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very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

hey, it's so angry! last sunday, my husband, son, daughter, maid and me all inside the lift of my house building. Suddenly, there was a old Por Por came in. She looked at my daughter (k3) and said to her , " your nose is not tall enough, ugly!!!" and talked to me again, " your daughter is very ugly!!" my daughter kept smiling but i saw she wanted to cried out. Then, this old woman left and went to podium....my husband really felt super angry but it's not good to punish her at that moment, u know, i need to teach my kids ....always respect old people ma!!!
up to now, i still feel very sorry to my daughter in my heart, just look like didn't do anything at that moment for her....... :-(

:-(

:-( :-(

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

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發表於 06-11-15 15:12 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

How about let your daughter to see photos of girl of different nationalities? Ask her to choose which one is the prettiest. Then, tell her that different people have different concept in beauty. She may find the black girl very ugly but the black girl may be very pretty in the eyes of other.

Also, teach her that it's impolite to comment other's appearance in public. This will hurt people's feeling. Tell her that the old woman is a bad example.

我時刻都記掛著我那未能來到世上的bb, 他永遠在我心裡某個角落.

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發表於 06-11-15 15:17 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

希望係看得明中文.

老一輩的中國人不會當面稱讚小孩, 因為他們認為這樣小孩會小器, 日後會往相反方向發展.

你女兒的鼻真的不夠高嗎 ?
老人家說話的詞氣和態度當時是怎樣呢 ?

我怕你誤會了而唔開心.

因為有一次同仔仔搭巴士, 有個婆婆坐的後面. 個婆婆同的仔仔玩左一陣, 突然同的講你個仔仔真係”乞人憎”. 但當時個婆婆係笑住口講. 當時我時呆左一呆唔知比咩反應, 婆婆落車啦, 你再重覆一次”你個仔仔真係”乞人憎”呀, bye bye.

後尾我記得係有人講過上一輩既人對幼兒的稱讚多採取反話.

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發表於 06-11-15 15:24 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

那個婆婆的確很冇禮貌很差很差，我都覺得心痛。或者我會同小朋友講人地點睇點批評自己一d都唔重要，在爸爸媽媽眼中你一定係最好最美麗，同埋鼻仔高定低唔代表d乜，最緊要健康快樂。希望你個小朋友唔好唔開心啦！而且都可以當一個反面教材，教小朋友對人要有禮貌有尊重，唔係人地會好難過。

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發表於 06-11-15 15:25 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

我覺得係個婆婆無禮貌先...............好少人會咁直接話人!!

而且, 十八無醜婦, 無需理會佢, 個女o係自己心目中永遠都係最靚既.......

況且, 佢可能係有d問題 ?-( ?-( ?-(

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

n_chu_chu 寫道:

況且, 佢可能係有d問題 ?-( ?-( ?-(

我都覺得佢有問題!

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

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發表於 06-11-15 15:43 |只看該作者

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發表於 06-11-15 15:51 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

Thank you so much everybody.... :lol:

i will try the method which provided by Eclipse_2006, and also will follow other lovely mama 's suggestion...i got it! my daughter in my heart is the best.....actually, it's really a good experience to teach our kids what kind of people also have in this world. I think they will not do the same bad things when they r growing up in the future.

To be frank, my daughter's nose may be not tall enough, but she's ok beautiful ga....also, that old por por is quite serious at that moment that caused i don't know how to response. anyways, thanks a lot .....everybody.

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發表於 06-11-15 15:51 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

franshe,

我諗你地都未必咁「好運」再見到呢個亞婆，
當時你同先生做得好啱，好一個身教。
而家最重要解釋比個女知外表靚係咪最重要呢？
我記得有次經過平台，種左好多五顏六色既洋鳳仙，
我個仔話︰d 花好靚呀！媽咪我都想種！
我話係好靚喎，你剩係鐘意靚野既？
佢話︰梗係啦！你唔覺得靚好過唔靚咩？
我話︰亞仔，你知唔知有樣花叫薑花？
薑花一D 都唔靚，白色既無咩特別，
但薑花好香，D 香味令人聞得好舒服。
我同個仔講外表唔靚，唔代表佢無其他可取既地方，
你同個女講內在美佢未必明，試吓用薑花做比喻喇。

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

係呀.... 呢個世界有好多種人, 唔係個個都會靚, 個個都會好架, 唔靚唔緊要最緊要心地好, 有教養, 好似而家套肥田咁呀, 肥人唔一定唔好、唔靚架, 我由細到大都已經好肥架, 記得有幾次見到有d細路, 見到我就無拉拉問阿媽: 點解佢咁肥既

搞到我幾唔開心呀, 佢地阿媽都無教過佢唔應該當住人講d咁既野, 咁樣做係好hurt人既自尊心架, 你亦都可以成機教埋囡囡, 果個婆婆好無禮貌, 唔應該當面講人架.......等個小朋友知道咁做係會hurt到人, 將來可能佢會更加明白更加董性.....

