My maid doing household works is OK, but
she always black face and she doesn't like to take care children, my daughter is 6 years old, When my daughter crying, she will ignore her, I instruct her to play with my daughter and reading the book with my daugher in summer holiday, she will do that when my daughter listen to her, if my daughter not to listen to her, she will not playing with her and she will not reading the book with her. When my daughter get wrong, She will keeps silient and not to teach her what is right. I found that she don't like to teaching and spending time for my daughter.
She like to stay in kitchen to see her book from Church and talk the mobile phone. Although she has improve to reduce the time stay in kitchen to do that as I always compliant to her. But she is not suitable to take care my daughter as she will not patience to her and she doesn't like her.
In September, my daughter will study in Primary, so my daughter will stay at home in less time. That means my maid is not to spend so much time to take care my daughter.
Shall I terminate her contract and employer another one??????
I think you should termiinate her as I don't think being an employer should accept that kind of maid.
Actually if you chinldren start primary one, they will finish school at around 3:00.. so she shouldn't have much time at home.
My daughter will go to school in P.M. only. She will wake up about 9:00 am. then 12:00 will go to school. about 6:00 pm will be back to home. so my maid will take care her about 3-4 hours only. I will take care my daughter at night time.
My maid is hard working. Of course, when I went out, she will doing her private matters. I can give her 50 marks, if total marks is 100 marks.
I just worry is If I change the maid. whether the new maid is better than her, whether the new maid can get 50 marks or more. If I not to employ the new maid, my daughter will not get better from my existing maid as my maid will not teach her when she gets wrong.
I am employing her for 11 months already, I alway emphasis her main duties is take care my daughter.
But she always make me disappointed. She like to stay long time in kitchen to cleaning and cooking. When my daughter on sick, she easy to crying, my maid will not patience to my daughter when she crying. But when she brings my daughter go out, she will buy something to my daughter if my daughter request her to buy (under $5).
I found that my maid is fail to take care children, but she is pass to cooking and cleaning.
I am very trouble to employ the maid, as I have few bad experience to employ the phil. maid.
How does your daughter feel about your maid? Does she like her?
How do you expect your maid to take care of your daughter? e.g. what do you expect her to do when your daughter is crying?
Sometimes, they don't know what to do, or their method is just ignore them, or they are afraid to get too close to the children, in case their ma'am will get jealous, or they would feel sad when they leave. Very complicated.
I think the most important thing is your daughter's feeling, she is 6 years old , she should be able to tell you if your maid is treating her well or not.
As for discipline, have you try telling your maid exactly what you expect her to do e.g. when your daughter doing something wrong? crying? not interested to read books? I wonder what she would do if she has a daughter behaving like this? Maybe she would beat her? Or she would do exactly what she is doing?
If you have already taught her how to manage the problem, and she has no improvement, then you may consider terminating the contract.
Then I think you might need to terminate her contract. Imagine, during the daytime, there is only your daughter and your maid, if they don't get along, it would be quite uncomfortable for them. And your daughter is too small to deal with your maid.
If what you need is to have someone taking care of your daughter in the morning, besides domestic helper, you may also consider local helper.
Unfortunty, I agrue with her today, when we go to market, I told her to buy something, then go to the shop she buy the tissue, because I wait her in there. But after she arrive the shop, she buy the tissue, because the tissue is put outside the shop, so she cannot meet me as I stay inside the shop to buy the liquid soap, after I buy the liquid soap, I found she just buy the tissue, I ask her why there has about 25 pcs tissue at home, she still buy the tissue, then she agrue with me, she said I told her to buy, I answer her I just told her go to the shop she buy the tissue to meet me.
I very angry with her, the issue is not misunderstanding or misleading or communicate problem. The issue is she always like to keep silent. whenever, there may be something happen, she should let me know, e.g. something was broken, damage of electricity bottom(dangerous), She will not tell me until I ask her what happen. I always tell her next time she must tell me if something happen. but so far she has not improving.
Why I still not yet terminate her contract, because she is honest than the helper I employ previously, she will finish the work that I assign to her. But her attitute is bad, always black face, owes undue care to my daughter.
Finally, I ask her whether she will improve not to keep silient when she has query or something happen that should let me know, she said she will depend on the case, she said she thought me want to buy more tissue to keep at home.
Everytime, I ask her whether she want to work here when she make me angry if she treat my daughter in bad manner.(e.g. when she bring my daughter go to playground, my maid talk with other maid and not to take care her) She will answer me "up to you"
To-night, I am very angry, then ask her to go down, when she clear up her baggage, she said I must pay her 1 month salary, then I said if she must get 1 month salary, I just give her 1 month notice, that means she must leave my home after 1 month. Then she call her friend, her friend said because I request her to go down first, even I change my mind before she leave my home, I have to give her 1 month salary, I resist not to pay her. Then we have agreed to ask the labour dept in tomorrow to clarify the related problem.
If anyone know I should pay her or not , please give me advise.
