就會愈來愈辛苦. 睇少眼都唔得, 唔係就跌親/亂放野入口.

我唔信工人架, bb跌親, 佢無表面傷口就當無一 ...
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maozit


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發表於 08-9-16 15:29 |只看該作者
我了解到, 你考慮工作不是單從$$ 出發. 我會建議你可以試試找part-time jobs (當然, 市場未必有太多選擇, 若真找到suitable 的jobs, 便把握機會, 看看自己的market value 也好嫁. 而且, 當之後可按bb 及屋企需要, 才決定轉full-time 或quit也未遲, 故現在開始留意job mkt 行情吧).

另外, 你也可以讀一些 courses, e.g. yoga class, 興趣班, bb培育班 or 對日後工作有用的班 (工聯會有好多平courses), 故你不用日日留在家, 或對住99. 自己又多d 細藝, 人也開心d, 同老公又多d 話題.

不過, 最重要是你要與老公有共識, 也不要令99以為你"dum" 底bb不理, 以免因小失大.
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發表於 08-9-16 18:00 |只看該作者
My age is just similar to you so as my husband. I quit my job and being a full time mom with my 13 mths boy and I am pregnant again.

I totally agreed with b9lingling, Being a full time mom is not a easy thing but you will have a lot of fun. I also did not go to facial beauty and saloon for a long time. You will not have any private space. I think you are lucky you have 99 and maid to help but I don't.

Anyway, enjoy your time with your baby la!
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-16 19:12 |只看該作者
好多謝你既回覆, 你講得岩市場未必有好多選擇, 如果有既話就真係唔會咁易放棄... 我會由今個星期開始落下club到玩gym打發下時間之外又可以keep fit... 你真係講得岩啦, 有一次我出左去耐左, 又冇講低我去邊, 99真係走去打電話話俾我老公知打我小報告, 搞到我更加討厭佢....:;pppp:

原文章由 maozit 於 08-9-16 15:29 發表
我了解到, 你考慮工作不是單從$$ 出發. 我會建議你可以試試找part-time jobs (當然, 市場未必有太多選擇, 若真找到suitable 的jobs, 便把握機會, 看看自己的market value 也好嫁. 而且, 當之後可按bb 及屋企需要, 才 ...
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cacanov06


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發表於 08-9-16 19:25 |只看該作者
Congratulations to you! I fully understand the difficulty of being a full time mom especially our aging mom. In fact, we don't have much energy as compared with the young one. I thought that I could be sleepless when I was young, but now it's impossible for me......

Thanks... I should enjoy my time with my bb...

原文章由 338 於 08-9-16 18:00 發表
My age is just similar to you so as my husband. I quit my job and being a full time mom with my 13 mths boy and I am pregnant again.

I totally agreed with b9lingling, Being a full time mom is not a ...
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發表於 08-9-16 22:32 |只看該作者
You know what, I think which ever way you choose you'll think the other way is better, that's what us humans do. If you choose to be a working mom, you'll always dream to be a full-time mom so you can have more time to look after BB. But if you are a full-time mom, you'll want to work again because you'll want some personal time. Hahahaha !! It's just like when you have a job, you'll always want to have days off so you don't need to work. But if you don't have a job, you'll want to be able to find a job right away so you can earn more money !! HAHAHAHA !! No matter what choice you make, it's a very hard decision in everything !!

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發表於 08-9-17 02:57 |只看該作者
cacanov06, b9lingling,

I am a full time working mom with 2 kids living in USA. I have been struggling between my work and my kids. For each pregnancy, I was puzzled on the decision of being a FT mom or a WK mom. I really really want to stay with my kids and I believe that it's very precious moments to lead the kids to what I want them to be. Being a working mom, I have to sacrifice 10 hours away from my kids everyday. My older one goes to daycare and my younger one is taken care by my mom (she's not strong enough to have 2 in her hands). Each time when I raised my idea to quit my job, it ended up to be a big fight with my husband. He wants to prepare for the future education of our kids. So, if I quit my job, we have no choice but rely on the government's resource. But, the public education is just as suck here as compared to that in HK. Private school can be a choice but it's so expensive.

Finally, I went back to work and leave my kids with someone. Luckily, I have my mom to watch my daughter and I send my son to daycare center to prepare him to school later. Honestly speaking, I enjoy my working life so that I can have some free time on my own and I don't have to rely on my husband financially although my hubby will support me anyway. He pays for rent, food and other grocery spend while I pay for daycare, pocket money to my mom and utility.

Actually, there are pros and cons for being either a working mom or a full time mom. I would say that it's hard for both to make their choices and hard for both to perform their duties as moms. The key is to be happy on our choice and enjoy it. My hubby said that he also want to be a full time dad but he knows that it's not an option for our case.
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