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心情總有低落的時候, 加油！

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原帖由 satdonna 於 09-7-9 18:33 發表
如果有得揀......你地會選擇請工人湊女or自己湊攞公緩呢??我一路七年嚟都係請工人湊女既,但係而家外傭問題令我無信心再請,加上返工時間長,同個囡關係越來越疏遠,講真一個人揾$交屋租+工人+基本生活開支,其實生活質素 ...

你ge情況同我個朋友差唔多,佢係個美容師,單親有個女,又係租屋住+工人+生活開支,無咩時間陪個女,又辛苦到個女四歲時,佢決定放棄份工湊女去攞綜綬+申請公屋,又係屋企幫d街坊做美容+進修,生活總算ok.等咗兩,三年公屋,兩年前佢派到公屋(上水),佢有公屋後再出來工作(美容),唔攞綜綬,佢個女上咗小學,個女放學+補習+比ee湊,不再受工人氣.佢話最緊要係間公屋,可以有個穩定住所.

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我同你一樣. 我個女10歲拉, 正值反叛期, 工人知我靠佢睇住頭家又長期玩野, 要顧住揾$, 又要煩工人同個女, 真係好鬼煩.

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唔忍又可以點? 有時做人好灰, 甘辛苦返工揾$唔知為乜, 冇人appreciate 架. 個女又唔聽話. 跟我住但只係掛住 daddy..... 因為好少見. 我既責任係出$出力, 人地就坐享其城.......

原帖由 satdonna 於 09-7-9 21:29 發表

係呀,d工人知道我地無人睇住佢,有時真係好鬼串架,所以真係唔想再受氣la...mouth:mouth:" />

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原帖由 satdonna 於 09-7-9 21:29 發表

係呀,d工人知道我地無人睇住佢,有時真係好鬼串架,所以真係唔想再受氣la...mouth:

I'm also planning to get a helper to take care of my twins. Quite worried too becos it's one helper to 2 babies and if the babies are not easy to handle, will she ill-treat them?

But I'm going to try for the 1st 3 months since I have maternity leave. After that, then I'll decide. Sighhh ... it's really not easy to have reliable suppport around. I want to work so that I can afford better stuff for my kids, but yet ... ... can only pray that I will meet a helper who will really love my children. And I have to believe that if I treat her well, she will reciprocate.

Tomorrow will be better :) Press on.

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政府又無咩support，如果綜援可以夠生活，又可以照顧小朋友，仲有埋間公屋，可樂而不為？咪當係你long-term計劃中一個step，你可以既時候先再出黎做返野。

我請過一個工人，以后我都唔敢再請。

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原帖由 satdonna 於 09-7-10 19:24 發表

要揾好工人真係唔易架,你重要係twins添,有無屋企人幫吓眼呀,咁會放心d既,不過點都好la,希望你可以揾到個好工人la

My family is not in Hong Kong. So a good helper is really important. I just have to pray hard that if I treat her well, she will treat my babies well. I'm also getting an Indonesian helper. Heard that they are easier to manage. I have signed my twins up for babies care centre too, just in case. Though it's not something I can afford in the long run, but just in case the helper doesn't work out ... ...

So many things to plan and worry about ... ... sometimes I do wish to have someone to share that burden with me, to go through my pregnancy with me ... ... but I guess like what I've always tell myself ... ... it's okay and normal to cry, but after crying, make sure you stand up quickly and continue walking, the twins will be here in less than 4 months and they need you. I guess life goes onthen. Hopefully, the storm will be over and the days will get brighter and cherrier..

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Singletwinsmama, I do understand your case and know how hard your life in the coming future. I've similar case with you ten years ago. My daughter is nearly 14 now. It's very important to share your worries and unhappyness with friends. They can give you unexpected support.
Yes, you are right. Rainbow must come after raining.

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原帖由 MAMAOKLA 於 09-7-11 09:49 發表
Singletwinsmama, I do understand your case and know how hard your life in the coming future. I've similar case with you ten years ago. My daughter is nearly 14 now. It's very important to share you ...

Thanks, Mamaokla :) I know I can do it. I know I can provide my twins with a happy family. If the single mums herecan do it, so can I :)

I'm going starting to build up my social network again and yes there are lots of kind souls around and I'm really thankful for that.

Here's wishing you and your 14 year old many, many more happy years ahead. Let's continue to build happy families for our children.

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