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男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 08:16 |只看該作者

成日都覺得好唔開心

同老公識左8年多, 結左婚都差不多4年. 結婚前老公話結左婚之後會幫我供樓, 但係間樓供左6年, 佢一分錢都未出過, 成間屋都由我一個人來供, 屋企上下所有既開支都由我一個人來負責, 有時真係覺得好吃力, 自己死慳死底都可以既, 但係個心就會好唔開心, 好唔平衡, 唔明點解老公唔幫手分擔家庭開支, 心想 就算佢自己一個出去住都要比屋租, 仲有燈油火錢, 想想下又覺得佢好自私, 好似當屋企係酒店, 返屋企就只係睇電視同睡覺, 呢幾年來曾經同佢提過2-3次呢個問題, 但係一講到呢d問題, 佢就會扯火, 話我想迫死佢.........錢方面自搵唔多, 只係一萬元鬆少少, 但一個月只用係屋企入面既基本開支(供樓加水, 電,等等), 未包交通, 膳食, 置裝, 應酬費, 購買屋企所需既日用品都用我6000幾元, 錢呢樣野, 無既咪食平d, 食少d, 可以自己控制到. 其實同佢開口既目我並唔係真係叫佢比錢我, 只不過想睇下佢有無負責係到, 佢可以同我開口話 " 無好意思呀, 我唔錢呀, 辛苦妳先la " , 只要佢同我市講, 我係絕對無問題 (女人就你咁, 鐘意聽甜言蜜語), 最多咪唔碌咁多卡都同你捱, 我知道佢收入唔多, 只是我薪金的一半, 所以我都儘量去配合, 但係至少佢要比我知道呢個係佢既家, 佢要讓我感覺到佢有責任, 而唔係讓佢想呢度係一個讓佢飲食, 睡覺既地方.

想得多, 就越令自己心裡難受, 心裡唔開心又令到自己心理不平衡....

對唔住, 咁多位, 阻左大家既時間, 亦多謝bk讓我可以係呢度吐下苦水, 發洩一下.
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子爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 09:00 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

你有無小朋友呀? 撇開錢講, 佢有無關心同愛護你?
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發表於 06-10-14 09:01 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

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水晶宮

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發表於 06-10-14 09:05 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

其實個重點唔係放在"家用"上面,嫁得比佢就唔好咁計較d 錢, 最緊要你覺得佢愛你咪夠囉! 香港地,有幾多男人獨力養得起老婆仔女? 多數都係2公婆一齊捱。


大宅

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發表於 06-10-14 09:19 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

感覺上我覺得佢唔係一個有責任感既老公.... :-|
搵多搵少..責任上都應該對個家有貢獻


男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 09:47 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

jennyleung ,

無呀, 我地未有小朋友, 本來去年第一次懷孕, 可惜小產了. 除了錢方面, 佢有時都對我幾好ga, 可能係我自己覺得唔滿足, 因為佢對佢細佬妹, 佢父母, 同埋佢d朋友都非常好, 有時我就講佢說笑咁講, 我希望可以做你既朋友, 因為你對朋友真係好好 (其實我想反應我心裡面想講既說話, 但又怕直接講左出來, 佢會唔高興).

有時係大事上佢對我好好, 還記得去年小產時, 佢對我講既一番說話, 令我覺得我無搵錯老公 (本來我知道有左果時, 話比佢知, 佢一d驚喜都無, 反而我仲覺得佢好似唔係幾開心咁, 可能係因為finance果方面既問題), 我還記得果刻佢附忍眼淚, 唔想比我睇到, 因為我當時已經哭到成個淚人咁, 仍唔想我再傷心.

但係我地成日都會為左d芝麻綠豆既事來0曹, 我身為一向唔係咁好, 容易成日病, 但係佢好似唔係幾體諒我, 有時我唔舒服, 話比佢知, 佢會投訴話都唔知點解我日都話唔舒服, 成日都有病, 所以如果我唔舒適, 都都唔想比佢知道, 費事仲要聽佢說話.

我自問每次係佢唔舒服或有病時都好著緊佢, 但係呢一點, 佢從來都做唔到, 我知道呢個世界上 半斤係不等如八兩的, 但一聲問侯, 一句噓寒問暖都唔係好過份ge, 點解都做唔到.
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侯爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 10:04 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

同你個case差唔多, 一屋嘅開資都係我出, 我老公搵得唔多, 但佢都有比少少家用我架. 我又唔係好介意, 因為嫁佢之前都預左. 同埋佢都好錫我同仔仔
其實係咪你老公真係唔夠洗先至幫唔到你咋.
兩公婆唔好成日講錢, 你越講得多, 佢越覺得你睇唔起佢, 棧傷感情, 又攪到自己唔開心.
放鬆d!


