you're not 刻薄, actually i feel that you're so kind. you give her extra $160/month for snack. maybe point 4 she feel shame. another point of request is standard on every family. nobody accept the floor is dirty. my maid wake up at 6am cos my son need to catch his school bus at 6:40 and sleep at 10:30-11pm cos she need to finish to rub the floor & wash the dish and than take a bath & shampoo (she's really slowly to work), she can't eat our instand noodle, she can eat egg noodle and rice vermencilli. instand noodle is only me/c6 to cook at mid-night by ourselves. on her day off is 8am-7:30pm.
men always 刻薄 their wives but never 刻薄 their maids.