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由大學畢業之後到現在15years，都是full time 工作．十年前阿仔出世開始有full time工人直到現在．我十年無做家務．

最近因各種原因，包括健康問題和工作不開心，老公又轉工加人工，所以suggest我嘗試下主力湊仔做家務，part time 在家接freelance jobs 做．

聽落好似幾理想．因為阿仔早上要返學，at least直到12.30pm(2 days), 1.30pm (2 days), 或甚至3.30pm (1 day)先返屋企. 我可以使用早上的時間做野，然後接佢放學．晏晝在家佢做功課我就可以做家務and take care佢，也要湊佢去課外活動

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經濟上會ok, 不過會大不如前．(我以前搵錢仲多過我老公)

一方面我想試下唔做full time, 多啲時間陪仔，打理好屋企（必定好過我個工人）．

但是另一方面有啲担心：
1. 我無做家務十年,唔知頂唔頂得順
2. 收入少好多,我要'洗盡鉛華",戒shop名牌手袋&衫& 錶 etc, no more facial and gel nails.....so on so forth. 也要少啲出街食飯(we always spent few hundreds per dinner outside, just 3 of us).

呢次改變真係會好大, not only to me, but the whole family. 真係唔知work 唔 work.

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發表於 10-1-22 09:29 |只看該作者

難得您有這個全職照顧小朋友和家庭的好機會. 不但有丈夫的支持, 又能讓自己停下來休息一下..... 這實是無價之寶!

如果您認為"物質上的享受"比"照顧家庭"重要, 那便維持原狀好了~

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發表於 10-1-22 10:35 |只看該作者

原帖由愛貓於 10-1-22 09:29 發表
難得您有這個全職照顧小朋友和家庭的好機會. 不但有丈夫的支持, 又能讓自己停下來休息一下..... 這實是無價之寶!

如果您認為"物質上的享受"比"照顧家庭"重要, 那便維持原狀好了~ ...

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發表於 10-1-22 11:16 |只看該作者

Hi Ruby
As I remember, I think u're preparing yr new home? heehee...
I think like u (I think we're similar age), but I'm stuck in low pay job w no future (worked here over 10 yrs, but friends w less experience earn at least 2x as much). I want to quit BUT I have 1 yr old twins, taken care of by 2 maids (who drive me & hubby crazy), retired hubby. I 戒shop名牌手袋&衫& 錶, facial, gel nails long ago. But still spend $$$ on eating out & some travelling. I always say, "ah, in HK, we have many choices, many here in BK can do v well with spending 10K/month, so i can quit tomorrow". But, I'm still working.
If I quit, I'm worried that I can't get anr job again if not used to change in lifestyle. But if u like or are confident re doing hsework, and hubby fully support, I'd go for it.

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回覆 3# 愛貓的文章

agree with your point!
I will vote for 照顧家庭, I think I can do it as long as my husband and my son are happy with my 'job'
thank you very much for your comment and support !

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回覆 2# meejh 的文章

meejh,

You are right !
I had bought a new flat in Nov and will move in there by mid March ! So I am thinking of getting rid of my helper from April onwards.
I am 30 something close to 40 now la. How about you ?
But we are very different that I have only one son and he's already turning 10 this year. You have 2 twin girls, 2 maids, your burden is bigger than mine.
My son is studying in int'l school P. 5, very expensive but our expenses are pretty stable now. But in your case, your expenses will be greatly increased when your twin girls go to school.
Yes, you are right that family's support is very important. As long as my hubby and son are happy with it, I think I can get through even without 名牌shopping and gel nails and facial.
One more thing same as you. I wish I can keep traveling and dining out (maybe once or twice a week). Then, there won't be much 'negative' impact to my hubby and son.

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meejh,

One more point to support my part time working decision is, I wish to have 3人世界 in my new home! Since my son is already 10, I think our need for maid is much lower than before.

