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有冇人長期分居卻保持朋友關係,沒有正式離婚。請分享。

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發表於 09-10-20 22:25 |只看該作者

she is ok in term of emotion, may be she see her frequently.

11 years -- how many 11 years we have in our lives!

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好媽媽勳章

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咁啱我又係在結婚之後11年就同他分居, 而那年個女得八歲。我都覺得個女始終都係由媽媽湊會好D, 因為當她踏入青春期會有好多疑問都是由媽媽解答會好些。
但 anyway, 如果你肯花多些時間同個囡傾多些, 溝通多些, 相信遲些你哋的關係都會好些。
起初我個囡都成日掛住爸爸, 每次見完他之後都會大哭一場, 但日子久了, 她都已經接受了爸爸媽媽分開的事實, 所以現在她的情緒好了很多, 希望過多一些時間後, 你個女都能習慣啦!

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原帖由 Sadman07 於 09-10-20 15:44 發表
Why do you think we married when we are very young?

Just opposite, I am very old already la, haha. I got married whn I was over 30.

Yes, you are right, not very convenience for a man to take cae a g ...

Hey man, don't sigh la! 帶個問題出黎, 係你要ready阿女會大個架, 咁你點去handle佢嘅問題, 係咪真係要mami幫下手呢? 只係sigh, can't solve the problem呀

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Sorry, 直覺上, over 30嘅人會好黐家架, 所以以為你兩個都好細個!

你講果個UK study, 都似我, 我都係結左婚11年, 就真係下定決心要走la

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Why do you think we married when we are very young?

Just opposite, I am very old already la, haha. I got married whn I was over 30.

Yes, you are right, not very convenience for a man to take cae a girl, but can't help, sigh again.

By the way, I saw newspaper today saying that a study in UK find that average time from marriage to divorce is 11 years and 7 months, not 7 years that we thought before, not sure in HK, but I also sparate 11 years after marry.

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點解要sigh

呀? 我諗你兩個係咪好細個就結婚呢? 腦荀都未生埋果种呢!

你個女而家先8歲, 仲未發育, 但到佢發育嘅時侯, 好多野, 你係男人, 係好難教佢架, 明白未?

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發表於 09-10-20 14:07 |只看該作者

原帖由 shalala1997 於 09-10-20 12:55 發表

我個仔個個星期見爸爸架, 兩公婆點唔好, 都唔好影响小朋友law, 亦都咁講, 我c6知道我地要走之後, 可能有d後悔, 所以對個仔好左好多, 呢個係我樂於見到, 雖然問心, 我唔想阿仔同c6 get too close!咁我個仔係好識諗 ...

she is with me as since she went to school, it is me who responsible for taking care her acedemic stuff, her mother is much mre extrovert and seldom at home while I am more family. This si the reason we separate....sigh

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發表於 09-10-20 12:55 |只看該作者

原帖由 Sadman07 於 09-10-20 12:35 發表

I see, so your son was 10 aleady when you are separated, does he miss his father, is he also happy

my daughter seems to be happy but as I am a man, may not know what she thinks, she meets her mothe ...

我個仔個個星期見爸爸架, 兩公婆點唔好, 都唔好影响小朋友law, 亦都咁講, 我c6知道我地要走之後, 可能有d後悔, 所以對個仔好左好多, 呢個係我樂於見到, 雖然問心, 我唔想阿仔同c6 get too close!咁我個仔係好識諗野嘅人, 所以佢對住我, 真係從來冇怨言過

! 所以, 我嘅問題會容易過你地好多law!

女仔係比較麻煩, 同埋始終8歲都仲細, 點解個女唔跟mama呀? 女仔跟mama會方便d呀!

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原帖由 shalala1997 於 09-10-20 12:13 發表

Yes, sure! I really enjoy my brand new life ar ! I have a 12-year-old boy and he is living with me now.

I see, so your son was 10 aleady when you are separated, does he miss his father, is he also happy

my daughter seems to be happy but as I am a man, may not know what she thinks, she meets her motherfrequently. She is eight la.

Any thinking about starting another relationship, any problem if not formally divorce..

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原帖由 Sadman07 於 09-10-20 08:41 發表

Hi, Shalala,

Then, do you enjoy your life now? Do you have children, together with you or him?

