In the counseling room, we heard a lot of stories about "heartbreak". Letting go of broken relationships is one of painful experience.
A 27-year-old young mother, who separated with her husband, cried into tears: "he treated me so bad, but I still can not forget him!" Six months ago, the husband admitted that he had a child with a third party. He abandoned her then. Afterwards, she was suffering insomnia, and loss of appetite. She called the 6-year-old son to get his father back. The family lived in gloom all along.
There are a lot of stories which are similar to the above in our counselling.
At the very beginning, intimate relationships, often are romantic, magnificent, full of fantasy, like explosion of fireworks. However, when passion faded out and the fireworks dissipate, the couple may find the real side of each other. Followed by disappointment and anger, they intend to change each other. If love and tolerance does not exists in, relationships may break up at the end.
In intimacy, ones need to learn how to love. Love is absolutely not only feeling, but also putting down self interest. We need to learn how to understand each other and sacrifice for each other.
When the intimate relationship is broken to an end, there are only soul damage and personality distortion left. Facing the aftermath of the broken relationship, and accepting the truth of loss honestly requires us a great deal of braveness.
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