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發表於 10-1-23 21:57 |只看該作者

當孩子還在小學階段，是非常值得多照顧佢地。呢段時間過後，你會更感覺金錢比不上孩子成長重要。我覺得媽媽是絕對需要把大部份時間留係家庭，陪伴小朋友成長的。長時間工作，一定唔會跟到孩子內心需要，唔值得架！

佢地長大後，會一生感激呢段美好時光。亦係塑造健康人格重要一環。我覺得做part-time is good enough la. 家庭開支係要調較，要節檢一點。但小朋友長大後，能夠係回憶中，記得係媽媽在佢最需要家長時，明白同接觸到佢既需要。這比工人那種沒親情既照顧，更讓孩子成為一個更有『情』既人，心靈亦會更自由呢！

所以你既決定非常正確，這是孩子既福氣！

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回覆 1# Candice1128 的文章

Candice1128,

Thank you very much for your words! They gave me a lot of support and energy.

In fact, my son does not welcome much my decision (I was surprised and a bit upset), although I said I will pick him up from school and and take him to activities everyday (daddy is driving him to school already). After I asked him more about the reasons why, I found that he's worrying for my helper. He likes her a lot and he's worrying that my help will be unemployed and upset. He asked me if I would help her find a job. He's such a kind hearted kid.

Thank you for the comments and supports from all mommies here. I really feel more confident and comfortable to pursue this !

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發表於 10-1-23 22:39 |只看該作者

我仔也曾為工人未來搵唔搵到好僱主而擔心，而好工人一定有自己朋友接手用啦。我仔仍會同舊工人見面，我亦著重孩子對工人既善心，所以我有請舊工人黎食下飯架！

我都轉左Part-time job幾個月，仍需要工人幫手。但可以係仔仔一放學，就聆聽佢係學校既生活，你就體會到，佢急不及待既分享，係因為自己湊番佢，先至可以回應佢咁快！佢習慣左媽媽呢個咁好既即時回應，就會心靈更平和，好願意表達自己架啦！

原帖由 Ruby1219 於 10-1-23 22:17 發表
Candice1128,

Thank you very much for your words! They gave me a lot of support and energy.

In fact, my son does not welcome much my decision (I was surprised and a bit upset), although I said I wi ...

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回覆 1# Candice1128 的文章

Candice1128,

Are u using full time or part time helper now.
What kind of part time job ar u doing? U can pm me if u don't want to 公開 that here. Thx

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發表於 10-1-23 23:25 |只看該作者

我仔BB時, 我有位非常質素好既工人, 佢做左3年幾後回菲律賓照顧佢兒子. 08年, 呢個工人回歸再同我打工. 我而家仲用緊佢, 佢好幫到手. 所以佢一天未退休, 我都請佢架!

原帖由 Ruby1219 於 10-1-23 23:18 發表
Candice1128,

Are u using full time or part time helper now.
What kind of part time job ar u doing? U can pm me if u don't want to 公開 that here. Thx

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發表於 10-1-23 23:30 |只看該作者

Hi Ruby
Yes I'm close to 40 ah. & yes, i can tell u're making the right decision. There are 3 of u, yr son is getting older (can take care of himself), r confident in doing hsework & yr husband support. As far as spending less, maybe it is good in that we really start thinking about what we need/want instead of buy & buy & buy.
But Ruby, thinking back these 10 yrs, do u wish u could have quit/part-time earlier? if u have a chance to go back in time, knowing what u know now, would u still work full time?
As far as expenses, I'm getting really cheap cheap now. I used to think, I may send my kids to int'l school. After really thinking about the costs, na.. maybe int'l kinder, then when it comes for me to write that cheq, I'm thinking, maybe just the regular kinders, as long as the kids are happy..but they really seem to be happier at the expensive playgroups, but even then, I picked the cheap one...sigh...

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發表於 10-1-23 23:46 |只看該作者

得嫁,我都係轉左做全職媽咪兩個星期,我之前都係請工人,我個仔仲得20個月大,未返學,只有佢訓覺才有dd時間,兩個星期後,我已覺得已熟習,出來工作都唔易啦!屋企家務唔會難到我地ge.不過,如果唔係真係完全負擔唔到,可以搵個家務助理一個星期來一兩次幫下手.

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回覆 2# meejh 的文章

Um...I never look back wor. Not my style. Haha.

I think I would still choose to work in the past 10 years. If I did not do that, my son won't be able to go to int'l school. That's very important to us. We have very 'healthy' and good family relationship becos we put him in int'l school. No fights becos of homework, tests, exams...
Also, back to 10 years ago, my husband's salary is not enough to cover our expenses. If not becos of my past hard-working 10 years, I won't have the confidence to work part time and earn money for the family.

But it's interesting question. I enjoy answering it. Thanks.

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