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發表於 07-9-17 10:10 |只看該作者 |正序瀏覽 |打印

Those working mami, do u trust your maid?

I suddenly found out that my shampoo and bathing lotion used up TOO FAST, and mixed with water~~~seems my maid~~~

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Kogo,

你本身同奶奶相處如何?我本身俾得奶奶/我媽咪睇住個工人,我就百分百信"老人家",我最近炒左個工人,我覺得炒得遲tim,係即炒,現在仲要煩請本地工人湊住先

我一直覺得我奶奶/我媽咪對工人幾好,不過,佢地都有同我講工人做耐就懶左,但佢地都話工人湊得BB好,睇耐D先,我炒完工人,佢地至同我講原來工人偷過佢地錢,又問佢地借錢(之前都有叫佢地唔好借錢俾工人同小心財物),仲有,原來我返工時,個工人係蝦得D老人家好勁...放底BB成30min+,走左入廁所唔出來(係日日幾次)...仲有好多衰野...佢地居然為左BB忍個工人咁耐...

所以,若平時你覺個老人家係幾好,咁佢講得出,事實就一定唔止咁簡單...(我一早就覺我個工人好鐘意講是非,成日離間我同老人家,所以,工人來左頭一個月我就同老人家講左N咁多次,無論任何情況下,我只信佢地,仲有,在我地面前,我個工人係表現得好好的)

原文章由 kogo 於 07-9-20 13:31 發表
ai , this morning I've just received call from my 99 (early in the morning) saying that my maid is not a kind-hearted person, we have to be careful of her , bla bla bla

well, i think my mai ...

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原文章由 kogo 於 07-9-20 13:45 發表
actually, sometimes i have hesitation on my maid just like what you've said below....but, should i trust my eye?

while u back home, don't go in directly, u can listen what happen inside, also go home without inform her la, then u can see la, my maid like to sing while i open the door, but i hate her singing

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發表於 07-9-20 13:45 |只看該作者

actually, sometimes i have hesitation on my maid just like what you've said below....but, should i trust my eye?

原文章由 steamball 於 07-9-20 13:39 發表
keep an eye on her first la, they know how to act in front of u ga

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發表於 07-9-20 13:39 |只看該作者

原文章由 kogo 於 07-9-20 13:31 發表
ai , this morning I've just received call from my 99 (early in the morning) saying that my maid is not a kind-hearted person, we have to be careful of her , bla bla bla

well, i think my mai ...

keep an eye on her first la, they know how to act in front of u ga

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發表於 07-9-20 13:31 |只看該作者

ai , this morning I've just received call from my 99 (early in the morning) saying that my maid is not a kind-hearted person, we have to be careful of her , bla bla bla

well, i think my maid is ok, of course one eye open and oneeye close sometimes la. but really annoying listening to my 99 words because i dont want to terminate the contract earlier.

my hubby just asked me to filter out what she said.

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發表於 07-9-18 10:12 |只看該作者

原文章由 domcheng 於 07-9-18 09:56 發表
xogogo, yes, i was very considerate in the very beginning. she told me her mum has to take eyes operation, i cared about this v. much. but i found she knows my weakness and not respect me, then...

pu ...

initially, i don't understand why ppl r so mad at their maids. my first two months w. the first maid (i.e. the baby was not yet born) was also v. peaceful n happy. but once the baby was born n we found her keep doing things harmful to the baby, it's another story.

I guess the main problem is we ve a baby at home alone w/ the maid n the baby is not yet able to tell u what happens at the day time. this will easy create tensions.

together w. the cultural differences (i ve no offence but really find that they ve different cultures), sometimes may creat lots of troubles (or hopefully, only misunderstandings).

but seems we don't ve any choice but to accept the maid w. an one eye open one eye closed approach.

after firing two maids, I understand why ppl found me so childish to buy Christmas presents to the kids of the first maid (ve to send them to Philippines in early December when baby was not yet born). having more and more experience w/ maids, u won't ve much feelings on them. everyone does her own job is ok la.

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發表於 07-9-18 09:56 |只看該作者

xogogo, yes, i was very considerate in the very beginning. she told me her mum has to take eyes operation, i cared about this v. much. but i found she knows my weakness and not respect me, then...

put a maid at home is not only to train up our EQ, seems i rise up my babe. have to think how to talk and dont make her unhappy (as my bb stays with her). Care about does she has enough sleep / eat. Concern about her private life - is she disciplinary?

but i can just instruct her to do the things and not to talk her when i am angry with her.

Am i so "Ah Q"? if not, it is easy to get mad~~

原文章由 bakusensei 於 07-9-18 09:15 發表

xogogo, sorry to hear that.

my second maid was also like this. when we asked her to sleep earlier so that could ve more rest, she would spend her time to send sms.

I guess as long as we give them ...

