If you remeber, I have once posted here to ask whether I should fire my maid who came to work on 19.11.2005. She is still with us because I delivered my baby girl 2 weeks early on 11.11.05. After that, I was not feeling well and have no energy to find another maid.
So far, I am the one who feed, change diapers, and bath the baby. The maid simply continue to live like a Queen in my house. She only does what she likes to do, she like cleaning, so she keep wiping my floor, kitchen, cupboard and the baby is crying loudly in the living room. She does not care at all.
After "talking" to her for many times, she pretends to be interested in taking care of the baby. How? she watches me changing the diapers, feeding and bathing the baby. (She never asks what she can do, it seems like that she is a SUPERVISOR).
She does not know how to cook. I have to cook the dishes if my mother does not come. (I am really sorrry for that as my parents live far away and she is over 70). Our QUEEN still not satisfies and show long face when I told her to follow my mom's instructions. She seems not understand ENGLISH when you try to give orders. But understand when getting her salary.
My husband caught a flu because he helped me at night. He then slept on the sofa to avoid infecting me and the baby. Our Queen switched on all the lights at 7:00 am and start to clean the living room as usual and woke up my husband (he is very sick and wearing a mask). When I talked to her about this, she did not seem to feel sorry at all....this is really unbearable.
I need a maid who is willing to take care of a new born. Just 2 adults and 1 baby. Must have experience and love children. Honest and able to communicate in English.
My maternity leave will end soon. If I cannot find anyone, I have to send my dear baby to some care taker and I cannot see her everyday. If you have any recommendation, pls help. Thanks a lot
Please choose 1 good maid as need to take care a infants, please note that you can find a nursery centre to take care your infants until you can choose a good maid. (I had employed 6 bun bun previously, but they are worsen and worsen, I employ a yan yan currently.)
my husband is such a nice guy that he prefer to let the maid to sleep in her room
This afternoon,i really really decided to fire her asap though she is a single mom.
i gave her her pay cheque,she asked if she could call the bank hotline as her ATM card is eaten by the ATM. i told her to call after the baby woke up. after a while, baby woke up and cried. i was busy preparing the milk for baby. the maid just ignored the crying baby and make the phone call
after feeding the baby, i tried to put baby to sleep, maid suddenly said loudly, 'mum the line is busy.'...is this my responsibility to help her to get the card. her noise has woke up my baby and i cannot put her to sleep after almost 2 hours. i am still holding her with one hand.
meanwhile, i told her to comfort the baby and put her to bed, she showed a long long face and show me her back when she is holding the baby....i toldher to change the position so thati can see the baby's face. i see that she is very impatient with the crying baby......i have to hold my baby even though i have an injured left wrist :-(
i just hired a bun bun yesterday. but are very scare about your experience. how can you choose a good bun bun in just a 15 min interview? what kind of question should be asked? or is it all by chance if we get a good maid or not??
I think you should fire the maid asap. How can you leave your baby in her hands when you're back to work?
Keep looking for the local nanny and a maid who has finished a contract here. The latter can report for duty within a month.
For taking care of nb baby, try to find a mature maid, say even over 40. They would not be so picky
as they know their market is not as good as the young maids. The most important criteria must be having experience in taking care of nb baby.
Thanks so much for all of your responses (both here and pm). My little girl is taking a nap so I can write again.
My mom-in-law visited us last nite and I was so silly to tell her that our maid was useless. She was very worry but she could do nothing as she was too old to take care of the baby. I felt sorry that I really don't want anyone to be unhappy.
Our QUEEN continued to live happily. She is now washing her clothes. Even she has 2 days off (1/1/06 plus rest day), she did not do it. She must wash her clothes on her working day. My hubby said I should not be so MEAN....forget about it, MEN are from MARS...., he doesn't know how the Queen treat me in the day time. POOR me, I signed the contract and paid that maid....
The only reason why I kept her is the RESIDUAL VALUE, she could still help to wash the baby clothes and bottles.....though it is really expensive to have a helper to do just these things.
We hire her from Overxxxx, I have complained to the agent before but no use. The agent just ask someone who can speak takalog to talk to her....I am not going back to the agent to find a replacement, no confidence at all.....
Anyone who has any recommendation, pls PM me. Million Thanks
Poor you! I believe the most hardship is that your husband do not understand your situation. Maybe you should keep your mouth shut in front of your husband, find an excuse to leave the baby to your husband's hand on a weekend with your QUEEN at home.
If I were you, I'll insist to kick her out immediately. Then find a part-time local maid to do her Residual value and cooking everyday. (3-4 hours a day should be sufficient).
Not worth to pay to keep this 'queen' at yr place, kick her out asap and find a parttime first. If she does not help to take care of the bb at all, don't be scared of her, give her more housework to do!
Can you PM your agent's info to me pls?
I may need a maid later.
Do you have good comment on this agent?
It seems your husban's sister, brother and you also satisfied with the maid they found.
i think you are also responsible in making her a queen. due to a long story, my maid arrived just 3 wks before the end of my maternity leave. so i trained her to do the household work in the 1st wk, feed my baby in the 2nd wk and then change the diaper in the last wk. she is young and non-experienced, but so far she is performing ok. you must give them clear instructions and stop any unacceptable behaviour. be more active in all matters, including complain to the agent.
are you still let your maid just like an queen in your house? it seems that you are doing nothing and just let the things go on!
did the agency have the responsiblity to change a new maid for you? because you are not satify!
and i think that the maid have break the contract ,because the contract with you and she is taking care the baby ,but now,what happen!
reach the agency again and tell what is happening!
or it is better for you to amploy a new maid!
i agree with mangolee too. seems that there are two sides of employer:
1) always against the maids, blaming them for everything
2) willing to communicate, see what yourself can do
it's the first time i got a maid. at the beginning i didn't know what to do, facing this stranger every day and your husband would not do anything. i tried my very best to keep my temper and talked to her. for many times, i found out she had her reason and solved the problem together.
may be i am lucky to have this maid. but at least, i will do what i can. If it doesn't work, then i will not hestitate and find another one.
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