sorry as I don't know how to type Chinese. Please excuse me writing in English.
My husband and I are financially okay, but after 我地個 BB出世 till now 1 yr，I becomes more and more unhappy.
We used to sweet couples before,，好少嘈交，佢非常之錫我，but after BB出世, my life changed... There are too many housework that I need to deal with. I used to be the one to do all the housework before I give birth. We hired part time once a week to do cleaning but I still need to cook dinner and wash clothes etc during weekday. Now with a BB, I am very busy and tired all the time cos I need to prepare BB food and BB is very sticky and it becomes very difficult to do any housework/cooking if BB is at home. We send our BB to a EE's home everyday and take her back after work. But my BB sometimes still cry in the middle of the night and sometimes it takes more than 1-2 hrs to fix her back to sleep and so I become very tired. And since I also need to prepare BB food and bring to the EE daily, there's a lot for me to prepare in the evening. I no longer cook and we just eat out before we pick up the BB. We used to hire Phil/Indo maid but they are very picky and don't like family with NB and I am quite picky in terms of hygiene and so we changed many maids before we hire this EE. And now, I want to try to hire a maid again cos I am really tired and we no longer have personal time to watch a movie and everyday is just about preparing stuff for my BB and I also do laundry etc..... but my husband says it is a waste of energy to hire and maid and then I argue with the maid and upset the mood of the family and then fire the maid at the end. So my husband refuses to hire one. Everytime we discuss about this, he will just say he will help, but he will help for 1-2 days and do nothing after that. E.g. clothes been hanged dried for 3 days and he wouldn't initiate to help fold them and put them into closet. But I am tied up with other housework already and so I start losing my love towards him. I think how can a man who claims he cares about the family and love me cannot do more? Sometimes, he'd stick at the computer and play online game, or watch TV, without helping. If I can handle housework that I need to do at that moment, I won't kick him to help, but I reall hope he can take initiative to help, no need me to ask him everytime!
I am worry that if this continues, I will choose to leave this family, though I love my BB, but I am tired of being a maid!
i understand your situation. i m a full-time housewife with a maid. we rarely let her off on Sunday because my hubby and I don't want to spend our leisure time just looking after a baby.
on a Sunday when maid was off, i carried my crying baby, at the same time phone rang and door bell rang. my husband was in washroom, i yelled him out. this was the first time he scolded me and said it's everyone's need to go to toilet. that afternoon he was supposed to play soccer, i rejected him to go. he was unhappy as he puts soccer as priority after me. we were so 'lair hair' that day. so i called my mum immediately to help us taking care of baby, so i let my hubby played his football.
full-time taking care of a baby certainly will ruin the r/ship.
U must need to seek help from someone- either maid or relative
OR, u find a job and work, and hire a maid to take care of baby. u will then not be able to see how your maid handles your baby.
如果想舒服D,唯一只有請maid,但我覺得你都幾奄尖,試用期未滿都比你”笛”走左,甘就好難請到maid.
比著我係你老公都吾讚承你再請,男人就最怕煩,o下o下炒人,又要再請人,搞手續吾通吾煩既o羊,等你自己辛苦0下,0甘你咪會死死地氣,降低要求請個Bun bun lor.
如果你肯應承你老公,吾會為小事就炒人,我相信你老公都吾反對請maid既,吾通C6吾想舒服D 0羊。
Thank you so much all 樓主, really appreciate your advice! and I think I should just hire a domestic part time to take the workload off me. Hopefully I can find one soon!
My hubby only plays and carrys for a while. Before giving birth to baby, said he will learn to chg nappies and feed her milk, but NOW, haha, never does it. he tried changing nappies, but after taking off her trousers, he called me to change nappies.
我重曾經嬲起上嚟同老公講過我好憎佢添。
) 就我做哂。
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