Yes, sure! I really enjoy my brand new life ar

! I have a 12-year-old boy and he is living with me now.

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原帖由 shalala1997 於 09-10-19 16:54 發表

我諗我個情況同你地唔係好同, 係我同c6中間係冇第三者, 分開左兩年, 大家仍然係冇第三者, 只係大家己經完全唔想同對方溝通, 所以先選擇放棄咋!

而且主動選擇放手, 果個係我呀, 所以我係一d都冇留戀架, 只係真係懶 ...

Hi, Shalala,

Then, do you enjoy your life now? Do you have children, together with you or him?

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原帖由 Mami_may 於 09-10-19 23:30 發表
shalala1997,

"c6仲肯照顧你同小朋友"
其實以前每人同我講這句話,我心裏都很反感的,因為覺得d人好似仲幫埋個c6敢,個心超激氣tim
但而家已經唔會lu ,就算比我即刻離到婚敢又點,佢咪一樣可以時時 ...

其實我唔係幫住你c6呀, 佢點都係衰佬一個, 有老婆同仔女仲攪攪震, 係要斬架

只係有時退一步咁諗, 根本你無法改變現狀, 起碼佢仲肯養你, 都叫做有d補償, 咁樣諗, 等自己唔好鑽哂牛角尖, 唔好一世人都係度恨同怨, 係對自己好呀

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回覆 1# shalala1997 的文章

shalala1997,

"c6仲肯照顧你同小朋友"
其實以前每人同我講這句話,我心裏都很反感的,因為覺得d人好似仲幫埋個c6敢,個心超激氣tim

但而家已經唔會lu

,就算比我即刻離到婚敢又點,佢咪一樣可以時時有權見兩個囡:-x
真係唔公平囉

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原帖由 Mami_may 於 09-10-19 17:55 發表
其實因性格不合而分開,我覺得係容易放得低過有第三者喔
起碼係妳唔滿意佢多d,而想分開
ge係自己囉.

所以有時放唔放得低, 係好睇邊個做主動law, 我成曰都覺得我已經係好幸運果個, 起碼我少左一份無奈呀!
但其實你又比起其他單親, 你又係幸運果個, 起碼你c6仲肯照顧你同小朋友, 咁你都煩少一樣---- 錢呀, 咁樣諗, 你心靈上會唔會好過d?
努力d, 為自己嘅將來打算, 加油

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原帖由 tobbie 於 09-10-19 19:33 發表
我想問一個問題,可以嗎??

我同男朋友一直都唔係一齊住,關係又唔係太好又唔係太差,我同佢冇正式簽紙,但有擺酒,佢咁耐以黎加加埋埋都係比左1萬左右我養個b,個b依家都11個半月,一個月都未必見到個爸爸2次.....

你地覺 ...

傻豬, 個bb得11個月大, １個月先見爸爸2次, bb點可能認得爸爸呀!唔認得係好正常law!

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我想問一個問題,可以嗎??

我同男朋友一直都唔係一齊住,關係又唔係太好又唔係太差,我同佢冇正式簽紙,但有擺酒,佢咁耐以黎加加埋埋都係比左1萬左右我養個b,個b依家都11個半月,一個月都未必見到個爸爸2次.....

你地覺得個bb知唔知邊個係佢爸爸?(bb同我都係同我屋企住,我屋企有我爸爸,有時都成日見我d男性朋友)

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回覆 1# shalala1997 的文章

其實因性格不合而分開,我覺得係容易放得低過有第三者喔

起碼係妳唔滿意佢多d,而想分開
ge係自己囉.

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原帖由 Mami_may 於 09-10-19 16:33 發表
me too.

仲有dd留戀,但再一齊又好難,亦只在想唔離婚有什麼壞處。
我都係的唔起心肝去攪,
對方亦都係冇提過要去攪手續!
(其實可以到這個地埗,都的唔起心肝去攪,為一原因是,哭已哭盡,痛亦痛盡,激也激盡,已接收了他有 ...

所以每次見到你地因為有第三者, 係被迫分開, 講真, 真係登你地難過, 亦明白你地係好無奈同傷心law

, 既然對方仲肯照顧你同小朋友, 咁手續嘅野......等對方開口先算la!

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