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我生第一胎時99同我講叫我唔好請工人~~ 佢會同我湊~~ 但湊到BB 8個月就同我屋企人講~~ 話唔想同我湊(佢知道我有左第2胎)~~ 仲要講從來冇應承同我湊bb~~

(如果佢冇應承我~~ 當初我就唔會係佢屋企附近買樓)

好啦~~ 我都預左生第二胎會請工人.. 一心諗住佢會幫我一齊睇~~ 甘我咪可以返工~~ 點知佢直情唔幫我湊

.. 好彩老公當時可以係屋企做野~~ 甘樣就捱過左1年~~

但依家老公要日日返工~~ 就同佢講要佢幫手...佢黎左1個月就話唔舒服唔黎湊~~ 我真係好嬲~~

其實佢黎親我屋企都唔使點湊bb~~ 因為我屋企個工人主力湊2個bb... 佢每次黎親都係煮野食 (比BB同佢自己).. 有時工人行開行埋佢就幫手睇一睇...其他時間佢都係睇電視同報紙... 我都唔明點解佢講到好辛苦~~

我62仲覺得我霸左佢老婆.. 仲話99唔係比我地用~~ 咩意思呀~~ 當初邊個拍心口話同我湊... 生完第1個都未足月就叫我生多1個~~

好啦~~ 聽你話生依家就同我講唔幫我湊... 我真係好嬲~~

我都知99都幫唔到我好多~~ 但都要明白到個工人都要去廁所~~ 佢昨日就係去廁所冇人睇住大仔..攪到佢撞到成隻眼瘀哂... 我真係好心痛

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早知係甘我就唔會係你屋企附近買樓~~

唔會聽佢話生多1個~~依家佢甘樣扇我~ 攪到依家都唔知點~~ 個工人點叻~~ 都要搵多隻眼幫手睇~~ ...

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發表於 08-8-3 01:55 |只看該作者

我都係咁話,就算湊到病都好,都唔好搵佢地湊呀.搵自己屋企人好過搵佢地呀,起碼佢地都知道我地嘅難處(除非自己屋企人都好似6299咁)就唯有靠自己,都唔好再靠6299~~~孫我會比佢地睇,但唔洗指意我會比佢地湊一兩日,佢地試過好多次抱住我個仔,話不如嬤嬤湊你,好唔好呀,頭一兩次我話唔得,一定要自己湊返,但耐左之後,我只會對住佢地笑,唔會再答佢地.........
好似最近我個仔唔舒服,要入院,咁我同佢講,第一日佢黎左,但係黎左個幾鐘就話要返屋企,我都話好啦,你返去啦,第三日我個仔出院,諗住佢會過黎比我返屋企訓下,佢幫我湊住,點知佢話阿B出院我唔過黎啦,佢咁講我只好答佢好啦,佢唔過黎唯有叫阿媽放飯一日,幫我睇住佢幾個鐘,比我返屋企訓下,如果唔係阿媽幫我,我諗返到屋企暈左都無人知呀,經過呢件事之後,我仲更加唔會搵佢地幫我湊,到出院返到屋企打比佢,話阿B出左院返到屋企,佢話如果湊唔掂帶佢返黎我湊,我心諗帶佢返黎,我驚自己仲辛苦呀......
所以如果要搵99幫手湊,真係要三思呀

原文章由 Ritajj8 於 08-8-2 10:37 發表
我依家都諗清楚~~我唔會再搵佢幫我湊~~ 我叫工人自己睇2個~~ 跟住搵個鐘點黎幫下手~~ 以後99想睇bb... noway...好難la.. 我一定唔比佢睇~~

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原文章由 Ritajj8 於 08-8-2 10:37 發表
我依家都諗清楚~~我唔會再搵佢幫我湊~~ 我叫工人自己睇2個~~ 跟住搵個鐘點黎幫下手~~ 以後99想睇bb... noway...好難la.. 我一定唔比佢睇~~

梗係咁做啦, 99講野真係唔好信, 佢至緊要係有得喺其他人面前威.