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發表於 07-9-18 09:16 |只看該作者

原文章由 milybb 於 07-9-17 23:11 發表
係呀, 請左工人後, 隻眼開隻眼閉呢門'藝術'真係叻左, 如果唔係, 我諗換幾多個工人都唔掂呀!
其實我工人對BB都好好架, 但係最近我發覺佢私生活有D問題, 放親假返來都有D唔妥, 我都唔知點好, 同佢傾佢又唔講真話, 唔 ...

i suggest u going to

論盡家傭's section to ask the experts there. i m not sure the problem of 私生活有D問題. but she gets pregnant or gets any transmitted disease. it may be a problem.

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發表於 07-9-18 09:15 |只看該作者

原文章由 XOGOGO 於 07-9-17 23:15 發表
as u all know, my bb was in the hospital for 3 nights. my hb was not in hk. so my maid was the only one to stay at home. since she needs to wake up at 4 to prepare the congee (actually just press ...

xogogo, sorry to hear that.

my second maid was also like this. when we asked her to sleep earlier so that could ve more rest, she would spend her time to send sms.

I guess as long as we give them 8 hrs sleep, it's better not to bother what they r doing during that 8 hrs. otherwise, will make ourselves v. angry.

u won't give her 1 month's notice, right? it's v risky to keep a fired maid in the home w/ the baby alone. even if u can ask sb to keep an eye on her and the baby, u know according to the Law, she only needs to compensate $300 (I forgot the exact amount) if she breaks your thing.

take care :)

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原文章由 XOGOGO 於 07-9-17 23:15 發表
as u all know, my bb was in the hospital for 3 nights. my hb was not in hk. so my maid was the only one to stay at home. since she needs to wake up at 4 to prepare the congee (actually just press ...

be patience, take care bb is the most important for u ar, just keep an eye on your maid first la, don't be angry ar

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as u all know, my bb was in the hospital for 3 nights. my hb was not in hk. so my maid was the only one to stay at home. since she needs to wake up at 4 to prepare the congee (actually just pressed on/off button), so she can bring out the congee to me at 7, then i can go to work.
i was so considerate. i asked her to go home after 7 pm so she can sleep earlier and won't feel so tired. however, when i called back home and watched the camera, i found that she was talking happily on the phone. like dancing in the living room. it was about 930. so i called her and asked her to sleep earlier otherwise, she won't hv energy on the next day. when i called back home at 1200 midnight. she was still talking loudly on the phone. i was sooooo mad. i was being considerate. and asked her to go home earlier but as a result, she thought i was an idioit!!!!! i called home again. i was so angry. guess what? she told me that it was her private time. and she used her phone in her bedroom. i then "explained" to her that she took an afternoon nap in the hospital (my mum thought she might be tired so she asked maid to take a short nap!!my mum is soooo considerate), which was during the "working hour" and her bedroom is actually my house!! then we end up a bit arguing. at early 5 o'clock, she called me and told me that the alarm clock didn't work and she didn't wake up at 4 to make the congee. which means she couldn't take the congee to me at 7, which means i can't go to work. i was totally pissed off.
i got a day off on that day! finally i see her true face. when bb was sick in the hospital (the critical period), i thought we were on the same boat. however, she didn't feel the same. she even took advantages on me! on the 1st night, she went home earlier and hand washed her clothings (i didn't know why she didn't use the machine). but for bb's towels, more than 15 pcs unwashed!!! 2nd morning, she was late so i was late to work too. 3rd night, tel incident. on that afternoon, i have chosen a new maid fr my agent and decide to fire her in 2 months time.
now, i won't be considerate as b4. just ask her do all the things. fool me once shame on her, but fool me twice shame on me.

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發表於 07-9-17 23:11 |只看該作者

係呀, 請左工人後, 隻眼開隻眼閉呢門'藝術'真係叻左, 如果唔係, 我諗換幾多個工人都唔掂呀!
其實我工人對BB都好好架, 但係最近我發覺佢私生活有D問題, 放親假返來都有D唔妥, 我都唔知點好, 同佢傾佢又唔講真話, 唔同佢傾又驚佢遲早會出事, 我都唔知我隻眼可唔可以繼續閉呀! 你地會唔會關心並處理工人既私事架?

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原文章由 bakusensei 於 07-9-17 21:43 發表

y, one eye open one eye close la. changing maids is too costy n is v. troublesome. as long as the maid is taking good care of the baby, don't change la.

bakusensei

totally agree with you that one eye open one eye close, I also used this method for my maid, honestly, she love my baby and take care my baby is good! but for the cooking and housework just so so........

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發表於 07-9-17 21:58 |只看該作者

agree, could be change for the worse.... + the training from scratch...... trouble!!

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原文章由 steamball 於 07-9-17 18:50 發表
argee, living with maid need very high EQ, so if she treats bb ok, then one eye open one eye close first law, at this moment, nothing can do, poor working mom

y, one eye open one eye close la. changing maids is too costy n is v. troublesome. as long as the maid is taking good care of the baby, don't change la.

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