男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 10:07 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

Esmond'sMom,

He never paid a single cents for this house, no matter the daily must expenses, such as mortage, management fee, fixed line phone, mobile phone, gas, water, electricity, or the meals, household fees, everything. Even there's no tissue and rice at home, he didn't go to buy by himself. For me, money from him if not really a big deal, what I want is just let me know he lives here, he has a responsablity !!! After talking, complaining and arguing server time for the last 4 years, he's improved a little bit (at least it's good starting step), he went to supermarket to buy rice twice by himself. I discovered that he doesn't like to go to supermarket, and he often complained that I buy too much whenever I go to supermarket.....These days we didn't have drinking water at home coz the supplier couldn't deliver the 5 gallons bottle water at the right time, so I bought 3 1.5 littles water on Monday, and all of it has been drunk, I noticed that we didn't have anymore drinking at home last night when I came home, why he didn't go to buy by himself yesterday ??!! Why ?? Lazy ? Too busy ? Waiting for me to buy or due to some other reasons ? So I went to supermarket to buy 2 bottles of 1,5 little water and hide it somewhere at home (am I too bad ?!). He didn't ask me if I bought or not, coz I told him on monday that I would call the deliver on saturda while I'm on holiday. I;m so confused if he doesn't think / treat this is him house and home (therefore, he thinks he has no reponsability), or he doens't want to spend money on the necessity of home or he just rel on me..................
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男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 10:16 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

晴B媽 ,

兩公婆一齊捱, 唔緊要, 佢能力唔夠, 我自己一個人捱都唔緊要, 但至起碼佢要比我知道 / 感覺到呢個係佢屋企, 佢有個負任係到, 佢從來都無問過我一個月係屋企既洗費要幾多, 亦都無係行動 / 或 字眼上話要比屋企既費用, 就算連佢用既手提電話費全部都係我比 (因為全部單據都用自動轉帳), 7年la, 我同佢比左手提電話錢7年, 佢只係比過唔超過5次, 所以我覺得佢係一個無負責人既人, 至少係對屋企, 同埋對我方面, 但係佢對佢d朋友又好好, 有時出去同朋友食野時, 貴或平都好, 佢一定會自動第一時間比錢, 唔使開聲, 即使佢唔夠錢係身, 佢都堅持要比, 最多問我借住先. [size=x-large]我想要既唔係佢錢, 而係佢既負責心 !!!
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男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 10:20 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

Super-Man ,

我知道佢搵錢唔多, 所以亦不會經常將個錢未放在口邊, 呢4年來, 只係係我好怒, 好傷心果時才同佢提過呢個問題, 次數亦只在3-4次之內, 我怒, 我傷心係因為佢對呢個家好像沒有責任似的, 而不是著重係錢方面
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子爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:03 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

睇曬你d文章, 你老公d格好似我叔仔呀, 佢未結婚既, 我知佢爭卡數有幾萬, 又爭我老公錢.....對屋企人老鳳, 對出面d人另一個樣, 把聲都唔同d...通常當呀媽係工人, 屋企係酒店,但有時又會對佢呀媽好好嫁喎, 幫佢洗碗, 帶佢行街咁....

我身體都唔係咁好, 最近我都病幾次, 我老公都唔會講咩關心說話, 我問佢你唔擔心既咩? 佢打個突先問候幾句, 佢病時我反而緊張, d男人係咁嫁, 通常都唔細心, 但佢唔細心都好, 細心果d好易惹到女仔嫁


其實你嫁比佢都知佢搵少你咁多, 出曬都無計, 佢個格又對外"行"概, 對你姑行, 佢d錢係唔係都洗曬朋友身上呢?! 仲有男人都係要面, 你搵多過佢咁多我唸佢都幾自卑嫁....可能對朋友闊綽先可以為佢自己搵番d尊嚴啦

你睇開d啦, 都咁多年, 佢都好難會突然變啦


男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:06 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

剛剛佢問我為什麼不睡覺, 我話比佢知, 我好唔開心, 有好多野想同佢講, 但係又唔知點點去開口, 又唔知點講好, 佢話佢有時唔想同我講野, 係因為想我calm down, 怕越講就越麻煩 (我地以前一有問題就即刻當面當場講出來), 但係發生過幾次問題之後, 大家都會放係心裡面. 佢話佢而家無朋友, 是因為我既關係, 話如果佢出去見朋友, 我就會比說話佢聽.....我只不過是擔心佢,並不是不準佢和朋友出街. 很多時同事朋友叫佢去街, 佢話唔去, 我就同佢講出去social 下 (因為轉左新公司) 佢自己話令願自己留係屋企睡覺好過.....每次坐低講既時候, 我話佢對朋友重好過對老婆, 佢就會話佢無哂朋友, 真係激氣 頭先佢問我什麼事時, 我話唔開心, 睡唔到, 心裡不舒服, 就上來bk同d朋友傾訴下, 咁佢就話同我出去街市買餸, 我話我唔出去la, 因為有傷風感冒, 又睡唔到, 想休息一下, 佢就叫我快d睡,佢自己就一個人出左去買餸, 有時真係好迷網, 一時又對我好好, 一時又唔抽唔彩....
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複式洋房

