i totally understand where you coming from cuz i have the exact same feeling. ppl keep asking me if i am excited but i am not. I am happy through out the whole pregnancy but i cant say i am very excited right now. maybe the due date is in 2 weeks and it is my first time to be a mother and really dunno what to expect.
thou i am worried sometime what to expect after giving birth cuz i am living with my mom-in-law and worried that i might got depression when dealing with the baby, my hubby and my mom in law at the same time.
U still can live wif ur mom in law, that's very good. I lived wif her before but I was really sad, that's y after I had my baby, I went back to my moms home n separate wif my husband
Before I thought I can deal wif her but our culture are totally different, i change my mind to ask my mum to help to take care my baby. Now, I have other things to worry... I am afraid she will ask me to bring baby to her home very often (I will live in my mums home wif baby) n also worry about the relationship wife husband, coz he can't always c me n bb
My c section date will be 5/11
Mika, why your husband could not always see you and BB ar?
For me, I dun have very good relationship with my 99, thanksful that she will not come over to see the baby at all! Indeed I have never seen them since I got pregnant and my husband doesn't force me. That actually makes me feel even better!
I will have help from my mother and the 陪月, later on the maid will arrive as well, husband will take two weeks VL to stay with us. My problem is I hate to have so many ppl in my flat coz' I am use to be quite alone....
Oh well, go with the flow is what I am going to do, let's see how it would be!! Right now just do the things that I wanna do, go anywhere that I wanna go and enjoy life!!
Coz I can't live wif my in laws, but my mums flat is to small to let my husband n bb to live in. That's y he just can come to visit us sometimes, if stay overnight maybe once every 2 weeks. He doesn't want to rent a flat, he wants to buy, but since the price now is too high, we have to wait. Becoz of the living problem, we already argue many times that's y I am afraid our relation will be destroy;(
But ur husband is very very good, he won't force u to get along wif his family, my husband is good and respect my feeling too but he is just too young or too simple minded, he will try to ask me to get along wif them... Which is I really cannot...I already explain to him many times, most of the 99 n wifes are like that, but he doesnt believe... Maybe he has no girl friends that already married but I have many friends alr married thats y I heard so many complaints from a wife to 99.
Maybe my case is a but special that my 99 is really a bit mad, sometimes scolding my husband without reasons so my hubby won't force me. Plus I have really strong character and own thought
Add oil and be focus on the coming little one is what we should do now.....other stuffs ma, we can only see what will come la.....
Me too, my hubby also seldom talk and touch my tummy, he never prepare baby's thing with me, he seldom to ask the baby condition after follow up, I really unhappy, but he want have baby at beginning
Similar situation here, my hubby will shop for the baby's stuff & visit the doctor with me, but he just dun hv any contribution on which stuff to buy or what to ask to doctor!! Most of the time, he just stand there!! And he won't touch or talk to the baby voluntarily!!!!!
I'll also stay with my parent's for 坐月coz my 99 won't be able to take care of the baby (though she lives very near us)... but as she knows that I'll stay with my parents, she seems not very happy and always implies that my hubby can't see our baby very often!!! How selfish that is!!!!
I just hv a feeling that only my family actually cares about the baby!! & this really frustrated me!!!!!!!!!!
No, I don't know why? May be he think I can handle it, coz I on no pay leave, and I used to be very tough and independent, but I always have negative thinking after got pregnant!
I think most fathers-to-be are a bit detached. We are different as we can feel the baby in our tummy all along and we are more excited / or anxious about the baby delivery experience. But I think the bonding will be stronger once the father can see and touch the baby.
In terms of baby stuff shopping, my hubby is also quite reactive. I've done most of research and shopping by myself. But I guess it's quite common coz women usually are better at shopping or browsing around for purchase options. So I don't force my hubby too much to contribute time or ideas.
I just hope my hubby will be more responsible after the baby is born. He told he probably will have nothing to do when the BB arrives cuz the house will be filled with women. My 99 my mom my sis and the nanny. :;pppp:
The other thing that I am worried is that given I am living with my 99 thou she is a very nice person I know there will be conflicts on how raising the BB. We never have a single fight cuz we have been very nice to each other but I know the whole situation is going to change when the BB arrives.
I think I need to prep on how to deal with my 99 more than dealing with the BB.
Indeed I have never seen them since I got pregnant and my husband doesn't force me. That actually makes me feel even better!
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