Please go to the link for 教仔心得：媽咪容易犯的錯誤. I recently required for the assistance from SandraLo. I used to be liked you; short temper, full of anger, yelling, scolding, you name it and I think I did most of them. I did not hit my son. However, the words that I used on him was harsh and mean.
Example: (sorry, since my Chinese Pen is broken, I have to translate it in English.) I would offer yelled my son and said,' why are you always like this, where is your brain, did you drop it into the ditch and the dog ate it?', 'you are so hopeless, s,' I then compared my son with his cousins. To be honest with you, all those mean methods only made our relationship worst a,d worst.
After I consulted the assistance from SandraLo, I realized the whole situation changed. My son is a very good boy, he is very sincere. I think each kind has his/ her own personality. Some kids are slow and some are quick. One might has a super memory and the other might takes ten times or even 20 times to remember just one single word.
Being a mom, we want our kid to be reasonable. What do I mean for that? We usually tell our kid,'You do not have to be the first, but at least not the last.' At first, I thought I was so right and being so generous to my son. Then I realized I am giving him pressure too. I think for my kid, he still do not really have any idea about grades and scores. At the very being, he would show me and asked me if his exam paper did receive a passing grade or not (his concerns). He received grades with 92, 85, 55, 73, and 36, just to name few. Of course, anything over 80 to be considered well in my understand. Recently, he received a 36 on his math paper. I just got so pissed. I yelled and cursed him so badly. I threatened to enrol him to the boarding school which I will only see him once a week. Then he cried, he said, 'it is ok. I know I really disappointed you and you do not want to see me anymore.'
That was the time that I realized I had been so wrong and the damage that I did to my son is eternal. My son is only 6.5. I do not want all those scares to be part of his grown up experience. I want him to remember all the happiness and joy, definitely not the pain and the blame.
After I used SandraLo's method, the whole atmosphere changed. I only used all the positive words to talk to my son. I reward him with his good performance. I encourage him a lot. He is really happy now. Of course, it is not an one night thing. Whenever, I want to get piss again, I would ask myself,' do I really want to say that to him and harm our relationship again?' I paused and I would try to do the right thing. Today, I talked to my son when we went out, I told him I am sorry for what I said before. Guess what, he still remembers all those mean things that I said to him and he could still quote them out. He laughed. I asked him if that hurt him? He said sometimes he wanted to cry and sometimes he wanted to laugh (I said the dog ate his brain). I told him again I am sorry for what I said. He is really generous and told me it is ok. He only remembers the good things. I almost cried. I have my good son back again, thanks to SandraLo, my great benefactor. I hope I could share my experience with you all. Good luck and hope all of you have a great relationship with your lovely kids.
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Cheer up! I started using the new method to assist my son. It is working pretty smoothly. It is helping me and my family too. No more yelling and scolding. Please try and you will see the immediate effect.
It is so true about the mirror reflection. If we yell/ scold our kid. He/ She would yell/ scold back. I really do not want my son to become an angry person. Bigbigfamily
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