miriam,
just wonder are you an impulsive person? Divorce cannot help you to make him a better person nor help you to live better.
If I were you, I just sit and cry and see how he react. Men are dump and dont expect they know what to do if you dont tell.
Just like me, I went to see doctor and he said I have depression. When I call my husbund after seeing the doctor, my husbund only ask me if there are alot of germs and bacteria that will spread to my bb. I told him the doctor said i have depression and he even ask me on the phone in a bad attitude "what things could make you depress?". Should I say "it's all because of you" on the street?. After that, he didn't ask me about my situation or how I feel or anything.
My husband is also the same. For the re-united dinner with his family which he could play mahjong with them, he is very eager to let alone his overtime work to go earlier but yesterday, when I have a high fever i.e 103.5F, he just return home at the usual time. I always very frustrated when the lunar new year came since I have muscular dystrophy, but they always ask to go to your home but will not let you to eat outside. They will ask you to cook at home but they are around 20 persons. I will become very tired only stands for 15-20 minutes and I have 退化in the knee and always very painful at night. At the reunited dinner that night, they have said that they want to go to my home, I have not said anything but after discuss with my own mother, I will say no if they ask again. I told my husband what I am going to say. My husband just said he can't understand why his family can't go to our house and very sad, but he will not consider my health condition. Sometimes, when I complain it is very painful at the midnight, he just said he had to go to work the next day and ask me to keep quiet and let him sleep. He just want me to cook for them and to keep quiet even I got very painful.
But if I am unable to walk anymore, it will have much influence on his work and also my son.
I totally understand how you feel. U must feel that he doesn't care about u and ignore your feelings. Somehow we need love. Just a simple hug or kiss or even ask will make our day. U better take care of yourself cuz your son needs you. U can tell his family to come but you won't cook this time. Order catering and use paper plates. Then u can still invite them but makes you easier. ganbade ne !!
In the past years, I have tried to tell them I can't cook because I feel lack of power in my legs and if I stand too much time, I will get very painful at night time and my leg get even worse just in walking and felt down when walk back from the zebra crossing to the pavement. I have told them we will eat outside but when they came to my home, they went to the market and bought all the things but I did not cook for them. When my brother-in-law's wife and I am in the kitchen, his brother said if anyone marry my brother-in-law's wife, he is 家山發, that means the one who marry with me is very poor. I am very very unhappy at this words and each time when they knew my leg is getting more painful, they will say it is 報應, I told my husband how they said, he just said he can't control the other's wordings. He didn't feel anything. But actually if I cannot walk anymore, how can he go to work?? A few days later my father-in-law phoned me and said he knew I get cold at the date they came and scolded me for keeping the cats and scared me to throw them away. He said keeping the cats is not good because there were a lot of hair. When I went to my father-in-law's house afterwards, I was still scolded by him for keeping the cats. But keeping pets in the home is the only way for me to relax myself because I am not convenient to shopping around or anything because I am not able to get onto the public buses on my own self.
So if this year they asked to go to my home, I think I will say no even they said they will cook for me, I just want to protect myself since my son is only 7 years old and he also has the problem of hyperactive. I could not bear what would it become if I cannot walk anymore........ :-( :-( :-(
I have tried before, I want to buy some and cook some, but they do not let me to buy and a few month's after that feast, I find two bags of rubbish, one under my sink in the kitchen, one under my crystal cabinet in the living room, which is full of flies and worms and full of bad smell. My husband said it is his fault he throw them in that place but I totally think it is unbelievable. My knee is退化and so I cannot kneeling on the floor and that is why I discovered only after a few months.....
I have a quarrel with my husband again. He said if they come, he will make them eat outside. But everytime in the past, the same result, eat at home and cook by me except the last time, I refused to cook totally. He just want the others to come and then saving money if the wife cook for him and gaining the face. He said the others come and visit him is giving him the face. I ask him if he had ever imagined the day when I could not walk probably, what will happen to our family. He said not. I am very sad since he think his face is worth for anything rather than my health. :-( :-( :-(
77777,
Marriage is always has gives and takes. Have you checked with your doctor why your legs are so tired? Dont listen to other people's opinion if it hurts you. Ignore what they said about your husband as you should know your husband than anyone else. They may be jeaous about your marriage.
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