in fact, there are lots of things can be done.
if the situation is very very serious, some doctors will give pills to people to balance the hormones. These signs come out because there is a sudden drop or change of hormones. However, pills are only for extreme case, and there are lots of side effects, such as more probability of cancer....etc.
In normal cases, you can use some 'female essential oils' to balance the hormones or at least, make the menopause more gradual instead of sudden change.
Essential oils such as bulgarian rose, geranium, jasmine, neorli....can help.
Another thing is a traditional chinese treatment which is good for all woman, not only during menopause; called Moxa Treatment, or Moxibustion.
For the above essential oils or moxa treatment, you can visit Alqvimia Aromatherapy Shop in Causeway Bay.
Since it's due to hormonal reason, we can't help or soothe the problems/experience unless balancing the hormones.
I think for the emotion side, they need to be loved and cared. Please understand, just like adolescence, the emotions can be unstable or shifting sometimes. Give more support, and patience within the family.
One emotion problem is they will be less optimistic or easy to be sad. Neorli or orange or mandarin essential oils will help;