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發表於 08-8-20 17:27 |只看該作者 |正序瀏覽 |打印

不知是否我太多心，但是我總感覺我的老公不太喜歡我的父母。

我與6299住得很近，星期一至五都會一家三口在他們家吃晚飯，但是娘家遙遠，一星期只有一天可與父母見面。我很珍惜與父母的見面時間，因為他們都老了（父親已70多歲），我希望在他們仍健康時可以讓他們多享湊孫樂。但是，6299家的親戚很多，有很多家庭聚會，很多時我與父母的聚會都要讓路，為此我常與老公吵架。

這個星期就只有星期日可以回娘家吃晚飯，但是62有親戚突然說請吃飯，老公說要跟我的父母改吃午飯，我不想，因為我們當日午飯前後都有活動，午飯只有很短時間，而且囝囝又多半會在午飯時間扭眼訓，心情不好。為此，又與老公彊住了。我不明白，為何要sacrifice的總是我的家人？

老公回我的娘家時總是很少說話，也不喜歡我父母與囝囝獨處，而且又試過沒有問我便delete我電腦上囝囝與我父母的合照，我從各方面都感到他不喜歡我的家人，但是問過他，他說沒有此事。

我明白我的父母不及6299有知識及後生（只有50多歲），但是他們都很像6299一樣愛他們的孫。我一向很尊重6299, 與他們的關係也很融洽，不明白為何老公總是不喜歡我的家人。

我可以怎樣做？你們有相同的情況嗎？

[ 本文章最後由 hanahaha 於 08-8-20 17:30 編輯 ]

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發表於 08-8-27 09:54 |只看該作者

thank you for sharing! i'll try my best to fight for my parents! i'll have my husband relieve his constraints step by step!

原文章由 IaMMoYY 於 08-8-27 02:14 發表
Hi Hanahaha, I'll tried hard not to be too harsh but you sounded like very subservient to your husband. Being respectful to your husband is very different than being subservient.

You've already ...

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原文章由 evawa 於 08-8-22 20:24 發表
但做女既. 自己都唔為自己父母. 就真係 !!!!

What I would have said if I could write Chinese!

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-21 09:58 發表
如果佢返左工, 我daddy mami就會上來我地屋企探bb, 因為我daddy mami屋企遠, 老公唔比我自己同囝囝返去, 一定要佢唔駛返工至可以車我地返去食飯

Hi Hanahaha, I'll tried hard not to be too harsh but you sounded like very subservient to your husband. Being respectful to your husband is very different than being subservient.

You've already mentioned your parents are old and live far away. Why would you listen to your husband and stay home and wait for your parents to come visit you?

Did you grow up at the same place your parents are living now? So, you can't even be able to find your way back to the very same home you grown up and have to wait until your husband is day-off?

I understand it's not easy to bring the little one(s) out. But if I could fly over (12-hour trip) with my 2 babies then all by myself to visit my parents, you certainly can bring your one baby out to visit your aging parents!

Be strong!

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發表於 08-8-26 23:57 |只看該作者

其實可唔可以各有各去,大家happy,勉強冇幸福,佢如果真如你說的delete合照,不用問了,還會有其它原因嗎.不就是不喜歡,愛妻敬岳母,不要說像孝順自己父母一樣孝順岳父岳母,起碼的尊重也是必要的,祗要不太過份便算了.

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你有無試過一個人帶個仔去街(要搭車的)?其實45min-1hr都唔係好耐,你有無請工人?帶埋工人一齊去lor...

我老公都係成日話這樣唔得,那樣唔得...我個囡9個月大時,我都係一個人帶揹住佢去外家啦(1hr+車程)...之後,老公就無咁大反應啦...

不過,我老公好尊重我媽咪(表面啦)...我都係男家節目會排先,但就好少連親戚的突發約會都要自己父母讓路...

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發表於 08-8-24 00:27 |只看該作者

thank you so much for your wishes! i really really hope so! and hope the same for you too!

原文章由 ratafan 於 08-8-24 00:17 發表
I see you love your parents a lot and you're a very caring and considerate person. I really wish your husband would change somedays.

