My first BB was just born on Dec 04. He is 4.5 months already. My doctor told me yesterday that I am pregant again (8 weeks). I need to decision to keep the 2nd BB or give it up. Financially, I can afford. But I don't have such time & effort to contribution to 2 BB especially when they are in school. However, I think it would be good to have a brother or sister for my first BB. Do you have any advice for me !!!!!!!! :-( :-(
Hi,
Don't give up. You know, you are one of those lucky ones who can conceive and can have a healthy pregnancy. I know that you have put in much effort and time but it worths. You may regret later on if you give up the baby.
my case is same as u la, my 1st bb was born in Sep 04 and i am pregnant now la (about 16 weeks lu), i was confused when i know this news but i determined to accept lor, its my own bb wor, cant give up
Originally, my 1st BB can obtain all my Time & has fully financial support by me. But now, 2 BBs woh!!. How they have examination in school and I need to work. How can you share your limited time for them. If I only have one BB, he can have the best from me. You know, nowaday, we not only need to feed them and play with them. I need to decide within in these two weeks. what to do!!!!!
If I were you, I will keep the 2nd BB. Since if their age is so close (within 2 years), they will play with and talk to each other when growing up. Thus, saving your time to play with one BB alone. After years, you will be very happy and 輕鬆.
I am already 36 years old. Our family planning is 1 BB only. No one can help me. Even I employed one maid, how can she take care two BBs and they age is so close (1 year only)
At the beginning, my husband said that financial is not a problem. (but we are not rich, just no need to worry about basic living requirement and can move to a bigger house with 3 rooms). His opinion is 50/50 and has one more is also ok, not bad. But after I analysis that our responsibility is much much heavy e.g. 1 person (our maid) cannot take care 2 BBs alone & how to arrange our time when they are in examination. You know, even primary school is not easy today. After above analysis, he said give up is also a good decision. The responsibility is really heavy. He said we use two more days to think about it. Other than above reason, in my opinion, 2 BBs is better. But we have to consider real life.
Why are you worrying about examination now? This is quite far away and there is your husband and you, each could take care of a child. That could work, right?
Let me ask you. If you are giving this baby now, are you still going to have one in the future?
No, our family planning is one BB only (I am 36 yrs old already). Examination is far away but it is real. We need to think about it even far away because it is coming to us sooner or later.
If I were to choose to keep the baby and being stressful during their primary school times, I definitely will go for the baby.
Sorry if I offend you, but 'examination' is not a good excuse to give up the baby who is already having a heart beat living in your womb.
You know what I mean?
JarJarBin, may be you have lots of worries for now or in the future, but I don't agree to give up a life... especially it's created by you and your husband. Please don't mind if I say this... why don't you have birth control if your family planning is only having one child? And you know, having a baby is a luck to both of you... many couples can't have any even they have tried very hard. Please don't mind for what I said... but I really hope you can consider more carefully... Take care~
Don't give up the baby ar. I juz born my baby now he is 1 month old, but I really want to have my second baby soon ar. u know have brother or sister is very good to child. They can have more fun especially their age is close. No need to worry about their school work la, maybe your kids is smart enough no need u to worry lei. if u scare your maid can't take care 2 babies at once, u can ask your parents for help. or if financial OK u take care your 2 babies la. This is much better than maid take care ar. It's life, think deeply.
You should know that consequent will happen, then why don't you have a safe sex at the beginning? I think the responsibility should be taken by yourself, but not the baby.
If the financial is not a problem, think it thoroughly and seriously before action. You know, it is talking about a life involved. Be sure, make yourself no regrets in future !!!
Let me say something. I have two boys. One bron in Mar 2000 and the 2nd one in June 2001. They are 5 & 4.
I was planning to have the 2nd one two years later but he come suddently!
Now, my two boys are very friend, they play, share and flight together. They love each other very much.
Take caring two babies is very busy. You worry a maid can't handle but it all depends what you expect the maid to do. Since the babies are no. 1, thus, during day time, my maid take care the BBs and when we home, she starts to prepare dinner and take care the housework and we take care the BBs.親子時間
Taking about study. They are now in K1 & K2. They have exam too. 我哋味一人跟一個．Starting from the big one, I let them do the homework in the afternoon by themselves and I'll check when I home.養成他們自動自覺( I work quite late. I'm still in office now!)
Please do consider that you BB will have bother/sister to share. I enjoy their friendliness, I used to sit on the sofa and "see" them play or we play together.
Please BB is a gift from GOD. Don't be so worry and don't give up. You can get through.
same as me! My first baby is 1-year old and I am now 9 month pragnent. At the beginning, I had the same worriness as you do now, however, it's really great if the two babies are more less similar age -- they can share their time together without much problem, even more they might be able to help each other out and have a positive outcome! Time and effort, it all depends on yourself -- if you love your children, you will be able to share and enjoy your life together with them!!! More important is, your another half agree and support you! Especially if you are financially ok, why not just accept this valuable life happily? Not so many people can have two children without considering financial problem...
together. They love each other very much.
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