My son is now 26 months and already study in nursery for 1 months. His class teacher always call me and ask me to go to the health centre to check whether he is normal or not. He has the following behaviour problem.
1. Not willing to play with other student
2. He will cry if the class teacher is away from him.
3. Cannot concentrate for long time.
4. unwilling to do the art except drawing (I think he is afraid of touching the glue)
5. if he see other student left the school earlier than him, he will cry and angry.
I feel very worry about this. I don't know how to do. Is it the normal behavioural problem for the new joiner?
The long answers are:
1. Not willing to play with other student
Did they provide you (or your maid) a transit time to familiarise the place? Many nurseries arrange mother/maid to accompany the child fully in first 1 week and then gradually reduce it.
2. He will cry if the class teacher is away from him.
Small child could afraid of many things, do you think he like the place?
3. Cannot concentrate for long time.
Stubid, how long did they expect a 26 month old to concentrate?? 5 minutes? May be some child can but this is not a normal expectation.
4. unwilling to do the art except drawing (I think he is afraid of touching the glue)
My son also afraid of touching the glue before 4 years old, but he is perfectly normal.
5. if he see other student left the school earlier than him, he will cry and angry.
Again, small child will be afraid of change, this is just their expectation.
I am not against the idea to validate your child with health professional, but I really hate to do it before the teacher taking any action and work out a plan with you.
I also think that there is no harm to do some professional checking. My son is still talking baby language, he don't know how to explain his feeling, so he always cry. When he see stranger, he will feel uncomforable and cry immediately. Even though he go to his grandparent's house (we go there weekly), he also need to warm up everytime.
I feel the pressure deeply. My mother always blame me, I just cried last night..... she said I don't know how to teach my son, as my son always cry in front of the relative and friends. She blame to let the son go to school so early.
Luckily, my husband understand the situation so much and show really strong support to me and our son. As I am pregnant now, he ask me to relax and he think that the situation will be improved soon.
I think my son need to take some time to familiar with the schoollife. I should be patient.
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Since my son join the nursery in Nov, there is no transition period (the transition period is in Aug). May be my son has to face all stranger himself, he always cry and not willing to follow some instruction.
My son also started in June, we couldn't accompany him either. But the nusery specially arrange the girl in my neighbour who played with my boy to come out and welcome him every morning. My son did cry sometimes, but soon became OK. Also he started to attend for 1 hour only, then 2 hours, half day then full day.
We did always brought him to other house and playground so he's not afraid of strange place. Perhaps you could consider this habit too.
lpymama 寫道:
Since my son join the nursery in Nov, there is no transition period (the transition period is in Aug). May be my son has to face all stranger himself, he always cry and not willing to follow some instruction.
you son behaviour is just normal, my girl could not express herself by words until she was 2-years-4-months old (i.e. after starting N1 for four months). It seems that the nursery spend little effort to accommodate every single child to adapt new challenge for stranger and new environment. Some child is quick and some need more time and attention.
I agree with circleda, find another nursery...the "problem behaviour" is on nursery's side not the child himself.
I am not intend to criticize the nursery that your son is attending, but it is really inconsiderate and ridiculous by not offering transition period/method just because your son is young that cannot catch up with their normal schedule by Aug, transition period is important for a child as young as 2-years old......By the way, would you mind telling me the name of that nursery ?
I completed a questionaire to the school at the end of Nov, I will bring up the issue of transitional period. The teacher called me and explained their view point: it may arouse the emotional problem of other students. But I told them other nursery also offering this transitional period to the son of my friend (who is also join the nursery in Nov), my friend can sit at the back of the classroom and her son can play with other student and established a relationship within the traditional period.
Hope that they can consider to improve their policy.
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