BK各位JM,你地結婚的時候,係點樣同阿媽商量禮金??
discussed with my mom first, I didn't bargain
係自己先同阿媽講好,之後再同未婚夫一齊傾?
agreed with my mom first, then I talked to my fiance
還是等阿媽同自己未婚夫傾??
No, of course not! Please don't do that!
你地禮金銀碼係阿媽要求,還是老公講自己能力比到幾多,睇下未來外母接唔接受??
$ = my mom's request
唔介意的話可否講下你地的禮金是多少?(參考下)
higher than your mom's request (no wedding parties & we pay cake cards & foreign country's wedding fees)
有無人真係試過傾唔店架???
No, I didn't argue with my mom & my hubby agreed (當時, 他夠錢; 現在我們很窮(不關那些禮金事))
If you really feel $200 000 too much, you should suggest to pay at least half of the sum first & then the remaining balance: you can ask whether you can pay in 12 - 24 months! If your mom disagrees to this proposal, you may find some friends/relatives of your mom to help you to persuade your mom!
I hope you can go through this smoothly, I don't want you to be my friend's 翻版!
My friend because of this problem, her mom did something really bad on her wedding parties (in the church & in Chinese restaurant)!