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發表於 06-10-14 11:10 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

唉.... 點會選一個咁既男人做老公?自挖墳墓
大男人、愛面子、不負責任、不關心太太
一世都是咁,最叻洗老婆的錢!不知所謂的男人!
你嫁俾他,比做女時更加慘,得個做字,卻得不到真正的關心。
如果你認為我講錯,咁請問你如果你自問覺得嫁俾他是開心和幸福,就不會時常覺得不開心!


男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:16 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

jennyleung ,

係呀, 我媽咪同我講話佢既問題應該係自卑, 男人始終係要面子既, 賺得比老婆少既心裡頭已經唔高興, 再加上之前失左業好耐, 佢d朋友又認為佢要倚賴老婆, 所以佢心裡面都唔係幾好受, 但係" 郁埋郁埋' 係心裡面都無用ga, 點解唔開心見誠咁講, 面子對男人來說真是那麼大嗎 ?!
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複式洋房

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發表於 06-10-14 11:17 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

Meowcat 寫道:

佢從來都無問過我一個月係屋企既洗費要幾多, 亦都無係行動 / 或 字眼上話要比屋企既費用, 就算連佢用既手提電話費全部都係我比 (因為全部單據都用自動轉帳), 7年la, 我同佢比左手提電話錢7年, 佢只係比過唔超過5!!!


咁做已經不是一個顧家的男人,根本他就大安指意你去擔起這個家的一開支!
唔好俾我批死,他以後都是一樣,永不變改!
不求上進的男人!有一天過一天!


子爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:18 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

um.....我覺得你無意間對佢太多要求喇, 其實你有無站係佢個角度唸下呢? 你老公係唔係大男人性格呀? 你唔好一味唸自己, 佢唔比錢, d錢洗去邊先, 係唔係都係朋友身上? 咁點解洗係朋友身上都唔比你? 佢話無曬d朋友, 你係唔係無意間管得佢好緊? 例如成日要佢陪自己? 成日要求佢接你收工果d呢?


子爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:21 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

Meowcat 寫道:
jennyleung ,

係呀, 我媽咪同我講話佢既問題應該係自卑, 男人始終係要面子既, 賺得比老婆少既心裡頭已經唔高興, 再加上之前失左業好耐, 佢d朋友又認為佢要倚賴老婆, 所以佢心裡面都唔係幾好受, 但係" 郁埋郁埋' 係心裡面都無用ga, 點解唔開心見誠咁講, 面子對男人來說真是那麼大嗎 ?!


我問過我老公, 答案"係"嫁, 包括我老公都係大男人主意, 咁當然有例外

同你講都無用, 唔通話老婆, 我好無用, 養唔起你?!到時你或許又嚴佢懦弱


男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:33 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

jennyleung,

我老公剛剛買完餸返來, 而家係廚房煮餸, 佢知道我唔識煮飯, 只係識我煮罐頭湯同埋貫打包, 佢都無責怪過我, 之前仲同我提過,不如佢自己比錢找到鐘點上來, 只是一天煮一餐餸, 同埋清潔屋企, 不過我就turn down左佢既好意.

可能我真係對佢要求太多(自從係小產之後就變得這樣), 佢成日都話我係一個要求完全既人, 但係佢話呢個世界係無完全既 , 我有站在佢既角度去睇, 去想, 但可能男人天生就同女人唔同, 我站係佢角度既想法始終同佢既有出入.

我無要求佢接送我返工, 因為大家返工既時間唔同, 佢又成日轉shift, 有時佢都會話車我返工, 但我就話唔使la, 我自己搭巴士得la, 叫佢多點睡, 多點休息.

可能佢唔係中國人, 大家既生長, 生活背景唔同, 文化又唔同, 就會有差異產生出來.大家都需要時間去適應對方 / 雙方.
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男爵府

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發表於 06-10-14 11:40 |只看該作者

Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

kamma,

我無後悔嫁我呢個老公, 只是大家可能唔係同一類人 (種族, 年齡, 佢比我大10年), 有時溝通方面有d問題, 佢對我都ok ga, 對我屋企人都好好, 只不過我有時覺佢好似對呢個家唔係咁著緊
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男爵府

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Re: 成日都覺得好唔開心

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