I need someone can stand-by to take care my daughter. because my daughter study in primary only, so she will no school when the bad weather. (e.g. red signal raining) and the school holiday.
Although I have no confidence with the domestic helper, but I need them to help when I go to work.
If you have good recommendation, please introduce to me.
Your case is similar to me. The story is very very long. Just summary it. My daughter also go to primary school in next month. I need to employ a maid to take care of her since my husband and me need to work. The maid came to my home in early of July. I have taken one week leave to train her. Within this week, everything is alright, her house work is great ok. But she seldom make friend with my daughter and her knowledge of home safety is very low. I always blame her about this.
After one week, i back to work, since my daughter still need to go to nursery school, the maid will bring her back to home in afternoon. during this period, i felt that the daughter don't like her. One friday my daughter no need go to school due to the storm is raised. I received her call in the morning, she cried with me said that the maid didn't allow her to call me, the maid said to her that your mummy is busy at work. I blame the maid when I back to home in evening said that I haven't told you that my daughter can't call me, why you restrict her. The maid just smile. One sunday, I gave the warning to the maid that you need to imporve your cantonese and spend much time to play with my daughter. afterward, she hasn't any improvement, she stayed at the kitchen for a long time and don't willing to go to the sitting room to play with my daughter. a few ago, my daugther complaint with me that she don't like the maid, the maid didn't take care with, my daughter said that the maid always stay either the washroom or the kitchen.
In conclusion, the maid is lack of working experience in taking care of kids, the safety knowledge is very less (include outside and at home). Finally, I fired her in end of July. She only worked at my home for three weeks.
One more thing, the maid haven't cooked the chicken wing in "well done" for twice. If only let she to cook the food to my daughter for eating, I can't image the result.
Our kid is the first priority, I suggest you to change another one with working experience in taking care of children.
My new maid has the working experience in HK for two years. I let my daughter to has the interview with her. My daughter said that she like her very much ar. I also hope they can make friend with each other when she is working at my home la.
DADA7JUN,
as far as I know, you just need to give her one month notice or one month salary.
if your relationship with the maid is not that good, you rather give her the money and let her go immiedately.....
Our relationship is not good or bad, Only she like to black face, or seems everything is not related to her.
Today is the first day of notice period, she is doing household work same as normal. But I guess her performance will be worsen after her holiday as she meets her friend.
Today, I call labour dept for clarify, the staff answer me I can give her notice, then I pass the phone to her, she talk with the staff of labour dept, my maid is no sense as she think I will not give her salary in this period of notice. The staff of labour dept explain to her I must give her salary when she rendered work to her employer. Then she sign the letter, and to work like as normal.
I just afraid I will not employ the good helper in future. the quality and the moody of helper is trend to be worse and worse.
Although my existing helper is poor attitute and very moody and cannot take care my daughter in good manner. but she is so good to doing household work and she is honest not like other helper always stolen money.
My Husband want me to change my mind not to terminate her as the reason he afraid the new one will worsen than existing one.
I just think if I cancel the terminate letter with my maid, she may think she is important to us. Because yesterday, I inform her to terminate her contract after we agrue about something. She show me she don't care.
Her last date is 14 Sept 04, I think there may have time gap because I not yet employ the new one and must waiting 1.5 months from overseas.
If someone can recommend a good helper to me. I think I must change.
Don't worry too much about the new maid. I had a bad maid before, she did not like to talke care of child but her housework is good, but I decided to fire her because child is the first priority. Now, I have a good maid, her house is not as good as the one before, but she plays with my boy and is good to him.
I will definately not tolerate with a maid like that, if I want someone to do the housework I can hire a part time. Change her....
husband is like that .........
how can you change your mind after giving notice to the maid....
Even if you change your mind, I don't think you / yr husband will trust your maid anymore, and so does your maid.
This time, don't forget to emphasis with your agent that what your requirement is.
I totally agree with MatthewMa that if we just need someone to do the housework, we dont' need to employ full time domestic helper.....
Explain to your husband......
If i were you, i will fire her immediately and then find a HK half day maid first or go to agent and search a new maid. I prefer to pay on month salary in lieu of one month notice, because i don't know what she will do, take and treat my baby or house during this month.
I just afraid the new helper like as the helper employed by "smilej". Have anyone to see the comment to indonesia maid of "Smilej". Horrible!!!
Within this two week, I think I will use my existing maid as I am not yet employed the new maid. If I found her attitude change to bad with this period. I will let her go down immediately and give her the salary.
I think my existing helper will not hurt my daughter, only poor attitute toward her and shout her when she is naughty. In fact, my daughter is very naughty, I have taught my maid to teach her what is right and what is wrong. But she only shout her when she is naughty. Whether my expectation is very high for maid to taught my daughter?
My maid just call me to inform me my daughter not to writing (assigned by me everyday). This is I request her in before if my daughter not to finish the work I assigned to her (e.g. writing and reading). But she never do this and she will ignore if my daughter not to finish the work I have assigned to her, this is the first time she report to me.
I think she want to work for us, she show me she is improving, However, I will not expect she will improve her moody style.
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