i also employ indo maid. She is really good, tidy and friendly. If i were u, i will blame her. This is the problem of attitudes. If she lasts for long time and doesn't change, i will fire her. She is lazy too. Cleaning toys need long long time!!!!! My maid clean it for at least 1 hours...........
When she first came, she is polite and always say sorry when wrong. Now, whenever she said something, she will find excuse. I am also upset (or maybe should use the word angry) when I ask her to do something too.
I think we may have spoiled her a bit. Will tell her what's we want then....
About my son, that's not avoidable... I need to work and parents in law take care. And, they also want to go out sometimes... That's why my father in law always said we should treat the maid well, so that she will not abuse him.