我未結婚時99要我結唔結婚唔緊要, 至緊要生仔(仲新潮過我), 佢可以幫我湊, 到我真係生左對孖女, 工人又未到時叫佢來幫手1日(只係下午2點至6點幾)咁多啫, 來到問點解1個人攪唔掂2個bb(當時bb個幾月仲係3個鐘食1次奶有時又食人奶), 又話點解咁做, 點解唔咁做, 點解咁多野都仲未做好, 坐係到得把口講, 根本係為難我, 佢個仔(我c6)叫佢幫手湊1個, 佢話要另外請1個工人俾佢, 咁我駛咩要你幫手呀?

以後千祈唔好信d99講野. 你要佢幫你做野可以話你不孝.

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發表於 08-8-2 10:43 |只看該作者

原文章由 Lumpy 於 08-7-30 15:22 發表
99,信唔過架,佢地最叻就係講是非同埋搵著數,靠佢就死得了.

我人絕對認同

一年之計,莫如樹穀.十年之計,莫如樹木.終身之計,莫如樹人.一樹一穫者穀也,一樹十穫者木也,一樹百穫者人也.

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我依家都諗清楚~~我唔會再搵佢幫我湊~~ 我叫工人自己睇2個~~ 跟住搵個鐘點黎幫下手~~ 以後99想睇bb... noway...好難la.. 我一定唔比佢睇~~

原文章由 阿藍2006 於 08-8-1 21:54 發表
有時同個仔返去佢地度,咁我有d事要返屋企整d嘢,佢開頭同我講幫我湊一陣,咁好啦,我比佢湊,但遲d就話我唔抱得阿b耐呀,等等......係佢應承幫我湊仔個時,我都話你唔得,我最多自己湊返個仔,但係佢又要話得啦,你返屋企啦, ...

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發表於 08-8-2 10:32 |只看該作者

Right ~~ 講得好岩~~ 全中~~

原文章由 yorkmami 於 08-8-1 15:57 發表
計我話，啲99最叻就係“潑扇”，

當我哋同c6拍拖時，佢就潑行扇叫我哋快啲結婚，

好啦…結咗婚，佢哋又潑行扇叫我哋快啲生，

到生咗第一個，又會潑行扇叫我哋快啲生第二個(梗係啦，等佢係班38面前威番餐)，

到真係要幫我哋 ...

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我99咪又係咁
有一日個鐘點來清潔
點知我聽到佢同個鐘點講話等緊我地兩公婆請人回來湊

當初又係佢話要湊
依家又係到嘈怨巴閉

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其實好多人d工人都係睇2個嫁.....就係因為個工人覺得有人幫手睇住d細路就放心做咩都可以慢慢黎....到冇人幫手就出事(係d工人習慣咗)...要比個工人知做咩都要快手快腳同埋唔會有人幫手睇...等佢習慣返

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有時同個仔返去佢地度,咁我有d事要返屋企整d嘢,佢開頭同我講幫我湊一陣,咁好啦,我比佢湊,但遲d就話我唔抱得阿b耐呀,等等......係佢應承幫我湊仔個時,我都話你唔得,我最多自己湊返個仔,但係佢又要話得啦,你返屋企啦,但最終佢係度打麻雀呀,再唔係就話手痛,所以試得多,我唔會再叫佢幫我湊仔,就算而家返去,我都唔會求佢地,就算點我都自己湊返個仔,加上係佢而家心目中只得個外孫,所以我都唔會求佢地d咩,就算我唔舒服都好,病到死都好,我都唔會求佢地,我寧願自己辛苦到死都唔會求佢地

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發表於 08-8-1 15:57 |只看該作者

計我話，啲99最叻就係“潑扇”，

當我哋同c6拍拖時，佢就潑行扇叫我哋快啲結婚，

好啦…結咗婚，佢哋又潑行扇叫我哋快啲生，

到生咗第一個，又會潑行扇叫我哋快啲生第二個(梗係啦，等佢係班38面前威番餐)，

到真係要幫我哋睇細路、感覺到好困身既時候，就會响c6面前潑行扇話好辛苦，啲c6就會响我哋施壓，叫我哋多啲親力親為，唔好等99咁辛苦。

嘩…大佬，我哋放完工返屋企都冇停手啦，咁邊個可憐我哋呀？

通常响呢個時候，我隻賤人99都會“潑扇”，因為見c6幫佢出頭未心涼囉！

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tantanmama,

Thanks for your support and comment.