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發表於 08-8-24 00:17 |只看該作者

I see you love your parents a lot and you're a very caring and considerate person. I really wish your husband would change somedays.

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 14:57 發表
thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way withou ...

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原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 14:57 發表
thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way withou ...

你真係要同你老公好好傾下囉!同佢一齊分配下見各自父母既時間,等大家都公平D又無咁多爭拗.

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發表於 08-8-23 14:57 |只看該作者

thank you all for sharing and listening. it's really nice to know that someone has similar situation as me.

i will continue fighting for my family in a mild way. i had thought of going my way without listening to him, but i know this will lead to a big argument and if i were my parents, i won't wish to see my daughter arguing with her husband because of them either. really don't want to have my parents worry about me.

i really wish as time goes, my husband will learn to appreciate what i have done and what my parents have done and respect them day by day.

原文章由 ratafan 於 08-8-23 00:57 發表
hanahaha,
I have same situation as yours. my c6 doesn't respect my parents a lot. I asked him why before, he said it's personal crash. That's very difficult. I certainly wish him could treat my fam ...

[ 本文章最後由 hanahaha 於 08-8-23 16:55 編輯 ]

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我老公都唔系好鐘意同我屋企人相處,可能生疏掛,去到唔系咁自在.我住美国西岸,外家在東岸.計埋等候的時間,我要坐差不多成日飛機先返到去.而家我Ｄ細路大Ｄ,唔駛点拖,佢地細時我又要抱又要推車,一去就最少兩星期.老公有時同我去,有時都自己返去.一年都會返２，３次.老公就算自己唔想去,亦從冇話我自己一個危險唔比我去.果到始終系我外家.同老公慢慢傾下,講出你嘅感受.

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發表於 08-8-23 02:34 |只看該作者

人人話生女好d, 考順wor
呢個case真係另我重新考慮

仲叫人唔好鬧你老公

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發表於 08-8-23 02:30 |只看該作者

你老公真係

唔講以為你嫁入豪門
セ都就哂男家
你自已帶ＢＢ返外家都唔得
危乜險呀

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發表於 08-8-23 00:57 |只看該作者

hanahaha,
I have same situation as yours. my c6 doesn't respect my parents a lot. I asked him why before, he said it's personal crash. That's very difficult. I certainly wish him could treat my family as good as his, but it's very difficult. You can't change one's personality. Some people here suggests you take revenge by treating his parents bad. I think this is not very sensible and too emotional. If you think his behaviour is not correct, why you should follow suit? I agree with you that you should continue to treat his family nicely. That's basic respect. I can't help you, but nice to share with you here. Try to avoid conflicts by not pushing him to see your parents. You could just take your kid to meet with your parents as you like without having to ask his permission. 1.5 years is manageable already. Perhaps you could be more patient now and once your child gets over 2 years, just go on your own without getting his consent.

原文章由 hanahaha 於 08-8-22 15:02 發表
多謝哂你地既支持! 唔, 請你地唔好鬧我老公, 其實佢係一個好好既男人, 佢平日如果休息都會做哂d家務, 亦都好關心我, 我地一般都好恩愛, 但係唔知點解, 有時講開屋企人, 就會嘈交, 正如我講, 我諗我地兩個都太孝順, ...

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恕我得罪講句, 而家呢個情形係樓主自己做成, 你個仔都唔係好鈿啦, 而且去你外家45 min -1 hr都算遠呀? 我屋企返我mami度都要轉2次港鐵+一程巴士啦, 仲要over 1 hr, 我係個女幾個月大時已經自己一個帶bb返去啦, 有咩咁困難呀???

講真, 你都做人阿媽啦, 唔係你老公講乜你就聽晒先得架, 你自己都識講啦, 你父母都幾十歲人, 你次次都要你父母去你home, 除非你老公放假同你地去先可以去你父母度, 你父母就唔辛苦既?

你再係咁樣就你老公同男家d 大帝, 再有咩不滿最好自己吞晒佢啦。祝你好運啦!

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