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發表於 06-11-15 17:03 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

dear all mama,

thanks for ur all support~

i learned many things from yours.

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

佢可能對住李嘉欣都會講番同一番說話。
咁又有咩好嬲呢~~??!!

franshe 寫道:
hey, it's so angry! last sunday, my husband, son, daughter, maid and me all inside the lift of my house building. Suddenly, there was a old Por Por came in. She looked at my daughter (k3) and said to her , " your nose is not tall enough, ugly!!!" and talked to me again, " your daughter is very ugly!!" my daughter kept smiling but i saw she wanted to cried out. Then, this old woman left and went to podium....my husband really felt super angry but it's not good to punish her at that moment, u know, i need to teach my kids ....always respect old people ma!!!
up to now, i still feel very sorry to my daughter in my heart, just look like didn't do anything at that moment for her....... :-( :-( :-( :-(

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發表於 06-11-15 17:23 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

I think the fact is :

It is none of the old ugly por por's business.

franshe,

Ask your daughter not to bother about this as the por por may have depression (v common in old people). Just forgive and ignore her.

Please do not quote any information posted by fungwongphie.
不誠實使用電腦會構成罪行，切勿以身試法。
何謂不誠實使用電腦??

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Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

franshe,

我覺得你可能真係怪錯左老婆婆.

有一次, 我奶奶對住我個仔講, 你真係好"醜怪", 佢好認真既講. 好突然, 我心中有點怒火, 但我又唔敢出聲, 因為係奶奶嘛.

但走一走開, 仔細想, 無理由亞仔"醜怪". (佢做過BB書既封面, 佢點都唔會醜得去邊). 後來, 才醒起老人家係唔會當面讚細路架. 如果當面讚佢, 有D人係會唔鐘意, 以為你害佢架.

我覺得你要同你女女講, 老人家唔會當面讚你靚. 尤其是, 如果你個女特別靚, 就會好多老人家特別話佢"醜怪"架!!

津小生及非牟利幼稚園園生的窮媽媽! ;)

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發表於 06-11-15 17:39 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

I think the old woman is 稱讚 yr daughter and agreed ian723's comment.

ian723 寫道:
希望係看得明中文.

老一輩的中國人不會當面稱讚小孩, 因為他們認為這樣小孩會小器, 日後會往相反方向發展.

你女兒的鼻真的不夠高嗎 ?
老人家說話的詞氣和態度當時是怎樣呢 ?

我怕你誤會了而唔開心.

因為有一次同仔仔搭巴士, 有個婆婆坐的後面. 個婆婆同的仔仔玩左一陣, 突然同的講你個仔仔真係”乞人憎”. 但當時個婆婆係笑住口講. 當時我時呆左一呆唔知比咩反應, 婆婆落車啦, 你再重覆一次”你個仔仔真係”乞人憎”呀, bye bye.

後尾我記得係有人講過上一輩既人對幼兒的稱讚多採取反話.

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發表於 06-11-15 19:23 |只看該作者

Re: very angry and how to explain to my daughter?

Agree...
好多老人家真係咁諗啊，佢地越話小朋友唔靚，其實即係小朋友你越靚
因為好似有D地方習俗覺得當面讚小朋友會唔好.....

nicolemummy 寫道:
franshe,

我覺得你可能真係怪錯左老婆婆.

有一次, 我奶奶對住我個仔講, 你真係好"醜怪", 佢好認真既講. 好突然, 我心中有點怒火, 但我又唔敢出聲, 因為係奶奶嘛.

但走一走開, 仔細想, 無理由亞仔"醜怪". (佢做過BB書既封面, 佢點都唔會醜得去邊). 後來, 才醒起老人家係唔會當面讚細路架. 如果當面讚佢, 有D人係會唔鐘意, 以為你害佢架.

我覺得你要同你女女講, 老人家唔會當面讚你靚. 尤其是, 如果你個女特別靚, 就會好多老人家特別話佢"醜怪"架!!

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