You are right. I will act very carefully and will lobby with my husband (my husband always felt no problem for my brother in law not to pay any $ we are family. Strange!!)

Everytime when the famous boutiques have seasonal price reduction, I will see my brother in law buy a lot back home (but all stuff are loaded in my mother in law's house) . His son always asked his grandma to bring him to eat expensive afternoon tea but the boy's parent never pay for it. When I knew they buy a car (even we do not have) I felt very very annoyed and I know my husband started to feel like me. But I understand he wants to protect his family therefore he seldom say a word.

I always said to myself do the best I can

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原文章由 jonahlee 於 08-7-31 15:33 發表
Ritajj8,

I can understand how unhappy you feel as I had similar experience as you.

My mother-in-law always pushed me for having baby and said she will help to take care. However, once I got pregnan ...

贊成你俾少d家用你99. 你99唔夠用應該叫"痴"飲痴食個叔仔俾家用囉. 唔應該緃容佢. 不過你要c6小心d講, 諗定台詞同埋答案. 否則你99 "chok"兩"chok", c6話係你主意就大鑊, 你99會嬲死你.

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Ritajj8,

I can understand how unhappy you feel as I had similar experience as you.

My mother-in-law always pushed me for having baby and said she will help to take care. However, once I got pregnant she asked me who to take care of the baby and always mentioned her mother-in-law never helped her to take care the kids.

But the strange thing is she helped to take care my brother-in-law's son. Even she recruited a maid to help her taking care of the boy. But my brother in law's family never pay any money to her whilst he can buy car, lots of clothes, lots of luxurious items. They also dined at my mother in law's home every night buy no money to her.

All $ support is from my husband and the younger son. It is very unfair and being honest I felt quite unhappy over years. As I am going to have a 2nd baby, I managed to discuss with my husband to pay them less per month. As I think it is time for my brother in law to support back the family la!

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發表於 08-7-31 13:58 |只看該作者

同意, 始終 99 都一把年紀, 佢肯幫你係人情, 唔幫你係道理. 唔好覺得俾 99 冼左 la.

而且你自己都照顧過 bb, 真係好辛苦及好大壓力 ka. 佢唔幫你都可能知道自己能力有限, 廢事將來 touch wood 有問題先黎後悔.

原文章由 麟媽媽 於 08-7-31 12:15 發表
而家係幾十年後喎....你奶奶以前喎...後生得多架嘛！
生兒育女係父母既責任，佢揍大你老公責任已完，
肯幫手揍孫係Bonus，唔可以指意晒佢架。
要怪就真係怪你老公，生唔生仔你地決定架嘛，
62奶奶話幫手你都應要有後著，
如果有意 ...

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而家係幾十年後喎....你奶奶以前喎...後生得多架嘛！
生兒育女係父母既責任，佢揍大你老公責任已完，
肯幫手揍孫係Bonus，唔可以指意晒佢架。
要怪就真係怪你老公，生唔生仔你地決定架嘛，
62奶奶話幫手你都應要有後著，
如果有意外佢地死左，咁你地都要諗掂d 細架嘛。

原文章由 Ritajj8 於 08-7-30 15:53 發表
因為我老公話佢阿媽1個人湊大佢地4兄弟~~ 佢地又ok喎~~ 甘我諗住湊細佬應該都掂掛~~ 就係C6呢句我就上左當~~

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我62係呢1年先至成日去旅行...我都唔知佢發咩癲~~ 可能佢以為自己D仔有好多錢等住佢洗

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