(女人能頂半邊天, 你能建立幸福的家庭, 就是你一生的成就,) This is a good point but a 幸福的家庭 is based on the 2 ppl's work not only 1. If one is doing alot and the other one is not, it's already not a 幸福的家庭. How about this, I've realize one thing. Man and Woman thinks really different. If both of you make a list of what a good wife should be and what a good husbund. Both of your list will be different. Maybe you'll think a good wife should do ABCD, you've put all your effort and time to do all the ABCD's and you've made a good job, but turned out your husbund will not appreciate all the ABCD's you've done. Because all he wants is EFGH. This is none of both of your fault. All that is communication. If your husbund don't want a divorce, that's a good thing. Then he'll have to work hard on it to make this family stay together, of course mean while you'll have to work on it too. Don't need to be shy to tell him what you want, since your daughter is already 8 yrs old. Ask you husbund to go out and have some fun with you and build up the love again between the 2. Ask for romantic dinner, go out for a movie, sometimes leave your daughter to your parents or in-laws and go shopping with him(buy him something that he likes), or even go on for a vacation. He will know you are working hard on this relationship too. If this still doesn't work, then at least you've tried your best and if you guys are up to the divorce topic again. You can tell him you don't want to divorce with him too but you've tried everything. Let him know a family doesn't exist if love isn't there. I hope that will be the last step you'll get too. Maybe I am not a very good person to give advice cuz I have a unhappy marriage too, but try to work on it, it's worth a try and doesn't cost you anything. Don't think why do I have to do all this and just do it, at least you've tried your best and you won't regret. For yourself and your child !!
作為女人, 有mud野好得過有一個唔憂柴, 唔憂米的家 ? - I like this quote!
I saw many problem marriage here and I think women tend to be greedy. If you got money, then you ask for love, or the other way around. I am happy if I just got one, either money or love. Our expectation is keeping going higher and men can never satisfy us.
Before you think about divorce, ask yourself what will happen if you really divorce? Are there any guarantee you will meet a better man, a better life and your daughter will be better? Do you think the step-dad will love your daughter as much as the real dad? Or do you want your daughter grow up in a broken family. I think you need to think the consequence before you said divorce.
Life is short and if you can go one-step backward, your life will be easier and happier. Why you insist so much?
b9lingling- I wish you can work out your marriage very soon as it is very positive thinking!
I really hope you and your husbund's relationship will get better. As a woman, of course we hope our marriage will be forever and as happy as can be. But this is the world nothing will be perfect and there's no perfect couple. Woman nowadays are differnt than b4, we are smart, we can earn $$ and we are more educated. But as man, they didn't change much until now. That's why there are so many divorce these days. I think it will take decades for man to change their personalities. Anyways, but I still think we'll have to try our best to keep our family going on until the last moment. If at the end your relationship didn't go smoother, you might as well leave it. We are not slaves and we are not born to survive under their behaviors. It's your life and you should have control of your own life to make urself happy afterall.
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