我倆相識至結婚係好長既日子-兩年多前驚党c6不妥,點解会存錢去一个女性户口?又去ikea用了數千元,又不斷每天通电/sms,原來那个她是c6每日對住10hrs既personal assistant.c6
told me 佢分緊居,money for her to rent a flat c6仲不吋去幫佢, leave the children at nite whenever i am not in hkg, c6當然有好多excuse亦講了些無so既大話,詳細痛心既經歴好長難以逐一交待.這兩年多講過無so次,信也寫了so十封,但佢甚少回應.只是直至昨晚仍然說我倆有問題唔關對方事.一路我選擇遷就、信任, let them continue working together in the same room, 成日問自己點解有marriage problems + childrens problems唔係face the problems n solve it, why need to get 3rd party involved.是否我小氣去阻止佢地所謂無野既朋友關係? c6話佢地有拖過手, others i am not sure.他倆在公營机構working together in the same room,c6就always afraid我会踩場,令佢地無面lose the job, gov't job 又點会咁樣炒魷?呢樣我齋talk左好耐never付諸行动bcoz i know it is not good especially for myself. 可惜呢兩日發覺原來他們還是由起身到晚上都call/sms,既然c6仍然執迷不悟, not to cherish this family我亦預左無左呢个家,今日就係佢地工作地方大庭廣眾當面質問!
Go to his office may not be good, it doesn't help!
Why not sit down and talk frankly? He can't deny that love with 3rd party anymore. You should have a compromise to see what to do about your family.
fully support to u,呢個動作係須要好大勇氣,你一定已去到好痛心,透唔到氣才會有這行動,既然已plan到後果,現在就要放輕一切,像一個大氣球,給一支銳針刺破,放鬆是你首要項目.倆年的戰爭已完結,either勝利/失敗,u should take a long break, come back之後再去打children之戰,
REMEMBER: u ar not the only one, 有好多媽咪都有從地獄既痛苦返因天堂既安寧
of course去咗踩場企係佢地工作既房门口(door open)同佢對話等其他人都聽到,c6叫我入房想close the dr梗係no way費事俾个女人話我打佢,我只係想聽佢點答.佢話乜講电話(傾公事)都唔得?話我誹謗,我答乜起身未夠7點到夜晚都傾公事?佢仲對住c6話而家知道佢係屋企幾慘!.........兩年前我c6己經話無做對我唔住既事,只可惜我唔係一个大方既人,接受唔到自己c6
与她除了daily working together for 10hrs仲係背後同 this married woman有咁close既contact! my children r in p6 n p4, so far he seems to continue reponsible for the family expenses.
原文章由 flyingmom 於 08-5-15 18:39 發表
再次多謝大家的鼓勵与支持!每人有不同處理危机的手法,承受壓力既能力都不同!由於每人背境故事都不同,就算知道what is the way to solve it,但究竟自已又可唔可以work it out without more suffer n hard feelings?旁 ...
原文章由 flyingmom 於 08-5-15 18:39 發表
再次多謝大家的鼓勵与支持!每人有不同處理危机的手法,承受壓力既能力都不同!由於每人背境故事都不同,就算知道what is the way to solve it,但究竟自已又可唔可以work it out without more suffer n hard feelings?旁 ...
再次多謝大家的鼓勵与支持!每人有不同處理危机的手法,承受壓力既能力都不同!由於每人背境故事都不同,就算知道what is the way to solve it,但究竟自已又可唔可以work it out without more suffer n hard feelings?旁觀者最清but communications is two ways, 當對方的reaction is different from what we thought,咁就去choose the most comfortable way for ownself.所以sharing is the best way to make myself feel better,係呢到的確可以learn more n自我檢討! to be continued.......